shanniaiysha Posted June 22, 2016 Share Posted June 22, 2016 (edited) Me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 months nearly and i just feel like he doesnt want to spend time with me atal, at first i use to stay at his every weekend, then he turned around and said he doesnt want me staying weekends anymore as we argue to much:mad: his parents said it to, then he said he wants set days to see me on, so i only would see him 4 times a week. i asked if he liked doing things like bowling, cinema, bbqs, swimming, arcade ect and he said he didnt but the other day his mates asked him to go bowling and to go to the beach and he said yes and he enjoys it. when ever i tell him what i feel like he has a go at me and brings up what ever he can to make me look and feel bad yes im not perfect im a moany women but its because he doesnt put any effert into things, he didnt take me for a meal until 2 months down the line because i nagged him to take me then he wanted me to pay for myself. The way i see it the guy should pay not all the time though of course. the only time he said he enjoyed hiself is with his mates, also he wants to hide the fact ww are toigether because people course ****. even though he should ignore people. he said hes not ashamed of me but i think he is a little he wont hold my hand in town only if we are somewhere people arnt. but he acts like he really dose like me, when i ingore him for doing something wrong he ends up driving to mine saying sorry and its a 4 mile drive. another thing annoyed me as he said he wanted a day i as he was tired then he rings me saying his best mate is coming around for abit even though i asked to come to his to see him, then we had a argument and he said sorry 5 mins later:mad:. He dose message me everyday and night, not all though the day as he works alot. also i went of the island for a week well ended up being 3 nights and i said to him go enjoy yourself without me do what you want see alll your mates just ring me when you are home, and he ended up lieing to me and met his lesbian friend. they was only togethe for like 10 mins apaz. but he did say sorry and that he only lied as he knew i would kick off:mad:. also he doesnt like pictures with me ( sounds funny) but he loves taking selfies with his friends and ex partners, we was at his sisters wedding and he took pictures of all his family he didnt once want a picture with me i asked about it the following morning he just said he was drunk and he was sorry, i just said look i understad if you dont want pictures with me he didnt say much. He doesnt make any effert atal on my birthday he just sat on the sofa the whole time, and he always wears the same jacket with his car name on it and his work shoes.the first day he came to mine he was on the phone to his car friend (37 year old woman ) for half hour that really annoyed me, also he always use to go on his phone during dinner that was just rude to me. he never made me a meal or a coffee. i might just be being silly but these things upset me i feel worthless to him, the other day he ignored my phone calls only 2 calls, and said he was sorry and that he didnt awnser as he knew i would talk for ages. He says all the time he wants time to himself i was like your be ****ed if we lived together. he didnt have much to say to that anyway i just need advice on what to do, do i stay with someone i dont think wants to spend any time with me ???? Edited June 23, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Paragraphs and formatting 1 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted June 22, 2016 Share Posted June 22, 2016 (edited) He is not the man for you. Dating is not about finding someone and moulding and changing them to what you want, it is about finding a man who does the things you like and who likes to spend time with you. This man is not a good fit for you. Move on. Next. Edited June 22, 2016 by elaine567 removed quote 9 Link to post Share on other sites
misspond Posted June 22, 2016 Share Posted June 22, 2016 do i stay with someone i dont think wants to spend any time with me ????[/i] No. Say goodbye to him and work through the hurt, do some living and see what happens next. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted June 22, 2016 Share Posted June 22, 2016 You're trying to fit a square peg into a round hole. You're just not suited to each other. You want someone romantic, who's head over heels in love with you, but you're with a guy who is never going to fit that picture. He likes you, but thats as far as its ever going to go. So you have to either accept him as he is, and stop trying to change him, or let him go. Take care. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted June 22, 2016 Share Posted June 22, 2016 The title of your post is sufficient to sum up the problem. The answer: Leave him and find someone who DOES want to spend time with you. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
central Posted June 23, 2016 Share Posted June 23, 2016 Yeah, time for a new boyfriend who actually WANTS you and WANTS to be with you. Pretty simple stuff, really, once you look at it. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
clia Posted June 23, 2016 Share Posted June 23, 2016 Why are you dating this guy? Your relationship sounds awful. Please dump him and find a guy who wants to spend time with you, take photos with you, and hold your hand in public. You are wasting time with this guy. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Dis Posted June 23, 2016 Share Posted June 23, 2016 I think the cons far outweigh the pros (there were none mentioned) Move on hun....plenty of fish in the sea that cant get much worse than this guy 3 Link to post Share on other sites
