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Agree with this -- you're already intimate, so this feels like a very reasonable question to ask.

As your current methods of coping aren't having any success, try turning it around: Stop blaming him and start taking responsibility for your own decisions and behaviour. If you had said "I am not the kind of woman who gets involved with married men" none of this would have happened. No more excuses, or self pity. Hold yourself accountable for your downfall

Why not find a different job while studying your degree?

I'd suggest coming right out with the children conversation. "Hey, you said you want kids someday. You know I'm 47, so how does this fit into the equation?" He may tell you that he's aware that it may not happen now that he's getting older and you may choose to cautiously continue. Or if he dodges the question, then assume he's just looking for casual and end it

It's useless to keep going over this in your mind. We don't have the answers, and you never will either. Have you considered changing therapists?

How old are we talking?

I mean I go to church to try to meet friends. And I’m going to school to get a degree to leave this shitty job. So I’m not just sulking, I’m trying to break out of this.

You got me at "He wants kids"...in two more years...the possibility of menopause. Don't waste anymore time with this guy. In future...exclusivity/ monogamy before sex. Choose more realistically. You need to assess things that will align with your future plans, not how you feel or how he treats you in the moment. That's why you keep failing.

Yes, he was definitely engaged in our real life conversations. No problems there. Well, anyways… I just texted him and asked him about his plans for Saturday night. He has read the message but hasn’t replied yet. We’ll see. I hate that I‘m so pessimistic about this.

That's the stupidest reason I've ever heard. If it's really just about trolling, why isn't he catfishing men as well? If you believe this, OP, I've got a whole beach's worth of sand to sell you...

Hmm. It's hard to say, really... was he engaged in the conversations you two had in real life? Some people aren't big on texting. I guess I'd consider this an orange flag, it depends on the context. I don't think the time of the day affects whether it turns into a FWB situation or not. If you don't want to be in a situation where you are having sex without commitment, then I guess the solution is to not have sex until there is commitment? I don't mean this in the "make them wait" sense, but simply due to the filtering effect. If you're having sex without commitment, then natu

Initially, online (and offline) it’s important to note that men will always be visual creatures. 99 percent of men prefer a woman with long, straight hair. No curly, frumpy or short to super short hair. Below the ear or up to your neck and straight is fine. You want to cast as wide of a net as possible. How she dresses, nothing revealing. A little skin is okay, just enough that you take care of your health. Bicep poses that also show your armpits are lame lol, but you sitting on a bike smiling is good, or holding a volleyball. if you look to be younger than your age, nobody cares about th

If they ever find out you hired a hooker, that would be even a worst problem. May I suggest clubbing where cougars hang out. Those ladies will do you right...wear a nice shirt and hit the dance floor.

The problem is: I must be doing something wrong if all these situationships didn’t work out. I’m the common denominator. I have no problem getting dates and I can’t remember a single situation where the guy wasn’t eager to go on a second date. But I always, always, always end up in the FWB zone sooner or later. Even though I think I’m communicating quite clearly that I’m looking for commitment. So maybe my words are saying one thing, my actions something different (like suggesting late night activities).

Yes, I did message him (twice I think) just to check-in and make a bit of small talk, but the conversations died down immediately because his answers were so short, and he didn’t really ask any questions back. He did initiate three of the dates though (with very short, to the point messages).

My opinion is that if someone made it all the way to the age of 41 without having kids, they're probably not all that serious about wanting kids. Have you tried messaging him? Did you initiate contact more than once in the past? The way you're phrasing it, it sounds like he initiated contact 3 times and you did once, is that correct? If that is the case, then surely it sounds like YOU are the one indicating lack of interest, not him? I feel like you're overthinking things, which might lead to a self-fulfilling prophecy. Holy crap, you guys are in your 40s, not teenagers. If y

So, you have no friends, can't make friends, you hate your job, and you have no hobbies... but you think the reason why people are rejecting you is your virginity???

I do indeed regret ending the marriage, but my ex immediately found someone else and he is very happy. I wish him all the best. I loved him but I had problems being intimate with him. There was a lot of love and comfort in the marriage but I wasn't attracted to him anymore and the intimacy had never been very good. I still don't know if I/we made the right decision ending it, because it was a good marriage on other levels. But there is no turning back and I know it's not okay to deny your spouse of intimacy, and especially not running away from the situation in an affair. I still have

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Just stay away from people that are attached, simple.

Thank you!! I totally agree!

Aww I love that and good for you! I hope to be doing the same at that age! I am definitely trying to learn as much as possible about and the flexibility is absolutely a big component of it for me. I grew up playing sports so my flexibility is ok but this is only going to help me strengthen it and maintain it

Yoga and Exercise is the most valuable thing in our daily life routine. Its make our life happier and healthier, Best of luck dear!