Inflikted Posted June 27, 2008 Posted June 27, 2008 Okay, there's a bit of a back story to this, so prepare for a lengthy read. Back when I was a little kid, I met this girl in grade school, and I instantly fell in love. Yeah, it probably started as just a little crush, but it went on for almost six or seven years, and I felt this "connection" with her that, to this day, I still can't fully explain. Problem is, I was too shy to ever tell her any of this; it was only until grade school was ending that some of my friends kind of spilled the beans to her. That year, her and I had a few "cute" moments together, but I was still too shy to ever really push the issue. She was really nice to me at the time (and even a tiny bit flirtacious), but I never knew if she meant it, or was just toying with me (although she didn't seem to be the type, but who really knows?). After we were forced apart when school ended, I was heartbroken, and regretted never putting myself out there a bit more with her. She was always sort of in the very back of my mind, yanno? I mean, not in a creepy way, but... Eh, nevermind. Anyway, admittedly, I didn't really date through high school; it wasn't necessarily all about her, it was mostly a mix of not knowing any girls that I felt the same kind of connection with, and my own poor self-esteem. Fast forward to a few months ago. By dumb luck, I managed to find her MySpace page. I got back in touch with her, and she was surprisingly very happy to hear from me. I found my feelings sort of coming back, but there were a few problems; for one, she had a serious boyfriend of about 7-8 months, and two, she goes to a college that's about 1.5-2 hours away from where I live (but her actual "home" is in a city that's only a short drive away from me). So, I was pretty down about not being able to take a shot with her, considering her boyfriend. I stayed in touch, but I was losing hope. A few days ago, I happened to check up on her MySpace after not having done so for almost a month, and I saw that her and her boyfriend have split up (they were in a LDR for the summer, since he lives near the college). Now my interest is back up, but I'm finding myself unsure of what to do. I'd LOVE to date this girl. But, she goes back to school in two months, and she just got out of a serious 7-8 month relationship, so I can't imagine there's enough time for her to heal up from the breakup AND for me to start trying to get myself on her radar... right? And once she goes back to school, it'd probably be a bit hard to make plans with her to start a relationship, don't you think? I dunno, I've been told that I'm probably making excuses, and that I should give it a go, since she's bound to start dating some one new eventually when she goes back to school (then I'd be right back where I started). The thing is, I'm very concerned about an issue that I think could really hurt my chances with this girl; see, I'm, well... short. I'm 5'2", maybe 5'3". On her MySpace, this girl claims to be about 5'6", 5'7" (although, I'm kinda hoping maybe she added an inch or two, like many people do, and that she's really not THAT much taller). Honestly, I wouldn't be bothered dating a taller girl, but her ex was way taller than me (taller than her), and I also saw who I *think* was an ex from high school in her older pictures, and he was also a lot taller than me. So, obviously, I'm worried this is going to damage my chances with her. :/ I think I'm holding out because it'd really break my heart to get rejected by her for a petty reason like that... So I don't know what I should do. I'd hate to just give up an oppurtunity like this, but I just can't stop thinking about this stuff. Am I overcomplicating things? I mean, she hasn't seemed disinterested from the messages we've sent back and forth these last few months (heh, her messages back to me have always been pretty chatty and "cutesy", I think), so I guess that's a good start? I dunno, let me know what you guys think.
kory11 Posted June 27, 2008 Posted June 27, 2008 I think you should talk to her and arrange a time to see each other as friends. Tell her that you're sorry about her ex and her, and you'll pretty know if she's over him with her response. If she is not over him, be there for her and support her. Just talking can be great to get someone back up and running .(just been there myself) She will appreciate the kindness you bring her, and will not look at how tall or short you are I suggest you go for it! If not, as you have already felt, you will be dissapointed for not trying. What are you waiting for?!
Author Inflikted Posted June 28, 2008 Author Posted June 28, 2008 I think you should talk to her and arrange a time to see each other as friends. Tell her that you're sorry about her ex and her, and you'll pretty know if she's over him with her response. If she is not over him, be there for her and support her. Just talking can be great to get someone back up and running .(just been there myself) She will appreciate the kindness you bring her, and will not look at how tall or short you are Heh, well, that is the kind of guy I am. Although, I've heard from many people that doing that is an easy way to end up in a girl's "friend zone", so I can't help but be a little skeptical. :/
kory11 Posted June 28, 2008 Posted June 28, 2008 yeah that's the kind of guy I am, but as you are interested in her, you still show some interest in her and try to let her know slowly... I have passed through a situation like this about 3 times but I was just interested in one of these girls and I did go out with her... didn't work out in the end, but that's just a detail
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