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Get to know all 3 of them over time. Once you feel more relaxed around one another, you won't feel like you're under a microscope. Then you can ask to speak with her out of range of the other two without it being a big deal. Getting to know as many classmates as possible is always an advantage. Don't wait until you have an agenda to be more social in general. It makes everything easier.

I think a focus on making someone into a villain will surely get you your villain.

Watch the actions, not the lips. Talk is cheap. If he doesn't back up what he 'says' with actions, then he's full of BS.

So glad to hear this. Lots of times nasty people will hang themselves if you leave them alone and let them use enough of their own rope. Congrats!

I wouldn't go down this route. It sounds like the mindset that doesn't accept that 'no' means 'no'.

Not all people are mature and not all people are "normal". Some people use tricks to trap other people. I'm not encouraging it, I'm just trying to give an explanation as to why the OP's GF behaved like this.

As a matter of fact I did wait and my boss did call me and offered me the closer position 36 hours a week. I am so happy! Thanks to everyone here who took the time to write to me!!

At 24 years old, you are planning to spend the rest of your life with this person when the sex life has already died out? You two don't sound compatible. If there is no sex life, then you are just friends. You are very young and have your whole life ahead of you. There are many other great people out there who you may be able to have a much more fulfilling relationship with. This possible solution of opening up the relationship doesn't sound like something you're entirely comfortable with, and the idea came from her, not you. It doesn't sound like something you even want to do. Why not just look for someone who you could have a healthy, normal relationship with, rather than try to force this to work. If you were a middle-aged married couple, that would be one thing, but you are 24 years old for goodness sake. This is really kind of insane.

I’ve never met a woman like that, never heard of one either. If this is really the type of women that is attracted to you and that you’re attracted to, I advise you to try and figure out why you’re unable to work out a relationship with a normal, mature person.

You can't process a claim unless and until you are laid off. Filing a claim prematurely will prompt the UIS will send your employer a request to confirm termination, and it wouldn't be a good look for your employer to receive that without having fired you. Pipe down, go to your next scheduled workday and play it through. Maybe you'll get a call from them offering you more hours.

You need to trust your gut on this one. You are seeing multiple signs that this guy isn't serious about you, he isn't interested in properly dating you, only keeping it super casual and keeping his options open. Stop wasting your time with this guy.

He can't "use" you without your participation. You are seeing he doesn't have much interest in dating you. If he did, well, you'd be going on dates. However, it sounds as though that isn't happening. It is up to you to draw your own boundaries and not see or sleep with him anymore if this arrangement isn't working for you.

I’m a 37F and have been causally seeing 52M for a few months. He texts often but sometimes it dwindles. I know I shouldn’t care but I notice he adds a lot of women on his social media, some local to us, some from where he’s originally from. I ask him if anything is going on with any of these other women and he tells me they’re only friends. I have told him if he sleeps with these women he needs to tell me as I don’t want to be used. He keeps saying we’ll go for meals or days out etc but so far it hasn’t happened. I think deep down I know I need to stop seeing him as I’m starting to feel jealous when he adds women on his social media and I don’t want to feel like that. He tells me he likes me a lot and wants to keep seeing me. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

OP, to be honest, the only ways for you to change the outcome would have been to avoid dating her in the first place or to end the relationship yourself. In my experience (and in my observation), when people say all of the above things, they will eventually break up with you. When someone tells you, "I don't deserve you," "I'm not good enough to be with you," or "You deserve better," you'd better believe them. Because that is their truth and they will ultimately move heaven and earth to make it real. Don't waste your energy reassuring them or trying to prove to them that they're worthy. Just quietly end things. They shouldn't be dating anybody. They should be dealing with their low self-esteem instead.

Hi everyone today my co-worker the only one who says hello to me. Told me that 3 people got fired last night. I was preparing papers to go apply for unemployment. Because I am scheduled again to work only 4 hours so my check will be 54.00. For the past two weeks and the next. My co-worker said to hold off until Monday in case she needs me now more then ever. Am I crazy to think they handled the situation. Or should I go ahead and go to unemployment

I feel like this is the concerning part, not that his underwear was off. I wouldn't be happy if someone threw a fit and "assumed I changed my mind" when I'd said no a few times already. That being said, it sounds like he did stop after that, you two had a talk about this later when sober, he apologized, and said he wouldn't do it again. In your place, I'd work out a plan to prevent this from happening again, and then let bygones be bygones. If it does happen again then it warrants a much more serious response.

I think maybe OP's point is that he feels weird asking her something like that with her two friends staring at him and his attempt to ask her out on a date

This is not some random guy you picked up in a pub, he's your partner, and given your drunk state and the fact that you were making out it wasn't unreasonable of him to hope you'd change your mind and he might get lucky. Why does it matter if he took his undies off? You still said no and he didn't force the issue, so I think you're being a bit precious and way over-reacting. It's not unreasonable of someone to think their partner might warm up to the idea of sex if they're happy to make out.

This is not some guy you picked up in a pub, he's your partner, and given your drunk state and the fact that you were making out it wasn't unreasonable of him to hope you'd change your mind and he might get lucky. Why does it matter if he took his undies off? You still said no and he didn't force the issue, so I think you're being a bit precious and way over-reacting. It's not unreasonable of someone to think their partner might warm up to the idea of sex if they're happy to make out.

Are there any other females whom work for female bosses and that boss bullies you and treats you differently?

I'm really confused as to how this got to be the huge issue that it was. You are saying that you thought he was capable of rape and you were scared of him? Where on earth is that coming from? All you say is that his underwear was off. That's it. Not that he did anything whatsoever. Just that you noticed his underwear was off. It sounds like you are overreacting to the extreme and being really irrational.

Think of something that just the two of you could do. Then ask her if she would be interested.

There's a girl in my (19M) class that I'm interested in. However, she's always with two other girls. How do I ask her out in this scenario? Should I just go up to them, introduce myself and make small talk. Then ask to pull her aside where I ask her out to coffee or something? We haven't talked besides me complimenting her hair.

That may well be true, but I think it's equally possible that she was testing to see if he was ok with it, in which case she could flip the script from "he's perfect" to "he's bad/a cheater". Often people who will put you on a pedestal feel the immense pressure of that and a kind of automatic response is to try and tear you off it, to the point that they can end up treating you like you're the great person on planet earth one minute and the absolute worst a couple of hours later. This is always the issue with someone quickly idealising you. It's a fantastic ego boost but the extreme high is unsustainable and soon gets mixed in with extreme lows, and then when things start to slide the one being idealised often starts to wonder what's happened and scambling to "fix" things.

Nah, this relationship is toast. If you really believe your boyfriend was capable of sexually assualting you, you need to just end it. It won't get better. Stop accepting his gifts and money. And honestly? I would ask yourself why you're blowing this all the way out of proportion. I am a woman too, and I think your reaction to all of this is way over the top and indicative of some serious underlying issues within you.