Ross MwcFan Posted October 21, 2012 Share Posted October 21, 2012 or have a relationship with, ONS, whatever in the UK? I'm almost 37 myself, but I look and feel more like about 25, I feel confused about what the youngest age woman would be considered as okay for me to get. In the past I would've thought that 21 would be totally fine, but after spending time on LS, I'm not even sure if 23 or 24 would be fine. It seems like maybe people would see me as weird or 'dodgy' if I were to get a woman who is say 23, and surely if I met her dad he wouldn't be happy, especially if she was still living with him. But then at the same time, it feels like maybe I'm just being really paranoid and there's absolutley nothing wrong with it at all. I think I'm mainly attracted to women in their late 20's to mid 30's, but it feels like if there are any women who would go for me, it'd be one's in their early 20's since I look so young myself, and not any who are older than their mid 20's since again, I look so young, I'm inexperienced and I'd probably have nothing in common with them. So if a woman in her early 20's did show interest, I wouldn't want to turn her down if there would be absolutley nothing wrong with me going for it. I'm kinda confused so I'd like to hear everyone's opinions, thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
Nightsky Posted October 21, 2012 Share Posted October 21, 2012 How can you tell the difference between a 21 year old and an 18 year old or 24 year old. What are you supposed to do just look for women who look old? I mean a good looking youthful 33 year old could look 21. You yourself say you are 37 and look 25. It's kind of rude to go around asking people how old they are, especially women you are just meeting. If I were you I would just worry about not breaking the law. I'm guessing the legal age where you live is 16 or 18 so just don't date below that. I wouldn't so much look for the approval of random people on the internet. So my vote goes to dating a woman what ever age she may be as long as you are attracted to her and it isn't going to get you thrown in jail. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
xdahliax Posted October 21, 2012 Share Posted October 21, 2012 I'm 22 and have no problem with dating a 35 year old. I have to admit that I thought that he was younger at first and was a bit shocked, but I only backed off for about 25 seconds. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ross MwcFan Posted October 21, 2012 Author Share Posted October 21, 2012 (edited) <insert local age of consent> There you go. It's 16, but I'd never be interested in someone that young, I think even 18 year olds who are legally adults in the UK may look too young. Plus I think any guy in his 30's or older dating a 16 year old would come across like some creepy pedophle, even though what he's doing wouldn't be illegal. Edited October 21, 2012 by Ross MwcFan Link to post Share on other sites
SmileFace Posted October 21, 2012 Share Posted October 21, 2012 What age would you be ok with dating? As long as it is legal ... it only matters what you fin to ok. Now what age of women will date you -- may be a different question. Yet, no one can actually know the answer to that. Link to post Share on other sites
MrCastle Posted October 21, 2012 Share Posted October 21, 2012 It's 16, but I'd never be interested in someone that young, I think even 18 year olds who are legally adults in the UK may look too young. Plus I think any guy in his 30's or older dating a 16 year old would come across like some creepy pedophle, even though what he's doing wouldn't be illegal. Agreed. I'm 24 and 18 is legal in America. I think maybe even 17 in NY. No thanks. SOMETIMES I'll make an exception for 20, but 9 times out of 10 the girl has to be at least 21. I don't see anything wrong with dating late 20s and up at your age. 37 and 21, I'd feel a little uncomfortable seeing that Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ross MwcFan Posted October 21, 2012 Author Share Posted October 21, 2012 What age would you be ok with dating? As long as it is legal ... it only matters what you fin to ok. Now what age of women will date you -- may be a different question. Yet, no one can actually know the answer to that. I'd be okay with dating women 26 or over. Sometimes I feel okay about dating women in their early 20 to mid 20's, but then sometimes it feels as though I'd just be being some creepy guy. Link to post Share on other sites
xdahliax Posted October 21, 2012 Share Posted October 21, 2012 That gives me hope.. I think I'll be shooting for a mature 25-26. Why not? At 30, that's not even really a difference at all. Link to post Share on other sites
SmileFace Posted October 21, 2012 Share Posted October 21, 2012 I'd be okay with dating women 26 or over. Sometimes I feel okay about dating women in their early 20 to mid 20's, but then sometimes it feels as though I'd just be being some creepy guy. Unless you are doing something that is creepy; you are not creepy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ross MwcFan Posted October 21, 2012 Author Share Posted October 21, 2012 Unless you are doing something that is creepy; you are not creepy. Ok, thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
kaylan Posted October 21, 2012 Share Posted October 21, 2012 You sure you look 25? I find a lot of older people tend to say they look younger even though they dont really. I mean, no offense, its rare for a white person to look ten years older than their actual age. I usually see that more in people of East Asian and African descent. And to a lesser extent in Latino people. If not only because melanin "hides" signs of aging more, melanin keeps the skin from aging due to sun protection, and in the case of East Asians, their diet is so much better than our Western diet. Link to post Share on other sites
