AlexanderJames Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 I think they call this Murphy's law... Today I posted a comment on someone's thread who was struggling with NC saying "luckily NC has been easy for me because I haven't had a choice. It was either let her get her way and feel hurt or block contact. She's only been petty and childish. Hopefully I don't hear from her at all because to be honest I don't know what I would do if she made a legitimate attempt to contact me". Just got home from the gym and there's a note on my door. Thought nothing of it when I grabbed it. My housemates sister leaves notes from time to time for him. The thought of it being her didnt even cross my mind until I saw my name on it. "Alex please call me" Then a phone number. I don't know her number by heart. But the last 3 digits are hers... ****mylife right 1
Jaf15 Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 You've been inspiring us all here bro. I know how you feel bro but do not give in. Nothing good will come from it. Keep moving
Author AlexanderJames Posted June 26, 2012 Author Posted June 26, 2012 Well there's only one way I'm going to call her and that's if I decide that I can hear what she has to say to me without letting it lead to me making negative ground. I think if I decide this I will call her and say. "you have 5 minutes. I'm about to go out" Then if she says anything other than I'm sorry I need you (or something like this) I will say goodbye ______ and hang up Havent decided yet. She might be playing more games
Jaf15 Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 It is ultimately you're call but I would not call. What good comes from it? It will not help you move on.
Author AlexanderJames Posted June 26, 2012 Author Posted June 26, 2012 You've been inspiring us all here bro. I know how you feel bro but do not give in. Nothing good will come from it. Keep moving I was thinking this just then in the shower. I don't want to let everyone on here down..
Author AlexanderJames Posted June 26, 2012 Author Posted June 26, 2012 It is ultimately you're call but I would not call. What good comes from it? It will not help you move on. I know mate but what if she needs me. Uuuugh I dunno
Jaf15 Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 Doesn't matter if she needs you bro. You're not in her life anymore, and you're moving on. This will set you back if you call
Ruby65 Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 I was thinking this just then in the shower. I don't want to let everyone on here down.. This is YOUR life. Do what feels right for you.
Jaf15 Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 I agree, don't worry about us, just trying to give you advice if you are trying to move on. As calling will not help, but if you want to see if she wants back then call if you want to get back with her. All I'm saying is no matter what she says calling her will not help you move on
Author AlexanderJames Posted June 26, 2012 Author Posted June 26, 2012 Sorry people dont hate me but I gave her a call. Things never go how you plan them unfortunately. But I think I came out on top this time. She asked if her name had been taken off of the lease to the place I live in. I said "Yes." She then said are you sure becaus.. And I cut her off and said "your name has nothing to do with anything any more" She said good and one more thing I want to come and see king. (my staffy puppy that I bought when I moved out of home) she added that I don't need to be there. My dog was a part of her life for no more than 2 months. I honestly don't know why she would want to come and see him. I responded with "j____ you choose not to be a part of my life and king is the biggest part of my life" She interrupted and said "yeah your life. I didn't walk out of kings" To which I replied with "he doesn't even say hello when you come over (my dog is the friendliest dog ever he showers everyone who comes around with kissed and love haha, except after the breakup he lost interest in my ex) I continued to say "I'm his world, and he feeds off of my emotions. Every time you left he would see me depressed. And he would stop eating himself. He associates you with depression and sadness. I don't even think he wants to see you. She snapped back with "don't blame your dogs feelings on me" She went to say something else but I interrupted and said Im going out now. Bye. As I went to hang up I heard her say "I'm not finished". But then I ended the call. All that took about 2 mins. But I don't feel sad or like I've gone backwards. I'm shaking a bit but that's just from the nerves of actually calling I think.
