tomboi Posted November 18, 2016 Posted November 18, 2016 So I have been dating this girl (say Jenna) for a month now... Before we started dating there was this dude (Rockey) who used to keep on trying to get her.. But I guess he was friendzoned... Lately the dude Rockey and his ex kinda got back together and Rockey his gf(Anna) , me and Jenna sometimes hang out together.. Rockey is constantly teasing me , trying to show me low and decrease my image.. He also never lets me hangout with Jenna alone he just pops up every time I try to take Jenna away from them for some private time.. I had a talk with ex (his gf now again)(Anna) she said they don't talk much and even if they are he always gives all attention to Jenna.. So I told her to tell Rockey how you feel and if he is interested.. If not then leave RN.. As he is always talking to Jenna giving her more attention than Anna his gf.. He also tries to get physical contact with Jenna I told Jenna about it she said she wouldn't let it happen again.. Soo as far as I think he is using his gf to make Jenna think he isn't interested in her(Jenna).. Till she develops feeling for him.. And leaves his ex.. (Jenna really likes and texts me all day telling me every detail of her day and stuff but I am not able to go out with her because its last year of high school and my parents want me to concentrate on studies soo they don't let me go out) Should I tell Jenna to stay away from Rockey. As he likes her and trying to get her.. And as it makes me insecure..?..
gorf Posted November 18, 2016 Posted November 18, 2016 Holy moley.. your use of acronyms is atrocious. Set up activities with your gf that exclude this guy and this girl. Never mind the friendship thing. Hes trying to get with her, and you are trying to date her? Hes gone. Take care of it. If he is a problem, then make him not a problem. Get him out of the way. You can steer things and control it. If your gf has a problem with that, then tell her you dont see him as a good influence to the relationship. If she has a problem with that (she knows if a guy is trying to 'get with her' or not..) then you know where she stands on her value of you.
Buddhist Posted November 18, 2016 Posted November 18, 2016 Should I tell Jenna to stay away from Rockey. As he likes her and trying to get her.. And as it makes me insecure..?.. If you want to give Rockey a free pass at your GF go ahead and tell her. Here is what will happen. - Jenna will accuse you of being jealous and controlling and treating her like an idiot. - Rockey will now use the rift between you to become her confidante and supporter. Possibly making a pass at her now. - Jenna will be pissed at you and might even accept Rockey's pass just to piss you off. Fait accompli. I really doubt Jenna is entirely oblivious to Rockey's attentions and motives. You either trust her, or not. Whatever problems you have with Rockey are your own and you should handle them yourself rather than issuing edicts to your GF. 1
CC12 Posted November 18, 2016 Posted November 18, 2016 Should I tell Jenna to stay away from Rockey. As he likes her and trying to get her.. And as it makes me insecure..?.. No. She can hang out with whoever she wants. Tell her you don't want to hang out with him, because he's an ******* and "is constantly teasing me , trying to show me low and decrease my image.." and "tries to get physical contact with Jenna" and you don't want to be around people like that. So if he's around, you won't be there. 1
Author tomboi Posted November 18, 2016 Author Posted November 18, 2016 If you want to give Rockey a free pass at your GF go ahead and tell her. Here is what will happen. - Jenna will accuse you of being jealous and controlling and treating her like an idiot. - Rockey will now use the rift between you to become her confidante and supporter. Possibly making a pass at her now. - Jenna will be pissed at you and might even accept Rockey's pass just to piss you off. Fait accompli. I really doubt Jenna is entirely oblivious to Rockey's attentions and motives. You either trust her, or not. Whatever problems you have with Rockey are your own and you should handle them yourself rather than issuing edicts to your GF. You are right , I should not try to directly tell her, it would look manipulating and controlling.. I'll find some other way to get him off her.. Should I just trust her or pull him off her..
Author tomboi Posted November 18, 2016 Author Posted November 18, 2016 No. She can hang out with whoever she wants. Tell her you don't want to hang out with him, because he's an ******* and "is constantly teasing me , trying to show me low and decrease my image.." and "tries to get physical contact with Jenna" and you don't want to be around people like that. So if he's around, you won't be there. I like your last point.. " if he is around I wouldn't be there " hopefully she gets a hint..
Author tomboi Posted November 18, 2016 Author Posted November 18, 2016 If you want to give Rockey a free pass at your GF go ahead and tell her. Here is what will happen. - Jenna will accuse you of being jealous and controlling and treating her like an idiot. - Rockey will now use the rift between you to become her confidante and supporter. Possibly making a pass at her now. - Jenna will be pissed at you and might even accept Rockey's pass just to piss you off. Fait accompli. I really doubt Jenna is entirely oblivious to Rockey's attentions and motives. You either trust her, or not. Whatever problems you have with Rockey are your own and you should handle them yourself rather than issuing edicts to your GF. l just tell her he keeps teasing me and decreases my image all the time... I don't want to be around people like that. So if he's around, I won't be there. UPDATE : I have never dated a girl ,or been in a relationship this is my first.. Glad for your support and guidance
phineas Posted November 18, 2016 Posted November 18, 2016 I'd sleep with Rocky's GF. hear me out. This jenna chick sounds like she loves male attention and I see her putting herself in bad situations with men on the regular. Who wants that headache. rocky is a weasel and judging by his actions sounds kinda d-baggy. Anna sounds like the only decent person in all this. So steal rocky's gal and teach jenna a lesson about how real men won't put up with her poor behavior.
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