She broke up with me because she wants me to be happy and can i save my relationship?

[zam_30]

Background story: Usually me and my girlfriend often have these little fights and it's usually not that serious or a small matter but we got back together everytime after we fought but, this time it's different. We were fighting because of this "guy". I couldn't do anything much. She broke up with me over a text and i was feeling very very sad because i really thought she was the one for me.

 

So, i tried to rekindle the flame, and it's to no avail. I met up with her and she was drunk and during this time, she told me to move on? I tried to talk to her about our relationship but she insisted me to move on because she said that i wasn't happy with her while i'm with her all the time but the fact is that, i love her and i am very happy with her. When she initiated the breakup, i was feeling devastated and felt that half of me is being torn away. She even blocked me on her social medias but she unblocked later when i tried talking to her. She is a great girlfriend and she;s always been there for me whenever i need her. Few days later, I told her i'm going overseas for 2 weeks because of family vacation but it didn't went on for 2 weeks, it was only 2 days because we had to come back to our country. So while i was away, she texted me on whatsapp saying, "why are you always leaving me" and when i received the message, i replied, "i never left you, never want and will to" and she ended up blue ticking me. So, at that night i asked her of we could have a heart to heart talk and she said to me, "there's nothing to talk zam. just move on" and despite that, i tried to talk to her and during this time she was drunk too. She texted me like we were normally in our relationship, very funny and sweet but after that, she was back to being cold and trying to diss me off.

 

Till now, I still try to get her attention, initiating the convo's on whatsapp first and most of the time. I asked her why she wanted to breakup with me and she said,"because i want to see you happy and you can't be happy with me. Just move on zam." I still know that deep down she still loves me and i really do love her and I want us to be back again. What should i do? Help me please.

[zam_30]

I forget to mention, she's 18 and i'm 17.

[HumanMachine]

Erm.. Move on? She quite cleary has. Don't do this to yourself.

[basil67]

I'm sorry Zam, she's moved on.

 

For the record, when someone says they are ending things because you are not happy with them, it's a nice way of saying "you complain about the relationship too much". In this case, it sounds like you complained about this other guy too often, plus all the other little fights. You didn't mention what the issue was with this other guy, but if she had poor boundaries with him, you were right to call her on it.

 

You will find someone who's better suited to you in the future. Look for a person who you mesh with and where there is low conflict. Those relationships do exist and you'll be far happier when you find one.

[zam_30]

the last time I talked to her was yesterday and she said this to me; zam just move on. of course, being with you is good for me but it's not for you. how do I save this relationship? do I continue trying? I'm not giving up and moving on easily....

[Satu]

As everybody says, this relationship has come to its natural end.

 

It's painful but you will get over it.

 

You have better things ahead of you.

 

 

Take care.

[zam_30]

so there is no other way for me to reconcile?

[central]

No, there's no way for you to reconcile. She's moved on, and you need to as well. This sort of thing may happen many times before you find a long term partner. Moving on in a healthy way is a skill you need to learn, and it will serve you well in the future.

[HumanMachine]

so there is no other way for me to reconcile? ����

 

No Zam

 

MOVE ON, do not contact her for any reason. She has someone else and does not care about you.

 

Trust me, i've been there. The quicker you cut her out the better.

 

You can do it.

[ExpatInItaly]

You can't save this. She doesn't want to reconcile, so there's really nothing you can do.

 

A lot of arguing, however minor it seems at the time, leads to resentment and is a sign you're not very compatible. I know you're both still very young, so keep that in mind for future relationships.

 

She won't be the last girl you will ever love.

[LastAcorn99]

The end of a relationship is hard for everyone, and i’m sorry you’re struggling in coming to terms with your breakup. Given what you shared, I would suggest that you give your ex-girlfriend some space. You are so young -- this is not the end of the road for you, you have so much more to look forward to. Take care, okay?