Ruby65 Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 Good for you! I can't believe her nerve, dropping breadcrumbs over the most petty issues. Typical, right?! I'm SO GLAD you don't feel like this is going to set you back....... I think you handled that perfectly!!! 1
Jaf15 Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 Well good, you handled it very well. I'm glad you showed the strength you did. Now she has no excuse to see you or contact you. Good job bro
Author AlexanderJames Posted June 26, 2012 Author Posted June 26, 2012 Just recieved this txt message. U better re think that decision and stop being immature for once. I did not reply. I deleted the txt, along with call history and she remains blocked on Facebook. However it seems that sticking up for myself has made her feel like somewhat of a victim here. So any guilt she may have been feeling has been removed most probably. But alas, she does not want me back. And hopefully I will not hear from her again. I don't look forward to her chasing me up to see my dog. It seems like a stupid and petty game to play. But any further attempts to contact me will fall on deaf ears. Like I said earlier today. Which I don't regret not sticking to. But can honestly say I will be now. Is that unless I see her begging me to take her back, and I mean begging, I won't be giving her the time of day. 3
Author AlexanderJames Posted June 26, 2012 Author Posted June 26, 2012 Thanks for the support guys. Means a lot I'm just glad I was far enough along not to let it bring me down. A part of me wanted to hear her say she wanted me back. And who knows maybe that's what she was going to end the call with. But at least I'm still on the right track. The only thing I know is she hasn't changed. And she needs to look in the mirror and ask who the immature one is because I've been nothing but an adult. I'll be sure to keep you all posted if there's any more repercussions. I'm sure she's anticipating a snappy txt back in reply to hers but I'm not gracing her with one. See how long before she starts trying to spark the flame again 1
Author AlexanderJames Posted June 26, 2012 Author Posted June 26, 2012 Oh and I'm throwing out the note with her number on it too. It will only tempt me. Haha
barese1 Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 Well done AJ, I read your posts and they give me strength to do the same! Well done mate
Author AlexanderJames Posted June 26, 2012 Author Posted June 26, 2012 Well done AJ, I read your posts and they give me strength to do the same! Well done mate Thank you barese Glad I can be of help to you, even if I did let everyone down and break NC
Ruby65 Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 You haven't let anyone down. She actually went to your house and left a note on the door asking you to call...... it would be VERY hard for anyone to resist that!!
barese1 Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 You've not let anyone down at all. I am maintaining NC but if she ever reached out to me I know how quickly I would be calling her
Author AlexanderJames Posted June 26, 2012 Author Posted June 26, 2012 Thanks guys. More to share. Before I threw out her number I replied to her txt. I don't know if I did good or bad but I'll let you guys judge my reaction. I didn't do it to retaliate but I did sort of word it in a way that might get her thinking. It sounded good in my head at the time so I said it. Anyway here it is. Please do not call me immature. Me and king are moving on with our lives, without you. This is what you wanted. He is going to be a major part of my life for many years to come. He will stick by me like a brother through thick and thin. Because he truly loves me. He will never walk away because I am his world and he is mine. We were a package deal j____, It was either the three of us together or nothing. You got things your way, this IS your way. Now it would show a great deal of maturity on your part for you to respect my wishes. And leave both me and king alone. We are going back to living our lives now j____. Remember that saying, you are going to go a very long time without hearing from me. Thank you for understanding. Goodbye.
Author AlexanderJames Posted June 26, 2012 Author Posted June 26, 2012 The saying by the way was "if you love something let it go, if it comes back love it forever but if it doesn't then it was never meant to be" For those that never read the message i sent which started NC I followed this up with. I'm letting you go now. If you ever come back I will love you forever but until then this is goodbye.
Ruby65 Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 Okay, you said your piece, no harm done. Now it's full-on NC! This is all EGO STROKING for her..... so she could very well try to draw it out and continue texting you! Be firm, be strong....... stay frosty! You're doing GREAT.
Author AlexanderJames Posted June 26, 2012 Author Posted June 26, 2012 Recieved two messages since mine. Haven't replied to either. First one read I think your decision is unfair on me and king. I hope you reconsider in time. Have a good life dude. And the second Please dnt dump any more of ur stuff on me....really dont want it ey. Bin it if u really must. Would have much rather got that on the first note rather than "I DONT WANT YOUR ****!!" Lol daft bitch
Ruby65 Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 Good for you for not answering! I'll be shocked if this is the last you hear from her, though.... too bad you can't change your cell phone number. Or can you?
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