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  2. Carlston

    My BF multi-dated in the beginning. Was I truly “the one”?

    Op please ignore this stupid bitter comment.
  3. Today
  4. Gaeta

    My BF multi-dated in the beginning. Was I truly “the one”?

    I beleive this goes against the rules of this forum. You are entitled to your opinion, I am entitled to mine, others to theirs.
  5. Gebidozo

    My BF multi-dated in the beginning. Was I truly “the one”?

    Was she rejected by another man she liked while dating you and then settled for you when she couldn’t get him? Because this is what happened to the OP. She has valid concerns about being a second choice because the first choice was out of reach. Are you unable to understand the difference between dating different people one after the other, eventually choosing the one you like most, and dating one person while wanting another one?
  6. IrishDU

    My BF multi-dated in the beginning. Was I truly “the one”?

    OP, PLEASE ignore all these stupid, bitter, comments. I don't know why these people want to keep insulting you, calling you a "consolation prize" At this point, we are ALL "2nd choices." It doesn't even make sense to think in such terms. I dated as a young man, then I was married for a long time and raised a family, then was divorced for many years, dated again, and finally met the most amazing incredible lady. Should she have rejected me because I wasn't her "1st Choice"? The idea is farcical. Ironically this also means that I'm not saying he's necessarily the one for you. All I'm saying is that you need to judge him on what you have now, not on how you came to be togther.
  7. IrishDU

    My BF multi-dated in the beginning. Was I truly “the one”?

    Wow, you are just unhinged Thats exactly what you're implying So what? You ARE talking about his past, this all happened TWO years ago Umm ok, "sure", whatever "you" "reckon" Right yes, "obviously" that is a "huge" distinction And? It's all ancient history?
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  9. Gaeta

    My BF multi-dated in the beginning. Was I truly “the one”?

    Personally I would not have gone on a date with a man so recently single. Not only single from dating someone but single from living with someone. He was all over the place because he was on the rebound. He had a need to fill the void....and he wanted Hannah. You ended up being the consolation price. Now, all that being said, it does not mean he did not fall in love with you over time. Assess what you have today and judge if it's worth building on. How is the relationship escalating? Are you talking about living together? About marrying? Having children? After 2 years dating, at your age, these questions should be addressed.
  10. ExpatInItaly

    Sudden and unexpected breakup

    Do you think he saw your first break-up coming? I wonder if that hindered his ability to really let his guard down with you thereafter. Those sort of breaks/break-ups can change how we see someone and affect our feelings for them.
  11. toujoursycroire

    My BF multi-dated in the beginning. Was I truly “the one”?

    he was single for 3,5 months - after a 2-year relationship, they lived together for 1,5 years. He got on the dating apps a month after the break up
  12. Gebidozo

    My BF multi-dated in the beginning. Was I truly “the one”?

    Absolutely no one said anything like that in this thread. We said than Hannah clearly was his first choice and he settled for OP only because Hannah rejected him. What? Nobody is talking about his past. He had a crush on Hannah while dating the OP. Err… You are putting “really liked” in quotation mark, which exactly proves @introverted1’s point. She was talking about really liking someone, not “really liking”. Again, that happened while he was dating the OP and telling her he had feelings for her.
  13. ExpatInItaly

    My BF multi-dated in the beginning. Was I truly “the one”?

    Nobody suggested that. Perhaps read the thread more carefully.
  14. If you don't want to be the pursuer then move on. If you text him he may say yes to a second date but you'll still find yourself in the role of the pursuer after that. The ocean is full of fish, find one that wants to date you and is able to express it.
  15. No offence, but you both sound like you're 15 years old
  16. Guest

    What do I say to this...

    To be honest, this just sounds like a vent/rant You sound just like my ex, who was psychotic and had BPD, right down to the lies she used to tell. If he is anywhere near as bad as you claim, then LEAVE. You SHOULD have left years ago.
  17. Gaeta

    My BF multi-dated in the beginning. Was I truly “the one”?

