amyO Posted May 1, 2015 Share Posted May 1, 2015 So last friday night, i met a great guy. We have mutual friends and met at a bar that all of our friends were at. He’s so different from every guy i have ever spoken to or dated. I’m known for always taking interest in the “bad boys.” I’m happy to say for once, my radar led me to a truly nice guy. We talked the whole night and at the end he asked for my number. He texted me the next day and two days later he texted me again. We have silly conversations over text- nothing serious. I’m confused/concerned with what to do next. I’ve always been the one to like the not so great guys and get treated really ****ty. I’m the one that would always seem to reach out or put my heart out there. I really like this guy so far and i’m hoping to get to know him even more. He’s been the one to initiate all the talking so far. I guess my question is- should i initiate anything? Or let him keep “chasing me” by texting first and waiting to see if he asks to see me again? For once i truly believe i met a wonderful person. I’m scared i will lose this chance at knowing him more and potentionally something romantic happening. I know this all sounds silly, but I guess after one too many broken hearts and repeated mistakes, it would be really nice to have something great work out with a great person. A big part of me wants to ask him to hang out or text him first, but i’m trying to relax and not over do it or come on too strong. Link to post Share on other sites
salparadise Posted May 1, 2015 Share Posted May 1, 2015 Definitely text him first- that's no big deal at all. If you think the only reason he hasn't asked you out is that he's shy then take some of the pressure off... hell, just go for it regardless. The only thing is, make it a date and not a hang-out. Link to post Share on other sites
AppleKakes Posted May 1, 2015 Share Posted May 1, 2015 Well, it's only been a week.... Ummm, lemme think Well, I think since he already texted you twice and its only been one week, give it another week to see if he texts again. If he doesn't by next Wednesday, I say initiate one...casual and friendly, then suggest you two meet up for coffee/drinks if he doesn't. I don't believe in women being the aggressors, but at the same time, I'm afraid if texting keeps on going on that you two will miss a window to "kick it off". And who doesn't like a nice chat over coffee/drinks? Maybe even an ice cream sundae if it's warm enough in your area 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted May 1, 2015 Share Posted May 1, 2015 If you like him, let it show. Text him. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
Syberia Posted May 1, 2015 Share Posted May 1, 2015 If you like him, let it show. Text him. Yeah, this. Women who play games like this annoy me, and I'm likely to either get tired of playing or just think you're not interested. Being the one who always initiates gets old. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
PrettyEmily77 Posted May 1, 2015 Share Posted May 1, 2015 I was in your shoes 4 weeks ago . I met that awesome guy at a mutual friend's party and couldn't believe my luck (and still can't, he's still awesome 4 weeks on!!) after a couple of relationships with drama-loving guys. If that helps, he asked for my number on the day we met, texted me the next day to check I got home safely, we went back and forth for a while then I decided to ask him out because I didn't really want to text him all day. He called me within 5 minutes and arranged to meet the next day for a pub lunch. He told me afterwards he was very glad and relieved that I took the initiative because he didn't know how to ask me out - he's been divorced a year, married 16 years before that so he felt rusty. So I say go for it and good luck!! 3 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted May 3, 2015 Share Posted May 3, 2015 Go ahead & text him. It's a far cry from jumping on him & screaming take me! Link to post Share on other sites
Ninjainpajamas Posted May 3, 2015 Share Posted May 3, 2015 Show him interest but don't ask him out...let him pursue and initiate. If you cling to guys and let them know you're too available and interested, you're usually also the type that lets men take you for granted. Link to post Share on other sites
Author amyO Posted May 16, 2015 Author Share Posted May 16, 2015 Thank you for all your replies. We have been texing for over 2 weeks now ( i know not the best form of communication.) he had asked me to get dinner last last weekend, but he was called into work. He said next weekend (meaning this weekend) he will definitely be free. We're texting now and he still hasn't said anything about seeing one another. I don't know him very wellyet, but i do know he's a really nice guy and is not as outgoing and crazy as his friends. So i don't know if he gets nervous to directly ask me to go out with him. The first time we even discussed getting food together- it came about through a sports "bet" and me jokingly saying "so when are we getting that food together?" My brother is really good friends with him so i've heard a lot of great things about him. He has also been the one to initiate almost all our conversations. He seems very interested. Should i say something like "are you still up for some pizza tomorrow?" Or again should i leave it up to him? I'm so bad with all of this and figuring guys out. I don't want to come across as too available, but at the same time i'm tired of texting constantly. I would rather us just see one another already. Thoughts!? Link to post Share on other sites
TunaCat Posted May 16, 2015 Share Posted May 16, 2015 Ask him! I don't believe in the whole "women shouldn't ask men out" If you are interested in him, then take the initiative and ask him out. Link to post Share on other sites
Maleficent Posted May 16, 2015 Share Posted May 16, 2015 Don't play games. If you like him do your part of the chasing. So yes, ask him if he's still up for pizza. Link to post Share on other sites
Author amyO Posted May 16, 2015 Author Share Posted May 16, 2015 He replied this morning and asked me to get food with him today! Thanks again for your advice Link to post Share on other sites
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