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Have you ever actually met him?

So basically she's acting engaged and interested in every way, and the only thing is that she blocked you on Whatsapp. I would ask her about it and play dumb, the next time you're with her in person just very casually say something like "Hey Whatsapp doesn't seem to be working properly, I don't see you on there." Just pretend that you think it's a glitch. And see what she says.

When l want to keep something private l don't bring it to work. If you wear a cologne of course people will ask what it is. You refusing to name the cologne is a need for attention. I envy you if this is your biggest problem in life.

What your parents think about this? Young women, and l would not call you a young woman, you're still a teenager, young women like older men because they are confident & have more money and 18 yo are naive and impressionable. On the other hand, a 38 yo man looking to date an 18 yo has some serious issues. These men usually lack maturity, can't sustain a relationship with women their own age because 38 yo women are less easy to manipulate. At your age you should be discovering and experiencing life together with a boyfriend your age. You should not be groomed to the liking of a man 20 years older who's already expetienced everything.

What kind of inconsistances are we talking about? He waited days to reply or he replied on same day but not as fast as you wished?

I get the sentiment, I am just confused. I realized it isn’t hard meeting people, but meeting the right person. I do believe things are a waste of time, I don’t believe ‘everything happens for a reason’. I question myself, am I doing what is best for me? Is temporary pleasure worth it? Forget the kids talk, the relationship was good until I mentioned it. Then it seemed like it actually caused more issues than not. My big issue is I’m tired of superficial stuff. When I was younger my aim on dating apps was just to get out there, meet women, and it’s a ‘numbers game’. Now, as with anyone, I see life isn’t a game and you don’t have unlimited time. I’m not talking about rushing, but about focusing. Last year, I got into numerous ‘situationships’ there wasn’t a steady base and I didn’t know much about these people. It ended up intimate but with no actual deep connection. I would rather not have had those situations, because they weren’t dressed as casual relationships. One of them wanted to be bf/gf after 3 dates, then shortly after had a breakdown and didn’t speak to me for two days then said she wasn’t ready for anything . Another imitated sex twice in our only 3 dates and then said we don’t have the connection she was hoping for. These were both people around my age. What I’m trying to say is I don’t know what people want from me and how to get what I want, but ensuring they want the same thing. For example, when I was on dating app last year, many women with kids in their 40s wanted to date me. I think, what do they actually want from me. With my current partner, again, I question her motives, because there are contradictions. I am a laidback person and conversations of kids and marriage etc I thought these things would come up naturally years into a relationship. However, as I’ve said, even though I’m 32, if I plan on dating people my age, kids isn’t a topic to hold on to for a long time. Becomes critical after 36 etc.

Because it was my house and my money, so her opinion on what house I should buy is invalid (this is response to the question about my ex). I never said to her I struggled with money, and people with a lot less money have kids, so didn’t make sense. Anyway, she didn’t want kids and I never mentioned kids to her, she made those comments to make sure it never came up. I now will never date someone who doesn’t want kids as it wouldn’t work. In terms of my current situation, she is now saying she is ‘okay to go at my pace’ and take things day by day. Not sure how genuine it is. But

I'm inclined to agree with the others, but I think it's best to first ask what your relationship history was prior to the period you describe. Have you had any long-term relationship(s)? Why did your previous relationship(s) end?

Same here. I thought my life would basically be over once I graduated from college, lol! I also didn't really appreciate all the good things that youth brings. There are some crappy things about being young, of course -- but you also have so much energy, you barely have to think about your health, you have your entire life ahead of you to shape as you wish, and you'll have so many opportunities.

I agree. I dont' thimk it was the right relationship for you, OP. Your gut was trying to tell you that and I don' t think it was all down to anxiety about other friends finding out. I think you knew even back then that it wasn't a great match and you were anxious about hurting her. I would strongly advise you to leave her alone now and not message her. It is very unlikely to go well anyway.

I wouldn’t date a woman who plays such mind games. Also, trying to change someone’s texting habits is a bad idea. Either you learn to accept it as insignificant, or just walk away.

I stopped reading after this.

