69ways Posted December 27, 2011 Share Posted December 27, 2011 (edited) So , I broke 43 days NC 2 days b4 Christmas. She did not answer but called back and was speaking for ages, she did not want to put the phone down. I told her it felt strange not to be with her this holidays, she said she felt the same. We decided to talk on Christmas day. I txt her on the 24th to wish her Merry Christmas and got ignored. This really got me going and by night I txt her again to say I could not deal with her to play with my hear feelings like this. She replied: Dont be angry with me.Kisses (her name) have not got kisses from her in a year... Opinions people? I replied: I am not angry , just miss you so much. She replied: Is not easy for me either and I am not heartless. So I told her: If we both feel like this, maybe we should re-consider some things. She never replied and also ignored me the next day with my good morning message. I txt her later on:I am stupid to try and make u feel nice. She suffers from depression and were together 5 years soon to get married. She always breaks NC and its the first time I did. She is single but confuses the hell out of me........ Edited December 27, 2011 by 69ways Link to post Share on other sites
Whyalwaysboris Posted December 27, 2011 Share Posted December 27, 2011 You're pushing her away homie. Next time cut the phone conversation short when she's yapping away vapidly. Cut the "I miss you so much" crap. And if you're feeling angry don't friggin talk to her. Take control here and be a man. Be the guy she fell in love with. If you start acting differently she'll be intrigued. Right now you are just a needy nuisance to her. So , I broke 43 days NC 2 days b4 Christmas. She did not answer but called back and was speaking for ages, she did not want to put the phone down. I told her it felt strange not to be with her this holidays, she said she felt the same. We decided to talk on Christmas day. I txt her on the 24th to wish her Merry Christmas and got ignored. This really got me going and by night I txt her again to say I could not deal with her to play with my hear feelings like this. She replied: Dont be angry with me.Kisses (her name) have not got kisses from her in a year... Opinions people? I replied: I am not angry , just miss you so much. She replied: Is not easy for me either and I am not heartless. So I told her: If we both feel like this, maybe we should re-consider some things. She never replied and also ignored me the next day with my good morning message. I txt her later on:I am stupid to try and make u feel nice. She suffers from depression and were together 5 years soon to get married. She always breaks NC and its the first time I did. She is single but confuses the hell out of me........ Link to post Share on other sites
Jono85 Posted December 27, 2011 Share Posted December 27, 2011 ^^ exactly. the cold hard truth might not be what u want to hear, but u came off extremely needy there. ur not ready to break NC right now, b/c ur emotions are so tied towards her actions. u messed up by breaking it, to be honest, b/c u had a moment of weakness. the whole purpose of NC is to HEAL yourself. the truth is, ur not ready to talk to her until u don't care whether she msgs u back or not, or at least it doesn't affect u much. ur still a LONG ways away from that. and u shot urself in the foot big time, by acting so needy towards her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author 69ways Posted December 27, 2011 Author Share Posted December 27, 2011 ^^ exactly. the cold hard truth might not be what u want to hear, but u came off extremely needy there. ur not ready to break NC right now, b/c ur emotions are so tied towards her actions. u messed up by breaking it, to be honest, b/c u had a moment of weakness. the whole purpose of NC is to HEAL yourself. the truth is, ur not ready to talk to her until u don't care whether she msgs u back or not, or at least it doesn't affect u much. ur still a LONG ways away from that. and u shot urself in the foot big time, by acting so needy towards her. Both of u critisised me and ok i might had been a bit neefy but it helps if u also tell me ur thoughts about her. None of u said anything about the way she acts and if it means something Link to post Share on other sites
Author 69ways Posted December 27, 2011 Author Share Posted December 27, 2011 Both of u critisised me and ok i might had been a bit neefy but it helps if u also tell me ur thoughts about her. None of u said anything about the way she acts and if it means something I actually got a text from her now saying she was not well ( see depression) and apologises for not writing and wishes me a nice day Link to post Share on other sites
Whyalwaysboris Posted December 27, 2011 Share Posted December 27, 2011 Both of u critisised me and ok i might had been a bit neefy but it helps if u also tell me ur thoughts about her. None of u said anything about the way she acts and if it means something You aren't going to get what you want by acting like this. Be challenging. Right now you're easy. She can set her watch to how you're going to react. It's not attractive. You want her to want to talk to you. This last response was a courtesy. She at least still cares about your feelings. BUT you don't want to be a charity case do you? Hopefully, you ignored her apology text or at least waited a while (hours) to send a tersely worded response. Link to post Share on other sites
immitable Posted December 27, 2011 Share Posted December 27, 2011 See, she called you, but my impression is that she never asked you how you are doing or coping with all of that. She was probaby rambling about herself the whole time. Her attempts to friend-zone you. I think she has no interest in reconciling with you at the time. Best thing to do is disappear and let her miss you, work on yourself and your issues. Link to post Share on other sites
Author 69ways Posted December 27, 2011 Author Share Posted December 27, 2011 See, she called you, but my impression is that she never asked you how you are doing or coping with all of that. She was probaby rambling about herself the whole time. Her attempts to friend-zone you. I think she has no interest in reconciling with you at the time. Best thing to do is disappear and let her miss you, work on yourself and your issues. actually she did ask how I am and when i told her about my health issue she showed much interest and the <<something missing inside me that you are not here>> sounds like a friendship comment? Link to post Share on other sites
Rorschach64 Posted December 27, 2011 Share Posted December 27, 2011 Well let's analyze her reactions to what you said in terms of reconciliation, she ignored you and dodged your statements about it. Even the follow up message of saying she is not well and wishing a nice day doesn't even say anything other than politeness. I know you probably so very desperately want her to come back, anyone can sympathize with you on this, but look at what people are advising you to do. You should stick to NC and also consider how you would approach someone that you want and compare it to her behavior. Yes, I know she has mental health problems but she has to deal with that on her own and should not be factored in to your evaluations because that will only confuse/stress you out further. Link to post Share on other sites
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