angel.eyes Posted June 23, 2016 Share Posted June 23, 2016 Are you even dating? Why do you consider him your boyfriend? At any rate, the arrangement has run it's course. You're clearly not compatible. Time to stop complaining about his inadequacies and move on. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted June 23, 2016 Share Posted June 23, 2016 Three posts all moaning about the guy. Just ditch him. There are plenty more out there. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted June 23, 2016 Share Posted June 23, 2016 i just need advice on what to do, do i stay with someone i dont think wants to spend any time with me ???? re-read that sentence and tell me what is the reasonable answer to it. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted June 23, 2016 Share Posted June 23, 2016 You can start as many threads as you like....you are going to get the same answers....end it and find another BF. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author shanniaiysha Posted June 25, 2016 Author Share Posted June 25, 2016 i did leave him, last night was the worse hes been, ive had a reallly bad flu and he didnt care i woke up about half 2 in the morning and my body felt like i was on fire and i felt dizzy and i felt like i was ganna pass out and i tried waking him and he started calling me every namr under the sun because he was tired. all i wanted was some medican, or somthing. so glad its over and cant wait to find a real man to take care of me and want to be in my company :-) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted June 25, 2016 Share Posted June 25, 2016 i did leave him, last night was the worse hes been, ive had a reallly bad flu and he didnt care i woke up about half 2 in the morning and my body felt like i was on fire and i felt dizzy and i felt like i was ganna pass out and i tried waking him and he started calling me every namr under the sun because he was tired. all i wanted was some medican, or somthing. so glad its over and cant wait to find a real man to take care of me and want to be in my company :-) Good news! He definitely didn't sound like a keeper... Well done you. Link to post Share on other sites
katiegrl Posted June 25, 2016 Share Posted June 25, 2016 i did leave him, last night was the worse hes been, ive had a reallly bad flu and he didnt care i woke up about half 2 in the morning and my body felt like i was on fire and i felt dizzy and i felt like i was ganna pass out and i tried waking him and he started calling me every namr under the sun because he was tired. all i wanted was some medican, or somthing. so glad its over and cant wait to find a real man to take care of me and want to be in my company :-) How did he react when you broke up with him? Did you block and delete him? Make a pledge to go no contact? I truly hope you ended it for good...... good for you and good luck moving forward! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
tinkerbell16 Posted June 26, 2016 Share Posted June 26, 2016 i did leave him, last night was the worse hes been, ive had a reallly bad flu and he didnt care i woke up about half 2 in the morning and my body felt like i was on fire and i felt dizzy and i felt like i was ganna pass out and i tried waking him and he started calling me every namr under the sun because he was tired. all i wanted was some medican, or somthing. so glad its over and cant wait to find a real man to take care of me and want to be in my company :-) Oh hun, you did yourself such a favor. In a weird way its glad you got sick so you could gain the clarity needed. Chicken soup then onward and upward! Link to post Share on other sites
Rainah Posted June 26, 2016 Share Posted June 26, 2016 Sounds like you were not a priority to him, glad to hear you broke up with him, you deserve better Link to post Share on other sites
katiegrl Posted June 26, 2016 Share Posted June 26, 2016 I am wondering now if she did break up with him. All she said was she left him. That could mean she left his place after he treated her like trash.. whereas before she would have stayed. I dunno, I hope she did! She did say she is glad it's over though so that's good! But I asked her how he reacted after she broke up with him, if she blocked and deleted, and she hasn't answered..... apparently this all happened within one night. Anyway, good luck moving forward OP! Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted June 27, 2016 Share Posted June 27, 2016 so glad its over and cant wait to find a real man to take care of me No, you want to be in a position where you are not at the mercy of anyone for a place to lay your head at night. A real man isn't looking for a dependent to take care of unless he's created one (aka: his child). I'm hoping you're not meaning that this way. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted June 27, 2016 Share Posted June 27, 2016 This particular guy sounds like an ass, so I'm glad you left him. That being said, you said he wants to see you 'only' 4 days a week. Honestly, at 5 months, that's a pretty standard amount of time IMO. Couples who don't live together don't typically see each other every single day. It's not about 'not wanting to spend time together', it's about having other things in life to do. Even when you live together, it's healthy to have some time to yourself. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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