what kind of person does that? Really Insane. anyone?!?!

[Tilli]

Hi there everyone

 

so here it is and i hope you can help with all kind of opinions you'll have because i dont know what to think, are people just crazy, insane, or playing just for playing ?!? i dont get it really but anyways here it is:

 

so during the past year i met someone and we got along well. Some important info well it was at work and i know that at work it's everything different and maybe more difficult, that's why i was always cautious about every move and everything and at first he was just a collegue then changed position to a higher one like boss and it wasnt that bad as at the beginning i thought oh god now as a boss it will be more difficult, then the other collegues etc. but it wasnt, with the other collegues it was ok. Actually it was worse him to me in a sense that while we were collegues we wouldnt speak that much but when he became a boss. Well he had more time for me, he start calling me all those nicknames sweetie, my girl, you're amazing, you're the best and so on. if i had to send him an @ he wouldnt answer to all of them but once or twice answered them with "you're an angel!" (who does that at work?). He would also help me with my stuff like my jacket if it wasnt at place he'd do it for me, and generally at work he always helped me with everything i needed and if he could help me he would. I always told him i didnt like that and to stop and he wouldnt. Before he become a boss people would say oh you both together bla bla bla after his new position people continued saying that and then he start calling me his wife ?!?! wtf? it wasnt like that at all, he even would ask me if i was ok etc. i enjoyed talking to him, having fun with him, he'd find me during lunch and it was everything ok except all those nicknames and the other wird stuff, but i never was rude to him, i just didnt want it that there. During a conversation almost at the end of 2015 i asked him something common, nothing special and then he was like "is that really what you want to ask?" (i didnt get at that time, but after what happened, what the hell was he thinking?!?!did he wanted me to ask him something?) we never did anything outside work and it was ok.

 

so i guess we were ok as collegues, maybe friends i dont know but anyways. at the begining of this year 2016 i was going for lunch and im not sure if he was waiting for me but we met on a cornor and he had his face down like he was being shy, and that has never happened before, maybe it was a coincidence i thought but now... well we met there and during lunch he was asking what were my plans at the firm and that some people were about to leave, and about that i asked him about a collegue that i hadnt seen him anymore and then he told me that he had left, and i was like and he didnt say anything? why wouldnt he say anthing? and he well it was the end of the year, holidays etc it wasnt easy because of the time of the year (then i thought it better and yeah in fact he did say goodbye but didnt explain he was to leave).

 

during that lunch we were ok so i thought. On the next day (friday) he didnt come and on monday he gave his resignation letter!!! and i didnt know anything about it, anything at all!! he didnt tell me anything. He didnt have to but we werent strangers, we were there during an entire year, and we spoke and he asked me things and during lunch?!? couldnt he had mentioned it? well the thing is that after these strange behaviours, well he was nice to me, well in my opinion tooooo nice and of course i wanted to ask him why do you do all the things you do? why are you doing all these?why? can you please explain me? but well i always thought he was being nice and i never thought he'd leave without saying anything at all, at all!!! why wouldnt he say anthing and leave such in a sudden? i know that i dont know and maybe wont ever know but i wanted some opinions about it. what was this person? a psyco person?was it all a mind game? i think normal work collegues are not like this, normal friends neither and maybe general people too. what a hell?was it all horror flirting?

 

so he left in a sudden ok that was a fact and that was not the end of the world. i didnt have his phone nr, fb or anything but some other collegues had his fb and then i decided to send him those private fb message (we were/are not fb friends but i could send him this message). 1 week is already past since i sent him the message and he didnt answer anything, anything at all. my guess he wont answer it anymore and i wont hear from him anymore. i think it's a pitty and i dont get it. why did he do all of this? and why wouldnt he answer my message? i didnt say anthing special just if he was ok and if he needed something? after all what he did i thought i was the least i could do for him. why wouldnt he answer to that? (and i know that he went twice to fb this week to share a video or somethin, dont know really because couldnt check it that closely). i really dont get it. why doesnt he talk anymore if he has been nice all this time?what kind of person does that? I just think that's just a pity, he was really nice and i think i did nothing to him. Oh my god is he crazy and insane all of a sudden? i wont be hearing from him anymore will i? if so i find it just a pity but it happens, but it's a pity in my opinion but it's all on him i think.

 

thank you so much for your time and maybe opinions

 

tilli

[basil67]

Your sentences are very rambling, so I struggled a bit. But I think I got it.

 

From what you describe of your friendship, it doesn't sound like the two of you shared intimate thoughts. You weren't dating or anything were you? Between that and him being your boss, it's not surprising that he didn't share with you that he was looking for another job.

[Tilli]

thank you for your reply Basil and sorry for the rambling part but i had so much to write/tell.

 

anyways no it wasnt like we were dating or anything. i dont know either if we were frinds but we worked at the same place during a whole year. for 9 months we were co workers and then last sept 2015 he got this new position as boss and yeah all the nicknames started, he helping in everything related to work and other stuff not so much related to work, and then the day before he leaves we met at that cornor on pourpous or not it doesnt matter but we did and then got lunch he asked what were my plans there at work, told me that some people were about to leave and then i remembered about a collegue that i havent seen him and he told me he had left.

 

what i find strange/akward in all this situation is his sudden behaviour why wouldnt he say anything? and had been always so nice and then all of a sudden vanishes?!?, even when i decide to send him a private facebook message (we arent fb frinds) asking him if he was ok, after a whole week he answers zero (and i know he was at fb). why's that? IMO that's insane at least, who wouldnt answer back?!?or say something back?!?

 

anyways i think the best thing to do now is just forget and to rest my case. i did what i could and if he's doing that, well i guess he wants to cut/erase with everything not just the firm but collegues too. maybe it's a normal thing and i just think differently because i wouldnt do that. In my opinion people is one thing and work another, but ok.

 

thank you for your time Basil and all other Basils out there

 

tilli