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If she legitimately is a coach (especially at the highschool level) then she definitely is really busy. Probably doesn't even get home until 7 or 8pm or perhaps even later during the week and on weekends she will be getting ready for next week's opponent. If you want someone who will make time for you dating someone who is a coach definitely isn't the best idea (at least during the time of year the season is going on). My brother is a coach and his kids joke that they basically never even see him during the football season.

Allow me to give an example. Someone flirts with him and it gets to me. I go quiet. He keeps asking what is wrong. I tell him he knows what is wrong and just let me deal with it. He tells me to snap out of it. I say I wish I could. I tell him I love him and to please just let me work through this. He keeps prodding. I DON"T want to fight so I grab my board and go surfing. I come home and I've calmed down. I am not fighting with him, I am not picking a fight, it's more fighting with myself to be a better person for myself and for him. He says he understands and is willing to work with me but still sometimes thinks I'm fighting with him. I don't know what it is but I wish whatever it is in my head wasn't broken because it's not fun for me either.

You don't have control over picking fights with him as a response to your jealousy? I don't buy that. My guess is that you don't pick fights with him in front of other people, for example. Do you?

Yes, she is unforunately not interested.

I'm confused as to why you wouldn't tell them your side right then and there, if they are calling you with the things your brother has been spreading. Why do you feel as though you need to wait until they ask you to tell your side? If someone called me like this, I would respond immediately and give my side of the story. I'm also confused as to why you haven't addressed this with your father. If your brother has been talking badly about you to your father, why shouldn't you talk to your father and tell your side? Staying quiet about it and letting your father hear your brother's side without your rebuttal doesn't make much sense.

If you asked her out and didn't get a response, that is your response. She's not interested.

I wish I did have control. It's easy to say. Not so easy to do. At least for me. But I am working on it, I know it's my issue.

I don't think that. I probably overreact too much but telling someone that you would turn around and check them out if you walked past them is flirting, you are telling them you think they're attractive. If it was that alone maybe it's okay but it was more than that. Look I know I react too easily at times but this example with the glasses was 100% her flirting. I get that I should feel good that she think my man is a bit of alright but I just get jealous. That's my struggle.

The woman at the optometrist was another customer, not the one serving my bf.

Yes, last October.

Met a woman on Hinge who I've known since September. We've met a couple of times on dates, and she has an extremely busy schedule between her full-time job and her two-part time coaching jobs with various school sports. Her communication is not great, most weeks I've heard from her once or twice at best. I asked her out again last week and didn't get a response yet. Should I move on?

My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. I just found out he cheated with a guy a year ago. I feel so betrayed because he slept with someone else. He also didn’t mention it. I hate it because now I just look like a stupid woman. I thought we would be together forever because the relationship has been amazing. I listened to a phone call with his therapist because I heard him getting emotional in the other room so I listened to what he told them and I overheard him say he slept with a guy around year ago and how he’s been holding onto that guilt. I know that’s wrong but I wanted to know what was going on. I can’t believe he doesn’t even care about me and I care about him more than anything. This makes me feel physically sick. I’m not sure how to confront him. I can’t believe he doesn’t love me after all we’ve been through. I feel like someone kicked me in the stomach. What should I do?

Unfortunately, when you date really attractive people there is always going to be extra attention and either you get on board with it or find someone that doesn't instill this much insecurity.

Sounds like a bunch of sexting to someone that isn't all that into it.

About what, exactly? What made you angry about his reaction? You definitely don't, if you're picking fights over this. And you will. People only put up with this sort of thing for so long before they get tired of the drama. It's also a real turn-off and will eventually kill his attraction to you. You might not have any control over your feelings, but you absolutely do have control over how you respond to them. It's your response (causing drama) that is eroding the relationship, which your boyfriend has already warned you about.

He’s controlling. That’s what’s going on. He has no regard for you. Glad you blocked him. Don't let the appeal of someone being attractive and interested in you make you throw your self-respect out the window.

It sounds like the writer has no clue how to actually interest and keep a man.

He's a pimp grooming new girls to work for him.

I’m a man and I think this message is off-putting and cringeworthy, bordering on disturbing. Yes, most men desire passion, but passion isn’t a product that you have to advertise in a crude, cliche-ridden way, hoping for someone to buy it. Don’t talk about how passionate you are, that’s a turn off. Simply be passionate. Show, don’t tell.

Ehhhh honestly sounds like one of those messages you see when you check the Spam folder in your email and immediately regret it...

Well done. From everything you described here it was probably the right decision. Just a word of advice (although you may be well aware already, I wasn't in the past): don't try and make any commitments to "staying friends" etc. It's a tempting olive branch to soften the blow of the split but it really only makes thinks more painful in the end, it's better to just consciously cut the chord completely. Best of luck with the recovery, be kind to yourself.

Probably someone who is really doing it for her in bed. But it sticks out to me that the message in OP is all about sex and sexual fantasy. IMO if a girl is leading with fulfilling sexual desires rather than anything emotional its a sign that she doesnt feel she's got much more to offer and there probably isn't much of a basis to the relationship apart from that. I'm going on the assumption they've already slept together a few times. Sure, both parties might really enjoy the sex initially but if there's nothing beyond that the relationship is going to fizzle once the novelty and excitement has worn off a bit, and getting more racy with him isn't going to change that.

I also don't understand the "humiliation" of having to wear a full school uniform. If I saw someone in full school uniform on a weekend, I'd assume they were a high achiever who was representing the school in an event. That's something to be proud of!

I would imagine that the motive is that he enjoys humiliating others.

I think the author sounds desperate. And like she has the potential to be a bunny boiler and has an inflated sense of self importance. And has a binary view of what a "real man" wants. And what is a "real man" anyway?