Now, we know that women are never happy, and will always have one need after another, but there are some things which are still not clear.. Your thinking falls apart right here.

Sorry but nobody owes it to you to be hanging on your texts at the beginning of dating. If you dont feel a good energy you can stop talking to him but complaining hes not answering quickly enough is OTT and off putting for most guys.

Blackpill is basically a philosophy that you're screwed, in dating, jobs, etc etc. There's no doubt life isnt as easy for the young as it was in the 80s and 90s, but laying down and dying isnt a great option. I wish I knew how much time I really had when I was 20, I remember I already thought I was "getting old". Take it from a guy whos in his 30s, I dont think of myself as particularly old any more but you are really really young. Thats something to enjoy and use to your advantage. You have huge amounts of energy and potential ahead of you. Its not worth giving a damn about what you haven't achieved yet because youre basically still a baby in the course of life.

Oh dear lord. I don't know what blackpill is, but I suspect I don't really want to know. There's nothing at all wrong with going to trade school, in the current economy some trades are way more marketable than some degrees. You're really young and living in a small town is obviously going to limit your options and hold you back. If you go to trade school in a bigger city, you'll probably meet young women naturally.

There are several possible reasons, including the fact that some people are genuinely messed up... But that doesn't really matter. The reasons don't matter, only that he did this. I promise you that in the future, you'll be glad that you found this out before you moved. It may not feel that way now but I promise you that you will. Are you still interested in doing grad school? Maybe in some other country? What are your plans for your career? Do your have friends whom you can talk to any this? It's good that you're talking to a therapist! All the best for the road ahead.

Is this the woman whom you were posting about in that other thread? You know... just because "you like to understand how relationships work and think you can learn from other relationships"? I think you're a bit obsessed with her. You do this whole pseudo-intellectual thing in your posts where you think you're analyzing men and women and other relationships and stuff like that, but really I feel like that's just a cover for the emotional feelings you are experiencing and that you don't know how to deal with. I'm concerned that she feels the need to block you on social media -- it hints at the fact that you might be in your own dream world about her and are misinterpreting everything that she does. Do you have a therapist? Can you talk to your therapist about this?

Uh, what on earth did I just read? Do you really think that only people with vaginas have needs, or change their minds about their partners from time to time, or have on-and-off relationships? You think men don't have any needs, don't go through phases in life, and don't ever play games? Do you live on planet Earth or somewhere else?

Shes there at different times/days too. So in this case I can only focus on what I can control. Serenity now lol

Yes, you have the same routines. I also go to the gym on specific times/days

You are seeing the relationship through rose-colored glasses. If the relationship was so great, you wouldn't have felt the way you describe above, and you wouldn't have broken up with her. That's not something that someone does when they are truly into a relationship. You definitely should not contact her. She is dating someone else, and it would be very disrespectful of you to mess with her life yet again, throwing a wrench into her current relationship. She is moving on and you shouldn't try to pull her back in just because you can't make up your mind. Let's say you did end up dating her again..... the path that you went down the first time, doubting the relationship, losing interest and breaking up, would almost certainly play out all over again. Because those were your true feelings. If you were so compatible with her, you wouldn't have broken up the first time.

Ok so if this woman is not your friend, then why does any of this matter? If she is being hot and cold, playing games with you, then don't participate in the games. Stop trying to look at her social media. Just leave it alone. No it's actually not important for you to understand why she does what she does. We are not inside other people's minds and we will never know exactly why people do everything that they do. You'll probably never know. Your time would be better spent focusing on something else. If she sees that you are not giving her the attention that she wants, she'll probably move on.

I guess it comes down to intention. For all we know, she could be asking for your friend who wants to surprise you with a gift for christmas Does she even know you wanted the aftershave gatekeeped? If she told your friend, it might not have been that big of a deal to her as it is to you..

i would focus more on the actual things that are happening like her not responding to messages and blocking your access on social media instead of madeup stories of how she's staring longingly in your direction when you aren't looking. people have no clue what other people are looking at, she could be staring at the wall behind you, so "staring" is not a viable action or sign to be following.