    How long had he been single at that time?
  18. IrishDU

    Sudden and unexpected breakup

    Sorry, that sucks.
  19. Honestly, at your age, and after dating for 6 months, it's time to s*** or get off the pot. You SHOULD be able to have mature adult conversations about such things. Her saying "yes I want kids" isn't an iron-clad contract to immediately begin procreating. If SHE can't understand that, then she really needs to grow up. If you try to have such a conversation, and her attitude remains apparently ambivalent, then what she's really saying is "I don't want to have kids (with you), but I also don't want to be alone right now." Make of that what you will.
  20. IrishDU

    Update

    At the risk of pointing out the obvious, this is obviously a very tumultuous time for you, so take your time to think everything through. You say that you're living with the guy, sleeping with him, and enjoying. So there's nothing wrong with that. The guy wants to step up, be a Dad, and provide for his kid, and that's a good thing. You say he wants to formalise it, so maybe check with a family law clinic about the laws in your state and country. But as a general rule, if you're married, and he eventually leaves you a widow then you would stand to inherit and you would be provided for.
  21. IrishDU

    My BF multi-dated in the beginning. Was I truly “the one”?

    LOL There is some really BAD advice on this thread WHAT exactly are you people suggesting?? That there's only one match for us, in the entire world, and we can't even talk to another woman until we find "The ONE"?!? Sorry, but that's not how life works. You're somehow "worried" that OP wasn't this guy's "First Choice"?? ROFLMFAO You think he somehow made it to 27 without so much as a crush on another girl? LOL. I have never heard such BULLSHIT. Especially when it comes to modern dating on apps. You know how many women I have "Really Liked" before meeting my goddess OP, whatever happened 2 years ago, is ancient history. Judge him on what you have now.
  22. So, just to clarify. You've told him that you had a good time, and all you got back was an emoji? Maybe he's like me and has ASD?? Honestly, do whatever you feel comfortable with. If it were me, I'd just send a text and ask him straight up "Do you want to see me again?"
  23. Ok first up, he's a guy, and a young guy at that. If you ask a guy if he would give up an inch in height for an inch in length, even somebody who is 5ft tall, will say YES! Guys that age still have two brains, and do most of their thinking with the lower one. Feeling inadequate in that department, much less having an actual problem, is debilitating. Secondly, if lack of penile performance is such a big issue, then you're doing sex wrong. I'm assuming he does have hands and a mouth? I do think that trying to get too much into his medical business, so early on, is a bit much. Especially given how much of the male ego is tied up in this. You're not wrong, he sould be speaking to local medical experts, rather than self-diagnosing and heading to Mexico or Thailand. But it IS his ___k. Maybe wait and see how it turns out? As for "should you try to fix things?" I say yes, only because you shouldn't have broken up over this issue alone.
  24. Firstly, even as kids or teens, there are genuinely good people in this world. Maybe they just thought you needed a friend. Also, if you you were quiet, shy, and reserved, that may have been a refreshing break from other teenage boys always wanting to crack onto them. But I'd also say this: I have a great friend, somebody who is like a brother to me. we have been there for each other, in many ways, for over 20 years. I can tell you precisely how we met. I could not even begin to explain how we became friends, much less lifelong friends. So just be grateful.
  25. thesecretgirl

    I feel his wife should know.

    I don’t think it’s very nice to tell me to grow up, I come on here expecting some advice and I thought everyone in this forum is on similar situations. The plan is to move on, I wanted to hear from others who have maybe been in a similar situation. If you have nothing kind to say please don’t comment on my thread thank you
  26. Guest

    I feel his wife should know.

    then you just need to grow up, stop lying to yourself, and take SOME responsibility for your own actions. You absolutely DID want to get into this. You didn't just trip and fall on his penis. If you now feel guilty about screwing a married man, then good. Move on with your life, and don't do it again. Let me explain to you what has ACTUALLY happened: You THOUGHT that you were SPECIAL. That for a man to risk his marriage, must mean that you are in some way spectacular and worth the risk. You were both falettered and titilated by this. NOW you have suddenly realised that he is just an a-hole who will screw anything in heels. You're hurt and you are jealous. So out of SPITE, you want to hurt him and also his wife. Whatever happens, whether his wife finds out or not, YOU need to grow up and get on with your life
  27. introverted1

    My BF multi-dated in the beginning. Was I truly “the one”?

    So if you believe this and are confident in him, why did you create this thread?
  28. toujoursycroire

    My BF multi-dated in the beginning. Was I truly “the one”?

    both in Germany. there are no problems on cultural basis anymore, we've discussed them in the beginning. He does a lot of things for me now that he didn’t do before, for example supporting me financially. Sure we've discussed this, he takes me to all his family events and wants a family with me.
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