Needing a miracle. Is there still hope?

[whoknows11]

My ex gf recently broke up with me 3 weeks ago. She said shes been in relationships since she was 13. She was boycrazy. Shes 18 now. Shes just also stressed out with school and work. She attends a hairschool pretty much everyday, and works the days she doesnt. And she just needs a break from relationships and time for herself to be alone. We still talk, cause she doesnt like the idea of no contact. It upsets her alot. We fight at times cause i try to or when i worry about other guys and everything. She said honestly she hasnt done anything with anyguys or hungout with any. And that she doesnt want anyone. Just me but she isnt ready right now cause of whats going on. She even gets mad if i change my facebook picture of us. She also worries if im going to talk to other girls, or do anything with them. She still wears my promise ring and still has everything i got her. Thing is, when we talk i usually get responses like " yeah (mainly), ok,ik,idk,k or mhm." sometimes yup even. Even if i send a meaningful text. Cause we havent seen eachother or talked on phone since breakup.

 

Look i apologize for it being so long. But questions are, what do i do about this situation? And what could this mean? Any advice? I have hope still, but idk if shes actually going to come back.

 

Thank you,

[whoknows11]

Shes also home everyday mostly, except for when shes with her bestfriend whos also a girl.

[Philosoraptor]

She's asking for space so give it to her. Simple as that.

 

You must understand that school and work is a lot on its own. She is also just 18 so there is a lot going on in her mind as she matures into adulthood.

 

Either decide to be patient and see what the world has to offer or end it and find someone a bit more ready for something serious.

[whoknows11]

She's asking for space so give it to her. Simple as that.

 

You must understand that school and work is a lot on its own. She is also just 18 so there is a lot going on in her mind as she matures into adulthood.

 

Either decide to be patient and see what the world has to offer or end it and find someone a bit more ready for something serious.

 

 

 

Im just tryimg to be as patient as i can hoping things work out. Ive been making the mistake of arguing sometimes with her when im fustrated about it. Especially the one word texts. But then its my fault if i stop responding to them.

[KatZee]

Listen, here's a dose of hard reality. Your ex is SELFISH. She wants to have her cake and eat it too, period. She wants to be single, but then she keeps you on a leash. "Getting angry" if you change your FB picture, and worried you'll find another girl.

 

Cut the cord, NOW. You're not her emotional security blanket, and frankly TOUGH SH*T for her that she doesn't like the idea of no contact. It's not about her anymore. It's about you, and YOU need to start to heal and move on, regardless of what she's saying.

 

Honestly, she doesn't want you, but she doesn't want anyone else to have you either. She wants the free life, but she wants you waiting right there for her on the back burner in case she decides to come back. There are no guarantees she even will come back. You're basically just the safety net, the guy there "just in case" nothing else works for her.

 

My ex told me basically the same things. He's never been single. He needed to be alone, to work on himself, get his life straight. I said you know what, that's fine. I respect that, but we can't be friends. Sorry. I'm not your friend and I don't need friends. He was upset at this, because we were best friends for close to three years, but HE LEFT ME. Why would I continue being there for someone that didn't even want me at that point in time? I just walked away.

 

What you need to do, is cut her off. I know it sounds counter productive to you, but you have ZERO chance at getting her back while you're still in her life accepting the crumbs of whatever love she had for you. She can't even be bothered to speak in full sentences to you, yet she has such a firm grip on you and what you can and can't do. She needs to experience her own life without you. You can't be her friend. You can't text her, or call her, or email her. Delete her from your Facebook.

 

Whatever hurt she feels is a result of her own actions of breaking up with you. She needs to stew in that hurt and to feel life without you.

 

If you CONTINUE talking to her, I guarantee you will be friend-zoned. She will eventually wean herself off of you, talking to you less and less, until she's finally fully over you. And while that's all well and great for her, it's nothing good for you. You being her friend allows her to ease her guilt of ending it with you.

 

As I said... SELFISH.