KraftDinner Posted October 21, 2012 Share Posted October 21, 2012 Stop worrying about how it would 'look' or what others think. Find someone you like. Legal? Yes? Proceed. No? Go back to step one. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Nightsky Posted October 21, 2012 Share Posted October 21, 2012 I'd be okay with dating women 26 or over. Sometimes I feel okay about dating women in their early 20 to mid 20's, but then sometimes it feels as though I'd just be being some creepy guy. So some random person or persons thinking of you as "some creepy guy" is what you're worried about? That's pretty creepy that you think about that kind of thing. Like if a girl was 26 you'd date her, but if she was the exact same person but told you she was 22 you'd refuse. Why not? At 30, that's not even really a difference at all. People create barriers in their minds. Age is just a number. Obviously certain realities are attached to that number. Let attraction decide who dates who. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ross MwcFan Posted October 21, 2012 Author Share Posted October 21, 2012 You sure you look 25? I find a lot of older people tend to say they look younger even though they dont really. I mean, no offense, its rare for a white person to look ten years older than their actual age. I usually see that more in people of East Asian and African descent. And to a lesser extent in Latino people. If not only because melanin "hides" signs of aging more, melanin keeps the skin from aging due to sun protection, and in the case of East Asians, their diet is so much better than our Western diet. My pic is in my photo album in my profile. I do look incredibly young for my age yes, everyone used to make fun of me for it. Plus I 'feel' really young too. 37 just sounds way too old for me, I feel like I'm no where near that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ross MwcFan Posted October 21, 2012 Author Share Posted October 21, 2012 So some random person or persons thinking of you as "some creepy guy" is what you're worried about? That's pretty creepy that you think about that kind of thing. Like if a girl was 26 you'd date her, but if she was the exact same person but told you she was 22 you'd refuse. People create barriers in their minds. Age is just a number. Obviously certain realities are attached to that number. Let attraction decide who dates who. I'm not sure if I would refuse a 22 year old. Link to post Share on other sites
kaylan Posted October 21, 2012 Share Posted October 21, 2012 You sure you look 25? I find a lot of older people tend to say they look younger even though they dont really. I mean, no offense, its rare for a white person to look ten years younger than their actual age. I usually see that more in people of East Asian and African descent. And to a lesser extent in Latino people. If not only because melanin "hides" signs of aging more, melanin keeps the skin from aging due to sun protection, and in the case of East Asians, their diet is so much better than our Western diet. Bold is a corrected typo. Link to post Share on other sites
LittlePrince Posted October 21, 2012 Share Posted October 21, 2012 As young as you want as long as it is legal. Link to post Share on other sites
LittlePrince Posted October 21, 2012 Share Posted October 21, 2012 It's 16, but I'd never be interested in someone that young, I think even 18 year olds who are legally adults in the UK may look too young. Plus I think any guy in his 30's or older dating a 16 year old would come across like some creepy pedophle, even though what he's doing wouldn't be illegal. You are too concerned with what others think. This is why you have difficulty in dating in the first place. Worrying about what others think hasn't helped you so far and has actually hurt you. Time to get over that obstacle. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ross MwcFan Posted October 22, 2012 Author Share Posted October 22, 2012 37 and 21, I'd feel a little uncomfortable seeing that Out of curiosity, what if it was a 37 year old woman and a 21 year old guy, how would you feel then? Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted October 22, 2012 Share Posted October 22, 2012 Out of curiosity, what if it was a 37 year old woman and a 21 year old guy, how would you feel then? My ex and I got looks when I was 36 and he was 21. He was carded once when we went to a club by the bouncer He tried to card me too out of kindness haha Who cares? If anyone gives you a dirty look over a younger girlfriend it's because they are jealous. F*** 'em. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
KathyM Posted October 22, 2012 Share Posted October 22, 2012 I wouldn't recommend going under 30 if you are 37. The 30 and up crowd are the most likely to be attracted to a guy who is 37. Most women under 25 would not be interested in someone so much older than them, unless they have daddy issues, and those are not the types to have a healthy relationship with. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ross MwcFan Posted October 22, 2012 Author Share Posted October 22, 2012 I wouldn't recommend going under 30 if you are 37. The 30 and up crowd are the most likely to be attracted to a guy who is 37. Most women under 25 would not be interested in someone so much older than them, unless they have daddy issues, and those are not the types to have a healthy relationship with. I never said that I only want a serious relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
mesmerized Posted October 22, 2012 Share Posted October 22, 2012 I would say mid to late twenties. How can you have much in common with younger than that anyway? Sex, go ahead but relationship wise i dont recommend it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ross MwcFan Posted October 22, 2012 Author Share Posted October 22, 2012 I would say mid to late twenties. How can you have much in common with younger than that anyway? Sex, go ahead but relationship wise i dont recommend it. How can I have much in common with someone the same age as me when I'm not exactly a 'man', still live at home, have little real life experience, and have no relationship experience what so ever? Link to post Share on other sites
mesmerized Posted October 22, 2012 Share Posted October 22, 2012 How can I have much in common with someone the same age as me when I'm not exactly a 'man', still live at home, have little real life experience, and have no relationship experience what so ever? that doesnt reduce the creep factor, might even increase it tbh. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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