bolase Posted December 9, 2012 Share Posted December 9, 2012 Hi loveshackers My parents just infuriated me by telling me that it would be very nice to have me with them on new years' day as there is an announcement. But, they won't tell me what it is. Now, I am a young new worker so I don't have much money, they live a 1 hour flight away and it would cost me at least $400 to get there and back for this announcement. I don't want to miss out if it's something I'd like to be there for, but how do I know? We are already meeting up for xmas but this would be another trip. Have ruled out baby, retirement, or selling house. Definitely not divorce either! Driving me insane!! Do you guys have any suggestions or advice on whether I should go. Thanks so much. Link to post Share on other sites
darkmoon Posted December 9, 2012 Share Posted December 9, 2012 why can't you just tell them what you told me? you can't afford two flights, I'm not sure how many people can tbh so why can't you be a fully-fledged adult and tell them what you told me? People with plenty of money don't understand us paupers 1 Link to post Share on other sites
KraftDinner Posted December 9, 2012 Share Posted December 9, 2012 Tell them you'll go if they pay for it! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author bolase Posted December 9, 2012 Author Share Posted December 9, 2012 I have told them this, my mum just got upset and said I had to accept that they were not saying any more and I could do whatever suited me. I think she realizes she isn't being fair but won't admit it. I get the sense it's okay if I don't go, but I don't want to regret it. Link to post Share on other sites
pink_sugar Posted December 9, 2012 Share Posted December 9, 2012 That is really weird. Why wait until new years to give you this announcement? If it's so important they keep this secret, they don't need to mention anything at all until that day. It's not fair of them to expect you to be able to afford flight. Just be frank with them that you won't be able to make it and if it's that important they can fill you in now or another time. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
darkmoon Posted December 9, 2012 Share Posted December 9, 2012 (edited) why can't they use skype? this is what it's there for - i think this issue is about parental control actually, but you're not a kid anymore Edited December 9, 2012 by darkmoon Link to post Share on other sites
Radu Posted December 9, 2012 Share Posted December 9, 2012 How old are you ? Any other siblings ... what ages are they ? Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted December 9, 2012 Share Posted December 9, 2012 Have ruled out baby, retirement, or selling house. Definitely not divorce either! Barring the baby, how do you know it's none of these, for sure, and why not? Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted December 9, 2012 Share Posted December 9, 2012 They're being sneaky and rude. Tell them you have an announcement too. That you can't afford to fly twice in one week. Tell them on Christmas. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
xxxheartbrokenxxx Posted December 9, 2012 Share Posted December 9, 2012 Sounds manipulative and selfish of your parents to keep you in suspense then expect this of you especially so soon after Christmas when you'll be visiting them anyway. Can't they make the announcement when you're there for Christmas? It would be ridiculous and impractical to make another expensive trip to see them so soon after the last, so definitely explain this to them when you next talk. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Radu Posted December 11, 2012 Share Posted December 11, 2012 Maybe they decided to give you the Picasso. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SheSux Posted December 11, 2012 Share Posted December 11, 2012 Don't go -- they must know your financial situation . . . Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted December 11, 2012 Share Posted December 11, 2012 They won the lottery? Or someone isn't well.. Go. I know it's a pain and costly but they are your parents and obviously whatever it is, is important and they need you there. Link to post Share on other sites
mitchell Posted December 11, 2012 Share Posted December 11, 2012 Tell them to make the announcement when the family is all together for Christmas. A few days early shouldn't make a difference. This whole thing is absurd! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
pink_sugar Posted December 11, 2012 Share Posted December 11, 2012 They're being sneaky and rude. Tell them you have an announcement too. That you can't afford to fly twice in one week. Tell them on Christmas. I second this statement. Link to post Share on other sites
MuscleCarFan Posted December 12, 2012 Share Posted December 12, 2012 They're being sneaky and rude. Tell them you have an announcement too. That you can't afford to fly twice in one week. Tell them on Christmas. Haha, I totally agree with this. Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted December 13, 2012 Share Posted December 13, 2012 The thing is OP, you will find out regardless so tell them you don't have the money and that you will be happy to catch the news via the grapevine. That will take the wind out of their sails. Link to post Share on other sites
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