 

Cut her off, and start living your life. Don't worry about her. Don't worry about what she's doing. Go on dates, meet new people. It's not her business what you do anymore, and if she's upset, it's her own fault. Don't limit your life because you're holding a torch for this person. She's not holding one for you. And she doesn't get to go live her life and do whatever she wants while you wait around in the background.

 

 

My ex gf recently broke up with me 3 weeks ago. She said shes been in relationships since she was 13. She was boycrazy. Shes 18 now. Shes just also stressed out with school and work. She attends a hairschool pretty much everyday, and works the days she doesnt. And she just needs a break from relationships and time for herself to be alone. We still talk, cause she doesnt like the idea of no contact. It upsets her alot. We fight at times cause i try to or when i worry about other guys and everything. She said honestly she hasnt done anything with anyguys or hungout with any. And that she doesnt want anyone. Just me but she isnt ready right now cause of whats going on. She even gets mad if i change my facebook picture of us. She also worries if im going to talk to other girls, or do anything with them. She still wears my promise ring and still has everything i got her. Thing is, when we talk i usually get responses like " yeah (mainly), ok,ik,idk,k or mhm." sometimes yup even. Even if i send a meaningful text. Cause we havent seen eachother or talked on phone since breakup.

 

Look i apologize for it being so long. But questions are, what do i do about this situation? And what could this mean? Any advice? I have hope still, but idk if shes actually going to come back.

 

Thank you,

[whoknows11]

Listen, here's a dose of hard reality. Your ex is SELFISH. She wants to have her cake and eat it too, period. She wants to be single, but then she keeps you on a leash. "Getting angry" if you change your FB picture, and worried you'll find another girl.

 

Cut the cord, NOW. You're not her emotional security blanket, and frankly TOUGH SH*T for her that she doesn't like the idea of no contact. It's not about her anymore. It's about you, and YOU need to start to heal and move on, regardless of what she's saying.

 

Honestly, she doesn't want you, but she doesn't want anyone else to have you either. She wants the free life, but she wants you waiting right there for her on the back burner in case she decides to come back. There are no guarantees she even will come back. You're basically just the safety net, the guy there "just in case" nothing else works for her.

 

My ex told me basically the same things. He's never been single. He needed to be alone, to work on himself, get his life straight. I said you know what, that's fine. I respect that, but we can't be friends. Sorry. I'm not your friend and I don't need friends. He was upset at this, because we were best friends for close to three years, but HE LEFT ME. Why would I continue being there for someone that didn't even want me at that point in time? I just walked away.

 

What you need to do, is cut her off. I know it sounds counter productive to you, but you have ZERO chance at getting her back while you're still in her life accepting the crumbs of whatever love she had for you. She can't even be bothered to speak in full sentences to you, yet she has such a firm grip on you and what you can and can't do. She needs to experience her own life without you. You can't be her friend. You can't text her, or call her, or email her. Delete her from your Facebook.

 

Whatever hurt she feels is a result of her own actions of breaking up with you. She needs to stew in that hurt and to feel life without you.

 

If you CONTINUE talking to her, I guarantee you will be friend-zoned. She will eventually wean herself off of you, talking to you less and less, until she's finally fully over you. And while that's all well and great for her, it's nothing good for you. You being her friend allows her to ease her guilt of ending it with you.

 

As I said... SELFISH.

 

Cut her off, and start living your life. Don't worry about her. Don't worry about what she's doing. Go on dates, meet new people. It's not her business what you do anymore, and if she's upset, it's her own fault. Don't limit your life because you're holding a torch for this person. She's not holding one for you. And she doesn't get to go live her life and do whatever she wants while you wait around in the background.

 

 

Yeah youre right. Ive just been hoping for the best. But its been me whos initiating contact. She doesnt unless its been many hours that i dont. And its for that shes mad or something that i didnt. But at times i dont hear from her for many hours. Sometimes itll be the entire day. Im just real confused about everything. No guys have been giving her attention or talking to her. She said its weird but she doesnt care. I just dont know.

 

Btw congrads on ex contacting you.