All Activity

Well, funny you should reply, because I text her this morning and she hasn't replied, it's been over 12 hours, I know what she had planned today and I do currently know what she is doing at the moment, so I'm going to drop her one last message and if she doesn't respond, I'll have my answer! Considering we were "casual" i think the whole ghosting thing is a bit uncalled for, there's no commitment there, not through lack of trying, so I don't understand it!

you didn't do anything wrong here. she didn't text you for those 2 whole days. you could just as easily pull the same blame on her that she "ghosted you" (which...ghosting is generally a person completely vanishing never to respond again, and not related to just not talking for a couple days and then talking again). and sorry to say...but whatever hangups she has or trust issues or blah blah that's her issue not yours. it isn't your place to cater to her and walk on eggshells, if she has such issues she could get therapy to help her, that's not your job. it's been 8 months,

ii didnt cheat, i thought she might be. she hadnt. i snooped on her and i told her. shes told me she loves me but not in love with me, maybe she will fall back in love with me, maybe she wont she doesnt know her feelings, i really hurt her. i feel as though she emotionally cheated on me and i have my reasons and i trust that she didnt phyiscally ever. i would never cheat ever. but i did snoop and would never again

I need a little help here understanding you. Did she cheat on you? I couldn't fully tell. Did you cheat on her? Or was the thing you feel bad about that you snooped on her? If you snooped, is the guilt you have that you snooped or that she discovered you?

OK, I have had to come here for advice. I'm pretty much on my lonesome in this wide world. I’m 45+, my wife is slightly younger, and we share 8 children and some grandchildren. We’ve been married for 15 years. We’ve had struggles throughout our relationship due to people and even family. My wife used to be very jealous and insecure with my female friends—and even women in general. She had four children before we met that i took on as my own, and we had four more children. We both had been out of destructive relationships for around two years. I was dealing with CBR (Cognitive Behavio

I am going to be blunt: First of all three months is a little fast to be making life plans that 100% hinge on somebody with whom you are in the earliest stages of a relationship. Obviously you didn't know her as well as you thought you did, so learn from that. She was not honest with you either. Of course you should not wait for her to get on with your life plans. I'm not saying block and ignore her - but if she's likely to be deported, she's out of your life in any case. And if she is not deported - honestly there is no real healthy reason why you should hitch your wagon to a p

So about 3 months ago I met this wonderful girl. I fell in love so quickly and we became official right away. She is caring , sweet, honest, beautiful, caring . All the good qualities you could think of, she had . Until one day she never came home . Turns out she had a car accident where she was drunk driving . She got arrested and now faces jail time minimum of 2 years plus most likely deportation . This is her 3rd offense which makes it a felony too. I was so sad because she said she stopped drinking since years ago . Now I don’t know what to do. I love her and I feel like I can’t live witho

"Blurred Lines: Navigating the Fine Line Between Friendship and Romance in Relationships" When exploring the dynamics of relationships, it's essential to recognize that the treatment within them plays a significant role in defining whether something is genuinely romantic or simply a platonic friendship. In many cases, a man might invest a great deal of emotional energy into a relationship, hoping it will turn into something more, while the woman may not acknowledge or return those feelings, often leading to confusion and feelings of being taken advantage of. When a woman gives a

Hey, just an update since this thread has become my personal journal for this whole ordeal at this stage; but I did reach out to her and exchanged a couple messages. Basically I explained that the ambiguity of the breakup was weighing me down and I really needed to get some closure on this with the reason why she wanted the breakup (Her own stuff going on versus her just not being into me). She did admit that in hindsight it was more just her not being into me, which while it hurts a little, it felt liberating for me to hear before I make some big life changes next month. In the comi

I'm not picking it apart, I'm just trying to understand the term myself, it's not something that was widely used when I started dating in general! Well, if it doesn't work out the way I want it to, then i will communicate with whoever is next, and if it does work out the way I want it to, then I will communicate with her. My gut feeling is, she wants out and was looking to make me the bad person for it, I'm used to playing the villain, so it'll be no different for me

Don't bother yourself into the picking apart the exact definition of ghosting. It's beside the point. The point is that she isn't your girlfriend. You are not in a relationship with her, so she is being ridiculous to have the expectation that you will write her everyday - especially when she'd been displaying obvious signs of waning interest on her part. That's good. So ask yourself, what will you do differently next time so you don't wind up in this situation yet again?

