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I don't this relationship working out. You two don't seem to like each other that much. You are really over-reacting to his gaming, in my opinion, and unless you have sensory issues in other areas of your life you are choosing to make a mountain out of molehill. At the same time, he is not very sensitive or mindful. If I had to guess? If you were happier in general in the relationship, his gaming wouldn't be this much of annoyance to you. It reads to me like you are not happy or fulfilled and are at that point where were sometimes land in which the smaller annoying habits become bigger dealbreakers because we are not in love anymore. The point in which the way they blow their nose or eat their chips or scroll on their phones grates at the soul. That's usually how we know it's time to say goodbye.

I don't think you need to debate any of this stuff. You'll likely look and feel better from the procedure. I'd just get it done. Fingers crossed for you, and I hope you have a quick recovery.

I still find it strange. I’m a lifelong gamer, and I assure you that it is possible to play games in a much quieter way than he does. If he does realize how loud he is, you should tell him that. And being angry at you because he caused you anxiety with his noise is messed up. And another thing, Why do you need time to figure out where to go every time he plays video games? Why isn’t it the other way around - he adjusts his video game sessions to your schedule?

It doesn’t mean I have a bad one either

If I were in your shoes, I would end this relationship. Your partner isn't the most considerate person in the world. You could say he tries. But he sounds like a little kid who's doing a few nice things to please mummy so that he can go back to being the little boy who can just focus on enjoying himself. And you seem to lean a bit too much towards sacrificing your own comfort. Kind of like a mother. You'd be better off with someone who was as empathetic and considerate as you.

He has a rather unique way of expressing how he feels about you.

The advice was to leave her, which I tried ti avoid doing as I didn’t think the issues were as bad as they were.

That doesn't mean that women think you have a good attitude.

Look, OP. Energy drinks and cigarettes aren't great for your health. But guess what? You're an adult. You get to decide for yourself whether to quit and how. Nobody should be trying to force you to quit or to manipulate you into quitting. Quite frankly, I think you have greater odds of succeeding in quitting if the motivation comes from you than if you do it because you don't want to upset your boyfriend... Long story short, the way your boyfriend treated you wasn't right. It was disrespectful. I don't think your relationship is going to last very long because you have very different ideas of what a romantic relationship should look like. He seems to think love is an excuse for treating people like children and controlling them. You seem to believe in mutual respect and bodily autonomy.

If the dating process is depressing you're doing it wrong.

It doesn’t help to feel shame about the habits I had growing up that may have led to this. The most likely solution is a sliding genioplasty which actually addresses multiple issues, not just looks, but can fix a narrow airway and chin strain. I’ve never gotten any comment from women saying I have a bad attitude. If it was a problem, I wouldn’t have made a thread like this. Most likely people subconsciously avoid someone if they’re ugly but they don’t tell you why you’re not fitting in.

The two of you have attempted to work out an alternating schedule to use the living room so as to avoid one another due to your dislike of his childish games, and also to give you alone time in the living room so you both have much needed space. On the face of it, that's a good idea however there are multiple issues here but the biggest is that the schedule isn't leaving enough time for the elephant.

You are very confused.

That is correct. I'm in a connection with him and it is a good standing friendship, but his family are treating it as a relationship. I'm visiting him , we are not living together,, we have done in the past, in his flat, for more than 3 years, though since he moved home, most of the time is spent around his mum, while he is at work. I don't think either of us are attracted to each other, but the sex isn't there even when we are active.... the treatment is hospital related as I'm waiting on a general surgery op.

I don't understand your situation. You are not in a relationship with this man, yet you live together? What is the difference between a relationship and a "connection" in this context? Who isn't attracted to whom? What sort of treatment are you waiting on? I am going to gather that you two are (or were) sexually active - is that right?

