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Hi. Every Saturday i head to a local mall to see if it can meet someone for the purposes of dating or at least making friends. I've been doing so for a long time, but recently over the last week or two plundered the prospect of one recording his or her own voice as a means of practicing introducing oneself. I wanted to know if anyone could point me in the right direction since ones own voice plays a massive role in his or her personality. Not just introducing oneself. Infact getting in the habit of adapting a new common voice tone should influence ones of personality i guess.

Why did you find her getting undressed disturbing?

Exactly

How is your relationship with them now? I’m glad you’re working on your weight loss

Wild!

I’ll be posting how my journey goes on this..

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Thank you! I feel somehow relieved a bit

I am trying! thanks for the advice tho..

I don't this relationship working out. You two don't seem to like each other that much. You are really over-reacting to his gaming, in my opinion, and unless you have sensory issues in other areas of your life you are choosing to make a mountain out of molehill. At the same time, he is not very sensitive or mindful. If I had to guess? If you were happier in general in the relationship, his gaming wouldn't be this much of annoyance to you. It reads to me like you are not happy or fulfilled and are at that point where were sometimes land in which the smaller annoying habits become bigger dealbreakers because we are not in love anymore. The point in which the way they blow their nose or eat their chips or scroll on their phones grates at the soul. That's usually how we know it's time to say goodbye.

I don't think you need to debate any of this stuff. You'll likely look and feel better from the procedure. I'd just get it done. Fingers crossed for you, and I hope you have a quick recovery.

I still find it strange. I’m a lifelong gamer, and I assure you that it is possible to play games in a much quieter way than he does. If he does realize how loud he is, you should tell him that. And being angry at you because he caused you anxiety with his noise is messed up. And another thing, Why do you need time to figure out where to go every time he plays video games? Why isn’t it the other way around - he adjusts his video game sessions to your schedule?

It doesn’t mean I have a bad one either

If I were in your shoes, I would end this relationship. Your partner isn't the most considerate person in the world. You could say he tries. But he sounds like a little kid who's doing a few nice things to please mummy so that he can go back to being the little boy who can just focus on enjoying himself. And you seem to lean a bit too much towards sacrificing your own comfort. Kind of like a mother. You'd be better off with someone who was as empathetic and considerate as you.

He has a rather unique way of expressing how he feels about you.

The advice was to leave her, which I tried ti avoid doing as I didn’t think the issues were as bad as they were.

That doesn't mean that women think you have a good attitude.

Look, OP. Energy drinks and cigarettes aren't great for your health. But guess what? You're an adult. You get to decide for yourself whether to quit and how. Nobody should be trying to force you to quit or to manipulate you into quitting. Quite frankly, I think you have greater odds of succeeding in quitting if the motivation comes from you than if you do it because you don't want to upset your boyfriend... Long story short, the way your boyfriend treated you wasn't right. It was disrespectful. I don't think your relationship is going to last very long because you have very different ideas of what a romantic relationship should look like. He seems to think love is an excuse for treating people like children and controlling them. You seem to believe in mutual respect and bodily autonomy.

If the dating process is depressing you're doing it wrong.

It doesn’t help to feel shame about the habits I had growing up that may have led to this. The most likely solution is a sliding genioplasty which actually addresses multiple issues, not just looks, but can fix a narrow airway and chin strain. I’ve never gotten any comment from women saying I have a bad attitude. If it was a problem, I wouldn’t have made a thread like this. Most likely people subconsciously avoid someone if they’re ugly but they don’t tell you why you’re not fitting in.

The two of you have attempted to work out an alternating schedule to use the living room so as to avoid one another due to your dislike of his childish games, and also to give you alone time in the living room so you both have much needed space. On the face of it, that's a good idea however there are multiple issues here but the biggest is that the schedule isn't leaving enough time for the elephant.

You are very confused.

That is correct. I'm in a connection with him and it is a good standing friendship, but his family are treating it as a relationship. I'm visiting him , we are not living together,, we have done in the past, in his flat, for more than 3 years, though since he moved home, most of the time is spent around his mum, while he is at work. I don't think either of us are attracted to each other, but the sex isn't there even when we are active.... the treatment is hospital related as I'm waiting on a general surgery op.

I don't understand your situation. You are not in a relationship with this man, yet you live together? What is the difference between a relationship and a "connection" in this context? Who isn't attracted to whom? What sort of treatment are you waiting on? I am going to gather that you two are (or were) sexually active - is that right?

Thank you for your thoughts and opinions. Yes, I understand it is odd that I don’t want to be home while he plays video games. We have tried many many times over the 2+ years we’ve lived together for both of us to be there and it just doesn’t work, especially if he is playing with friends. He doesn’t realize how loud he is when he plays and I can’t handle the outbursts of yelling. It sets me on edge and I the clicking of the keyboard/mouse drives me insane. I’ve tried a different kinds of “noise canceling” headphones but nothing blocks it out. I don’t feel comfortable at home when he plays I cannot find a way to relax. It makes me anxious the rest of the day and then he gets angry that I’m anxious and don’t want to hang out. Our solution we agreed to is that he would play when I’m not home, that way we can both be happy. I don’t mind if he wants to play, I just ask that he plans a little ahead to give me time to figure out something to do. I have no problem going out or to family/friend’s houses for a while. I’ve told him before I think it’s good that we have our own hobbies. I think it’s healthy.