See that's what I thought, we're not together officially, so me not texting her wouldn't cause that much of an issue! As far as me ghosting her, I was understandably the impression that ghosting someone involved them reach out to you and you ignoring them, she didn't text me at all during the 2 days, so there was nothing to ignore, therefore, no ghosting? I could be wrong though! I've been in situations like this before and hung on for months, I wont do it again, I think I've Sunday rolls around and she is still undecided, I will decide for her!

Be single for a while. You have some unhealthy relationship habits too, and you moved too quickly into something new before you properly processed and healed from this dysfunctional mess. That much is evident given that fact that you are even giving your ex the time of day. Let go of the new woman. She deserves someone who hasn't still got on foot in his past. Then learn to be on your own so you can approach dating with a healthier mindset and real boundaries. You aren't there yet.

But you are also not her boyfriend. She can't it both ways. You are allowed to not text her for 2 days, for heaven's sake. She's being dramatic and again I suspect it's because she wants to put a stop to this without being the bad guy. No, not really. It's very typical. One person doesn't actually want to date the other, so they do the non-couple dance for a while until one meets someone else or otherwise loses interest. Nothing difficult about it, except for the person who isn't ready to face the truth (that they are never going to be a couple) and isn't ready to let go. That would

I don't see how you arrive at the conclusion that you're undateable. In this case, it sounds like the woman had issues and there were clear signs of that. You should have broken up with her and steered clear of her, but you didn't. So she ended up hurting you and toying with your feelings. Your big mistake here was not being undateable; it was failing to break up when you saw the trainwreck coming. That doesn't make you a failure. Rather, it means there's a few skills you need to learn. You have the right instincts. Now you need to learn how to trust your instincts, how to love and want t

I hired a contractor to repair my roof after seeing positive reviews on his professional looking Facebook page. As a retired engineer, I’m cautious with finances, so I carefully reviewed his online presence and estimate. He requested an upfront payment of $137,000, which I paid trusting his reputation. However, after the initial inspection, he disappeared, and my attempts to contact him went unanswered. The repairs were never completed, and I realized the reviews were misleading. I turned to CRYPTO RECOVERY CONSULTANT for help, and their expert team, led by CRYPTO RECOVERY CONSULTANT, quickly

It's not the only mainstream way. People still talk to friends and/r post on non-incel forums

Therapist suggested that too, waiting till September to get back on the dating scene

Well done, you're going through a lot and it helps no end to have someone to talk to and work through things with. I'd advise staying single quite a lot longer than 4 - 5 months. There's nothing wrong with being single, especially while you're building up self-esteem and learning to overcome anxiety. You already know that bad relationships actually give you anxiety and affect your self-esteem, so it can be self-defeating to try and mix self-improvement with relationships. The thing about men, (and women), who are toxic is that they're really good at homing in on people who will

Seen the therapist yesterday and have a couple issues with me to deal with to work on. One is an anxiety issue and the other is a self esteem

My lawyer says I am not liable for anything and have not posted names which he has advised me not to do that

Interestingly the term Incel came from a blogger in the 90s to describe her own feelings of loneliness as she figured out her sexual identity. It was borderline a noble support network for lonely souls before it was gradually warped into the 4chan school shooter idealogy. It's honestly a shame that the only mainstream way for online people to express growing feelings of alienation and trouble connecting with people is through a misognyistic nihilism.

Even though he confessed, until he is found guilty in a court of law you must not refer to him as having murdered someone and doing criminal acts (unless he was convicted of any of those). Otherwise you can be liable for libel. And given you post real names here you could easily be found out.

Disagree. Tell her nothing. Maintain what is known as "dignified silence". It speaks volumes.

ONECHIEFROCKA, you need stronger boundaries. When you and your ex break up and go no contact, it's not supposed to be easy for her to waltz back into your life, manipulate you into talking for days, and guilt-trip you. If you have not already blocked her, you need to block her everywhere. And you also need to avoid situations where you're bound to bump into her. If despite all your efforts, you end up bumping into her and she initiates conversation with you, you should gently rebuff her. It's not like she's holding a gun to your head and will kill you if you don't listen to her. You need