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I know the feeling. As other people have said, you did the right thing. Breakups tend to be extremely painful. But a painful surgery (followed by a painful recovery process) is preferable to living with an incurable, lethal disease. Try to focus on the selfless aspect of what you did. She deserves a chance at being with someone who is madly in love with her. You, too, deserve a chance at having great passion. I met the woman of my dreams at the age of 47. I’ve been in love before, or at least I thought so at the time. Wherever love was lacking, nothing could help. I regret a lot of things, but not those multiple painful breakups themselves. They have led me where I am now, experiencing something I thought was not possible.

Glad I'm not the only one wondering about this.

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If her husband is comfortable, and she’s not harming anyone, then it’s not automatically a problem inside their marriage. Otherwise, she just seems like a woman with a very active imagination and a strong libido, which isn’t unusual, it’s just more visible in her than in most people. If that led her to cheat…that’s on her. Having strong desires isn’t the issue then, choosing to cross a boundary again would be. Making those comments when you're married is disrespectful to the relationship if it crosses the line from harmless noticing into something that shows blatant disregard for her husband. You also mentioned it's her husband in one sentence and her boyfriend in another, which is it?

Please write in here when and if you find a person who you really want to marry.

Her detention could have been a lot worse. Your daughter sounds rebellious…and honestly, that’s not unusual for a 15‑year‑old. At that age they’re testing boundaries, pushing limits, and assuming parents will cushion the consequences. From everything you’ve described, you’re handling this in a way that’s firm, fair, and consistent. You didn’t punish her out of anger; you simply refused to shield her from a consequence she knowingly created. That’s good parenting. If you had written a fake excuse, you’d be teaching her that rules only matter when they’re convenient, and that you’ll always step in to fix things for her. That’s a lesson that comes back to bite later.

Perhaps wearing uniform on a weekend is "harsh" from a child's perspective. It depends on what it implies in their context.

Mine did multiple times. I’m carrying his baby again. She finds out then he’s on a dog leash for a while. As soon as she drop her grand he’s back in my bed.

If so how many? I’m pregnant with my 4th child to my married lover. We have been on and off for 12 years. Does your MN see your kid/kids?

Wearing a uniform and writing and reflecting on how she got into trouble is NOT harsh punishment. Not even close. I am confused that you think wearing a uniform on a Saturday is harsh punishment. Not ... even ... close ... to being "harsh." Not on the same planet, not the same universe as "harsh."

Thank you. It’s been hard. The thought of her moving her stuff out of the apartment and being in pain makes me feel a pain I’ve never felt before. Can’t even describe it

If you call someone a narcissist, of course they aren't going to pick up the phone! And then you doubled down and kept calling her

I glanced through your post and thought that you were the controlling boyfriend, BEFORE I read the comments and found out that you are apparently her friend. Just... what??? This is not your problem. You're not her psychologist. If it bothers you that much, stop being friends with her. That's all you can do. Judging someone for reading romance novels is a new low, though, so I suspect that she's not going to miss your friendship much.

Okay, so this is like the third time you're describing her school outfit in great detail from head to toe. And the second time you've repeated that you're going to make her walk around shops in this uniform... I don't understand why you're so fixated on letting us know what exactly she's going to wear to school, and telling us that you're going to be parading her around in it. And honestly? This fixation is kinda giving me the creeps. Are you SURE you're a mom?

You did the right thing! Kudos to you, and all the best for your recovery. It'll feel awful for a while, but the negative emotions are only temporary, while you've made both of your futures better and brighter. You should be proud of yourself.

What would be the point of this? I'm startingn to get the sense that you're now trying to over-compensate for not having the courage to stand the ground with her in the past. Over-doing it in the manner described above is going to make things worse and won't help her respect your authority as a parent.

mail the frying pan to her house. that way you don't have to respond to her. and block her number.

i have had a massive row with my daughter this evening she wont leave off about me getting her out of her saturday detention, so now i have taken your advie and imposed my own punishment, i have told her i will be picking her up from her satuday detention, then i am going to take her shopping in her school uniform , when she gets home she will be confined to her room for the rest of the weekend, my daughter says she will sneak out of her room, so i said if necerssary i will lock her in her room ?

Attempts to diagnose your friend are misplaced. If you find her that annoying, spend less time with her, and focus on finding more secure people with whom to surround yourself. Secure people tend to gossip less and inspire others more through their own productivity, talents, and exploration of creative things. Finding fault with others doesn't tend to be on their radar.

I second this. I'd tell her the subject is closed, and if she raises it with me again, I'll tack on my own punishment, like taking her phone away. I'd reflect on why daughter has gained the notion that lying is okay, and that I'd be willing to do it for her. It sounds like she has learned how to manipulate you, and you've modeled for her that it's easy. Maybe it's been easier for you to give into it rather than buckle down and teach her that she can't always get what she wants? I'd make it my goal to teach her that lying and manipulating are serious character flaws that will harm her in the real world. I would NOT do this merely by speaking about it, I would make it my resolution to model it and enforce it for her as well.

Your grief is natural, and my heart goes out to you both. You did the right thing.

Well I did it. Feeling all sorts of emotions right now, everything from regret, relief, sadness, and loneliness. We both cried our eyes out and talked for quite a while. She handled it pretty maturely and honestly better than I expected, we both reflected on the great times we had and how much we both cared for each other. I explained, it’s not fair to her and I can’t continue to be in the relationships if my hearts not fully in it, she deserves someone who is undoubtedly certain about wanting to marry her and start a life together.

, i have told my daughter that she MUST and WILL be serving her saturday detention this saturday, and she will not be attending the theme park party, i have told her its her own fault she is being punished, you cannot just miss a detention for no reason and expect to escape punishment, what is making things worse is my other 2 daughters are also invited to the party this saturday and they are obviously teasing her about her saturday detention and winding her up about how cool the party will be, this is of course making things difficult , i have also told my daughter i may impose my own punishment, i have a good mind to pick her up from her saturday detention and walk her around the shops in her school uniform , she wont like that that ?

Has she asked for "help" from you for this supposed "problem"? If not, then it sounds like you need to mind your business and stop trying to psycho-analyze your friend. If her flirtatious nature bothers you so much then maybe pull back from the friendship. It's not your place to change your friends or judge their behavior.

i dont know really everyone on this site supports me, i have told my daughter that she MUST and WILL be serving her saturday detention this saturday, and she will not be attending the theme park party, i have told her its her own fault she is being punished, you cannot just miss a detention for no reason and expect to escape punishment, what is making things worse is my other 2 daughters are also invited to the party this saturday and they are obviously teasing her about her saturday detention and winding her up about how cool the party will be, this is of course making things difficult ?