veganpilot Posted March 8, 2014 Share Posted March 8, 2014 Or am I overthinking it? I'm currently doing an engineering maths course, and my professor is only in his early 20s, and he is a child prodigy at mathematics. He's already got his doctorate in mathematics, and he is handsome, tall and intelligent. Well, yesterday when I attended class with my friend, I have heard he has a reputation for being mean and short-tempered, but confident. When I asked him a question during the break where everyone still had lunch in the lecture auditorium, he came up to our seats. I asked him whether calculus is relevant for aviators like me. He seemed much more shy and nervous than any other students he talked to, as I observed. Also today, when I was sitting in front of the lecture room for the purpose of concentrating better, during the 5 minute break, he did something unexpected. He went up to me and complimented on how cute my pencil case and bag was, and that I liked ducks. He laughed and smiled, talking more with me, unlike he does with other students. After another short break, I asked him why my notes did not process the pi symbols and written in a weird fashion. He looked at it and told me to come after class when everyone's gone and get it reprinted- for free! Usually, when we print, we need money credit to print for university. Yes, it costs us. So, he's doing it in his own allowances! Even my friend starts to think there is something going on between us for him to be this generous. We all printed our notes out of our own allowances, the professors never hamd or print them out to us in their own allowances. What do you think!? Link to post Share on other sites
Noproblem Posted March 8, 2014 Share Posted March 8, 2014 Well, professors always like the smart kids who participate and ask them questions. But yeah, I think he might like you too .... But don't make any move because he might like you as his favorite student..Nothing less and nothing more... Student-professor relationship can ruin his career.. even if he does like you, he'll probably hide it ...... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author veganpilot Posted March 8, 2014 Author Share Posted March 8, 2014 I don't know, man. He's single, hot and smart. We both love maths. I don't know why I'm attracted to people that excel in maths, but, I haven't done any tests yet, so how could he therefore know that I'm intelligent. Also, I'm 17 turning 18. Link to post Share on other sites
CrystalCastles Posted March 8, 2014 Share Posted March 8, 2014 I think you are way over-thinking this. A professor is not going to risk his position by engaging in a romance with a student he's only going to see for one semester. I think your prof thinks you're interested in his course material and that you're a proactive learner, so that's why he's being enthusiastic. You're reading way more into this than there is. I myself am a hard-working student and proactive learner, and my profs see this and are eager to help me learn and succeed. They do what your prof is doing, but that doesn't mean they want a relationship with me. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Noproblem Posted March 8, 2014 Share Posted March 8, 2014 I don't know, man. He's single, hot and smart. We both love maths. I don't know why I'm attracted to people that excel in maths, but, I haven't done any tests yet, so how could he therefore know that I'm intelligent. Also, I'm 17 turning 18. You know almost all of my professors like me and treat me well, because I participate a lot and ask them questions. but you are still young, life is ahead of you ..... Being with a professor will complicate things on the long run ... Just study hard and do well in tests ...Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
Author veganpilot Posted March 8, 2014 Author Share Posted March 8, 2014 I'm pretty glad he is doing everything for a zealous student to suceed. These kind of professors are the best. But, I don't think he thinks I'm zealous. I wasn't doing the complex numbers question during class, and I was playing on my phone. Link to post Share on other sites
Noproblem Posted March 8, 2014 Share Posted March 8, 2014 He might like you, who knows what will happen in the future. I mean there are some successful stories about relationship between students and their professors However, even if he liked you for real, he will fight his feeling for his and your own sake.. this is a really unfortunate situation .. because society and the college environment will reject it. It might work for Ezra and Aria in Pretty Little Liars, but that's not always the case ...Because they are some bad professors who use girls and in exchange will give them good grades ...... What I am trying to say, try to get him out of your head Because it's obvious you like him a little bit as well.. If you get attached, you might get hurt. Link to post Share on other sites
Author veganpilot Posted March 8, 2014 Author Share Posted March 8, 2014 Now the pressure's on, I guess. To keep up my rep, I have to be his top student, despite being the youngest. After my semester course with him, I'll see how it goes. But I'm very sure he IS single. But he is intelligent, he got a pH.d at a relatively young age. A Dr title. Link to post Share on other sites
Copelandsanity Posted March 8, 2014 Share Posted March 8, 2014 You should ask if he can privately tutor you outside of class Link to post Share on other sites
Emissary Posted March 8, 2014 Share Posted March 8, 2014 he's mean and short tempered and before long it'll be directed at you. Let's imagine for a moment that it's possible that a teacher may have an unfair reputation among students. Not to mention most functioning adults have their work personalities and their normal personalities. What he's like on the job may not necessarily be how he is under normal circumstances. Maybe he's a jerk, maybe he's not. Though, it's a bit of an early call to make based on the opinions of several people we know absolutely nothing about in return. Link to post Share on other sites
melell Posted March 8, 2014 Share Posted March 8, 2014 I have had this kind of thing with several professors. I think with higher education there is a lot more intimacy, if you engage, and show interest, you can quickly make friends with professors- and that usually is not frowned upon. I remember one particular lecturer that would invite anyone who wanted extra help to coffee at a uni cafe. I still have a first year professor who I email frequently, who would help me edit right until I finished my masters. It would be very easy for me to twist it to think he liked me, but it isn't the case at all. I have been to professors houses for meals, I have even taken a recent trip with one- I am not even at uni anymore. Academic life is great in that you can form friendships, and get more personal than at high school. Some will go out of their way to help you if they like you, it doesn't mean they want to be intimate with you. Link to post Share on other sites
Chocolat Posted March 8, 2014 Share Posted March 8, 2014 It's completely unprofessional for him to pursue a relationship with you. Likely, this is part of his teaching contract. On top of this, you are 17 and he is in his 20's? Dodgy, imo. Link to post Share on other sites
Author veganpilot Posted March 8, 2014 Author Share Posted March 8, 2014 Thanks for the variety of suggestions. Though I would like to point out that I'm only intellectually attracted to him, not sexually. Therefore, a platonic friendship would still be viable. Link to post Share on other sites
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