kaylan Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 (edited) How do guys feel about a woman lacking passion for something? What if you asked someone what her ambitions were and she didnt really have any long-term ambitions? Could you date someone who simply exists? Someone whos not really "diehard" about something interesting or meaningful....thoughts? Talking to women lately, Ive realized that even if I get on well with someone, if shes not really ambitious or passionate about something, I finding myself feeling blah. Thats all the word I feel. Blah lol. Its just really attractive when a woman really cares about something and has interesting interests. Edited December 5, 2014 by kaylan
Mrin Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 I don't. No passion or ambition is a major turn off for me.
Gloria25 Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 Oh pleeze, She'd be quite the catch. I've seen too many guys wanna get into "rescue" mode. I think guys naturally want a woman to be dependent on them in "some" way. If she has passion and/or ambitions, then she wouldn't be trying to latch on him and would actually have a life. 3
Art_Critic Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 at your age.. I wouldn't date someone like that.. however.. with me as I have gotten older my passions lost some of their zip and became everyday life, I'm not saying I don't have any passion or ambition, it just doesn't take over my whole being anymore.. for example.. I have been doing the same job for 36+ years and am more successful today than when I was younger but when I was younger I had more drive and ambition in business than I seem to have today.
FitChick Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 Some men prefer a more supportive woman who will have time and energy for them. They want to relax when they are with her, not compete. 1
Author kaylan Posted December 5, 2014 Author Posted December 5, 2014 Some men prefer a more supportive woman who will have time and energy for them. They want to relax when they are with her, not compete.Well these women can be very busy with their own lives...they just don't seem to care very deeply about their jobs or hobbies. Life is just an average day it feels like, with no big goals on the horizon.
Jules Dash Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 I had to let her go about a year ago. It is a deal-breaker.
FitChick Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 Well these women can be very busy with their own lives...they just don't seem to care very deeply about their jobs or hobbies. Life is just an average day it feels like, with no big goals on the horizon. They don't need big goals to be happy. Someone obsessed with a hobby or job wouldn't be that interested in a man beyond FWB because it would take time away from her "passion." I knew a woman like that who had a horse she "showed" professionally. Some men want to be the woman's passion! You sound like you are bored with the woman, so find someone else.
Author kaylan Posted December 5, 2014 Author Posted December 5, 2014 They don't need big goals to be happy. Someone obsessed with a hobby or job wouldn't be that interested in a man beyond FWB because it would take time away from her "passion." I knew a woman like that who had a horse she "showed" professionally. Some men want to be the woman's passion! You sound like you are bored with the woman, so find someone else. Not bored really. Still getting to know different people. Just desiring something more out of the women I talk to.
GemmaUK Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 Not a guy but I am one who has passions and ambition and the majority of the men I have dated loved that I do. My last ex said that he loved it but when it came down to reality he didn't like that my passions and my work took up my time and he seemed to want himself to become my sole focus rather than anything else in my life. He was however, insecure and controlling - which I only discovered later in the RS. He had no passions aside from driving (his job), a church he attended and me. After little while I found it really hard to talk to him about anything as he had no interest in anything else. 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 No way.. I even find that I can't respect friends and family members that are just "meh" about their lives and seem to just exist. 2
Haydn Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 If someone man or woman has no passions I don't find them that interesting. I love girl's with interests the opposite of mine. 2
somedude81 Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 I'm probably not going to surprise anybody with this, but I really don't care. BTW, just because somebody doesn't have any passions, doesn't mean that they don't have things they care about, hobbies or interests. There just isn't one or more things that is super important to them. Honestly, I'd want to marry a woman whose passion and ambition were directed at our family. I'm not saying that I want my future wife to be a stay at home mom, I just don't want to marry a woman who is off on some ship chasing around Japanese whalers.
Els Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 Someone obsessed with a hobby or job wouldn't be that interested in a man beyond FWB because it would take time away from her "passion." There is quite a distinct line between being passionate about something and being unhealthily 'obsessed' with it. Plenty of people of both genders are passionate about something without ditching their family or partner to spend 100.00% of their time doing it. I also tend to view ambition and passion as different things; the former usually is restricted to career and monetary aspirations, while the latter can be anything, from career to a cause to hobbies. Anyway... I don't have a conscious dealbreaker, but thinking back over all the guys I've ever been strongly attracted to, every single one of them was ambitious, and every single one of them did have something that they were passionate about. From what my guy has told me, I think he feels the same way about girls in terms of passion, though I think a girl's ambitions/career doesn't really matter that much to him. 1
Andy_K Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 How do guys feel about a woman lacking passion for something? What if you asked someone what her ambitions were and she didnt really have any long-term ambitions? Could you date someone who simply exists? Someone whos not really "diehard" about something interesting or meaningful....thoughts? I dated a girl like this earlier this year... After a couple months I ended it, and this was very much part of the reason. It's not that I care if she's ambitious about anything, but I care that she's passionate about something. That she's developed her own personality, that there's something about her which is unique. I don't care what it is that she's passionate about as long as there is something. It could be horses. It could be cycling or tennis. It could be sci fi or Roman architecture. It doesn't even need to be anything meaningful or productive, or even anything I'm interested in, it just needs to be something that makes her who she is. 4
GemmaUK Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 I dated a girl like this earlier this year... After a couple months I ended it, and this was very much part of the reason. It's not that I care if she's ambitious about anything, but I care that she's passionate about something. That she's developed her own personality, that there's something about her which is unique. I don't care what it is that she's passionate about as long as there is something. It could be horses. It could be cycling or tennis. It could be sci fi or Roman architecture. It doesn't even need to be anything meaningful or productive, or even anything I'm interested in, it just needs to be something that makes her who she is. Great post Andy K! You summed it up for me!
callingyouuu Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 Some men want to be the woman's passion That sounds dreadfully boring and exhausting on the part of the woman. Definitely with the OP on this one. 1
Gloria25 Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 Some men prefer a more supportive woman who will have time and energy for them. They want to relax when they are with her, not compete. The "thing" is, that IMO, some men mistakenly pick up women who got nothing going for them and/or have a life. Then, she sit around and pouts and/or just leans on him for everything, and/or goes sleeping with some other guy, spending up their guy's money, etc. cuz they are "bored". You gotta have a balance between not "competing" with your man, being available to meet his needs (and men are pretty basic in their needs - unlike us women) - yet, having your own persona/interests/independence.
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