kuxokefo Posted August 14, 2014 Share Posted August 14, 2014 Hi guys, knew to this forum, A little about me, 6'4/193cm/212 lbs. I was a former promo-lad, now I am a full time dentist. I was recently offered a job in the states so I am moving there soon. I was born in NZ. Malaysian by ethnicity. I grew up as a bullied fat kid, but then I took up rowing and lost all my baby fat and have an athletic build. Needless to say I know nothing about USA but some of my friends have said there is a lot of negative stigma towards asian men. Is this true? As I am going to be there for over 2 years I would like to know a bit more about what western women think about dating/relationships with an asian guy? Link to post Share on other sites
Crila16 Posted August 14, 2014 Share Posted August 14, 2014 Love is love. That's all I know. I personally am more attracted to the white boys, but that's just my preference. Doesn't mean I wouldn't find an Asian guy attractive. It all depends on the guy. Link to post Share on other sites
aprilisi Posted August 14, 2014 Share Posted August 14, 2014 I'm a white girl in Virginia, USA. One of my first crushes was Bruce Lee when I was a little girl. I am 37. Also loved his son. And the guy that plays Ken in the Star Wolf movies. And The Prince of Space, yeah, I'm a nerd. Oh, and Brian Tochi, sure...he was in Revenge of the nerds. But I've seen him in other things and just damn.... We don't have many asians here. Had maybe five in my high school when I was there. Had one in my class but he never dated, and I never saw him again after graduation. Seen some good looking asian men when I'm in the city but they never glance my way. Yeah, I would love to find me an asian man Link to post Share on other sites
taiko Posted August 14, 2014 Share Posted August 14, 2014 You're a dentist with access to green, that is the color that matters. Being raised in New Zealand you should be culturally compatible. Don't self segregate yourself 1 Link to post Share on other sites
organizedchaos Posted August 14, 2014 Share Posted August 14, 2014 Hi guys, knew to this forum, A little about me, 6'4/193cm/212 lbs. I was a former promo-lad, now I am a full time dentist. I was recently offered a job in the states so I am moving there soon. I was born in NZ. Malaysian by ethnicity. I grew up as a bullied fat kid, but then I took up rowing and lost all my baby fat and have an athletic build. Needless to say I know nothing about USA but some of my friends have said there is a lot of negative stigma towards asian men. Is this true? As I am going to be there for over 2 years I would like to know a bit more about what western women think about dating/relationships with an asian guy? Are you questioning "western" women or "white" women? Because, you know, we have Asian women here too. As for white women, I've seen them with Asian guys but bot sure if that's what your asking. News flash, we have all ethnicities here and lots of Asian guys who are dating them. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted August 14, 2014 Share Posted August 14, 2014 What part of the US are you moving to? There are areas where Asian guys are a lot more acceptable and accepTED by white women than in other areas. I live in the Bay Area of San Francisco - HUGE Asian influx and inter-mixing. My first boyfriend was Japanese and Tagalog is the second most prevalent language in the state. You might not fare so well in other areas - say, Montara. Who knows. Link to post Share on other sites
Sunfire73 Posted August 14, 2014 Share Posted August 14, 2014 You shouldn't have a problem with your physical trait and career. The only stigma i know is with shorter Asian men, but with your height, i don't think you have any problems with that. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Sweetnothing Posted August 14, 2014 Share Posted August 14, 2014 I dated 2 Asian guys. It was no different than anyone else. You're pretty tall too and I know that I personally prefer very tall men and so do a lot of other girls. I wouldn't worry at all. You're fit and intelligent and have a good job. There will be plenty of women who will date you. Link to post Share on other sites
SYLLPalmer Posted August 14, 2014 Share Posted August 14, 2014 A singular perspective: I was born and raised in the North East in a small town in Pennsylvania. 99% White Irish and or Italian Roman Catholics. No variety what so ever. My mother loved the Japanese. Dated one when she lived in Hawaii. She and I would watch Shogun and bond when I was a kid. She informed me that Asians have "beautiful eyes" among other things. Guess what I think today? My favorite boyfriend and lover was Chinese and I had a recent giant crush on a Korean, still kinda do. When I shop for men in the OLD venue I always filter in "Asian". Now, I would be put off by a communication barrier but that is simply because I am a blatherskite and dialogue is critical to my romantic relationships. I gather you sound like the rest of the dudes from NZ and that would work for me. You are tall for a white dude. That makes you exotic as far as Asians go. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted August 14, 2014 Share Posted August 14, 2014 I can't recall if I've EVER met a 6'4" Malaysian.... Anyway there is no drastic culture shift for you (NZ culture is closer to the US than Malaysian culture is) so IMO you should be fine. Plus apparently some Americans find the Kiwi accent hot. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Smilecharmer Posted August 14, 2014 Share Posted August 14, 2014 I can't recall if I've EVER met a 6'4" Malaysian.... Anyway there is no drastic culture shift for you (NZ culture is closer to the US than Malaysian culture is) so IMO you should be fine. Plus apparently some Americans find the Kiwi accent hot. Kiwi accent is hot. Can we all say Karl Urban? Also, I don't know any women I know who wouldn't date someone because they are Asian. I've dated Korean, Japanese, And Malaysian. You will definitely have more options being tall and having a career. You will be fine. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SamuelSmith Posted August 14, 2014 Share Posted August 14, 2014 You shouldn't have a problem with your physical trait and career. The only stigma i know is with shorter Asian men, but with your height, i don't think you have any problems with that. What's considered shorter Asian men? Link to post Share on other sites
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