Thank you for your thoughts and opinions. Yes, I understand it is odd that I don’t want to be home while he plays video games. We have tried many many times over the 2+ years we’ve lived together for both of us to be there and it just doesn’t work, especially if he is playing with friends. He doesn’t realize how loud he is when he plays and I can’t handle the outbursts of yelling. It sets me on edge and I the clicking of the keyboard/mouse drives me insane. I’ve tried a different kinds of “noise canceling” headphones but nothing blocks it out. I don’t feel comfortable at home when he plays I cannot find a way to relax. It makes me anxious the rest of the day and then he gets angry that I’m anxious and don’t want to hang out. Our solution we agreed to is that he would play when I’m not home, that way we can both be happy. I don’t mind if he wants to play, I just ask that he plans a little ahead to give me time to figure out something to do. I have no problem going out or to family/friend’s houses for a while. I’ve told him before I think it’s good that we have our own hobbies. I think it’s healthy.

I'm in a connection at the moment with the boyfriend. The mum is jealous, her health and mental health conditions, also overall unsettle me as I think she needs carers and help in. She has stepped back from burdening us with her issues and from being the fly on the wall/gooseberry, enroaching on our time with friends, except for the main BBQs, which is good. She understands that she needs to let us blossom and grow as a duo team to a couple. But at present, one moment I'm getting he wants to make it official eventually, but there are a lot of red tape hurdles to come across and in the next minute, I get words to this effect, but if i got rid of ya, the cat will miss you. We ended up getting two kittens to keep his mum company as she's now a widow. One of the kittens has bonded with her, one of the kittens has bonded with me. I will definitely miss her if I go. And I know she will be missing my absence, if I go because the bond is strong. Every time I leave, she cries to find out where I'm at. And will race in to greet me and check on me when I'm there too, at night as well, often if I leave. I know he has trust issues from the past and past and present hurts just the same as I do. Its the one good solid friendship for the last 3 years that I've had in my years and waking life, without the pressure on top of the initial word of connection. His best friend doesn't trust me. Nor I him, to the point of where I can throw him but I know he has a heart with good intentions. I've helped my boyfriend move in and out of his place, until his mum asked him to move back home, because rent was too expensive and we weren't saving to make enough ends meet. The feeling that we need a reprieve is strong but neither of us want to admit to it to break up the initial changes in our lives and make the initial changes needing to be made. He is fed up with his lifestyle at the moment and I think its because he needs his own space. He only gets that when he's at work. I do have a holiday coming up and a holiday being booked, but it doesn't change the fact that the situation will be the same when we get back from it. I haven't changed it into a relationship and I don't see it as a relationship, it is more of a connection, but i think his family are treating it as a relationship. Even his mum has pointed out we are good together but there's something missing. I think its communication and also, the fact he works full time from 6-4 during the day... our love in life with each other is consistent but the affection seems like one sided... also the attraction side of it has come to a complete halt because I'm waiting on treatment. I'm not sure if its fair to say if there's some heartache surrounding it, and it feels like our connection is dying. Seem to have come to a halt now, short of having a holiday or a reprieve or a break from each other, i don't know what else to do. I know he doesn't want the break as he told me to stop repeating about the having a break comment. Its just our situations that are awkward, I think and mine and his beliefs causing conflict as well. How would you restore a broken connection? Would you let it go its own course? Or would you continue to restore it/or is it worth having a break?

Most banks in the US will require anyone on the mortgage to be on the deed. I am guessing that's what she was really after.

"Today's diets" are not the issue. More likely, it is either genetic or you sucked your thumb as a child, which prevents the jaw from forming normally. In any case, if it really bothers you that much -- and if your attitude here is any indicator, I'd say your demeanor may have more to do with your lack of dating success than your jawline -- there are relatively simple surgeries that can correct it.

You’re only 30. I’m 50 and still in a relatively new relationship (3 years). Anything can happen. Try not to carry the negative attitude with you when you do go on dates.

I hope the automatic English-Russian translation that the OP is using will be able to adequately convey your patented sarcasm

If you're going to stay with this child get a good set of headphones and play music or a podcast while you're home to block out the juvenille stupity. In fact you can specifically listen to infomercials about how to choose better partners.

Stay with this guy. He's a controlling ass but some day he could be a Major League ballplayer.

There is no way this is a factual statement. If it is your ex was a fool. But you wrote it twice on this thread which makes me think it is. WTF was she thinking

You're a doctor and presumable earning good money so I'm not understanding why you're struggling financially and can't live in a decent place. As to your dating and relationship failures and frustrations, why do you think so many others have enjoyed success and you haven't? Find the reasons and work on eliminating them.