Did my wife know she was being leered at?

[Clockwork]

Okay, here is the story. The summer after my wife and I got married (she would have been 23) we had this young kid come to the house who did a few chores in the yard. I paid him and liked how a kid who was probably 13 or so was earning his money. It was a hot summer day he was picking up some sticks in the yard with a garbage bag.

 

My wife was sitting on the porch and decided to give him a hand. She was wearing a blue tank top. She bent over and helped him pick up some sticks. As is usually the case with a tank top when you bend over, or are on your knees, or croutched down, your top opens up a bit and your clevage shows.

 

Now, my wife kept helping the kid, probably for about 15-20 minutes. She bent over, put some sticks in the bag, croutched down, etc. I was looking out the window and I could see some serious clevage from my vantage point and the kid was standing right in front of her and needless to say he was doing a little less work at this time, he was staring you know where.

 

Here is my question. Was my wife oblivious to this? Do women not know how much their boobs get exposed when they have low cut tank tops on? My wife has nice boobs, she's a 38C and is a great looking girl with a flat tummy too. The kid liked what he saw I am sure, let's just say. But did she know she was being leered at by a 13 year old kid the whole time or would that have been something that wasn't on her mind? Would she have just had more of a maternal instinct to help the kid and not think anything of it?

 

I never asked her this, it isn't a deal breaker obviously, but could she have done this intentionally subconciously? Or just not thought it was a big deal? My wife was a heavier girl when she was a teenager. Needless to say she wouldn't have had guys leering at her and drooling over her at that time. Would something like this sort of be a way for her to make up for that inability to catch a teenage boy's eye since she looks wonderful now? Would part of her want to know that she's "still got it" if a teenager is leering at her?

 

Or did she really just not think anything about it and was just trying to help the kid with the chores?

[pteromom]

I would guess she was oblivious, and would assume she was just trying to help the kid, and didn't realize her top was hanging down.

 

But this is something you still remember YEARS later? You should know the answer. Does your wife have a habit of showing her assets off to men? If so, it is possible she was showing off then too. If not, it is very unlikely she was showing off to a child.

[Clockwork]

I would guess she was oblivious, and would assume she was just trying to help the kid, and didn't realize her top was hanging down.

 

But this is something you still remember YEARS later? You should know the answer. Does your wife have a habit of showing her assets off to men? If so, it is possible she was showing off then too. If not, it is very unlikely she was showing off to a child.

 

In a weird way I guess I always put myself back as a 13 year old in that position, so yeah I remember.

 

No she doesn't intentionally show her assets that I know of

[Cutiepie1976]

Your wife was never a 13-year old boy;) He's still a sweet little angel in her mind. You apparently know better.

 

She is totally oblivious most likely...and quite frankly who wouldn't be?

 

I wear a G-cup (32G). It took me the longest time to realize guys were actually staring down my blouse. I knew they stared at my clothed chest. I don't think a single male classmate looked me in the face in high school and college. Even the chaste, puritanical, "I'm saving myself for my marriage" boys thought my chest was my face. Very annoying! What I didn't realize was they were also staring down my blouse at my breasts themselves, which is incredibly creepy and invasive. So was every guy. I would get into arguments with my best friends in high school and college because they would claim some friend or other of ours, some teacher/professor, the storekeeper, whoever, was purposely dropping stuff and asking me to get it so they could look down my blouse. I thought it was total nonsense. It was pretty unnerving and disturbing when I finally realized it was occurring.

 

When you look at yourself in the mirror, the neckline is so high, that it seems impossible. Plus this kid is the "wrong" age to be ogling her, so typically, it never even crosses your mind. I'm much more careful around guys in my dating age range than I am with young boys or elderly men. One episode still comes to mind just because it was beyond creepy once I finally realized what he had been doing for months, and that was a 70-ish year old teacher when I was in my mid-teens.

 

Even now when I'm incredibly careful, I still get caught. My ex was complimenting me on my chest one day, and I made a comment about how that must have been a very pleasant surprise. His response: he'd glimpsed cleavage even on our first date and knew he was in for a treat. It was a high necked top, and I had pinned it at my throat! But he's tall and apparently at some point, he was sneaking peeks while somehow staring at my face.

 

I would just let it go. He's a kid. If she wanted to titillate, she would have picked an attractive MAN, not a small child. Ewww!

 

Now I have to be careful when I pick up presents from under the Christmas tree! Ugh!

[GSB81]

Most women seem oblivious to stuff like this. I'm around nurses all day and it's amazing how many cleavage viewing opportunities present themselves to me. I force myself to look away.

[MichiganMan222]

Oblivious. My wife and I were going out and she asked if I liked the dress she had on. It was a loose top one where you can't where a bra. I told her to touch her knees. Not only did it open up enormous cleavage, I actually saw a nipple. She had no idea. I told her that dress was fine.

[goldengirl11]

What sprung out at me in your text was actually the bit where you said that when your wife was a teenager she was a heavier girl so wouldn't have been drooled over. Perhaps that hit a nerve, but I don't like the way that was said. It sounds like she was probably attractive then too.

[Clockwork]

What sprung out at me in your text was actually the bit where you said that when your wife was a teenager she was a heavier girl so wouldn't have been drooled over. Perhaps that hit a nerve, but I don't like the way that was said. It sounds like she was probably attractive then too.

 

Well personally I still thought she looked pretty back then, even though all I have is pictures I can base it on. But this has come from her mouth. She never really had guys hit on her back then, as she has told me many times, while her good friends always seemed to be the ones who "got around" so to speak. This wasn't just my assumption, this is what my wife told me numerous times that she did not get asked out very much.

[goldengirl11]

Well personally I still thought she looked pretty back then, even though all I have is pictures I can base it on. But this has come from her mouth. She never really had guys hit on her back then, as she has told me many times, while her good friends always seemed to be the ones who "got around" so to speak. This wasn't just my assumption, this is what my wife told me numerous times that she did not get asked out very much.

 

Ok, fair enough! Thanks for that reply.

[JamesM]

I am going to say no.

 

My wife has cleavage showing periodically and doesn't realize it unless I make a comment. She then adjusts her top. I have no doubt that throughout the day, many men get an opportunity to "view" her and she is oblivious to it.

 

As was said, she is more conscious of a boob hugging shirt than a lower cleavage showing top...and she doesn't wear much of either.

 

I agree with the poster who asked why do you bring this up now?

[Clockwork]

Well I'm new on this board and I was just thinking of a thread topic. It happened about 5 years ago and I guess in a strange way (I hope this doesn't sound too strange) its kind of arousing to see someone else checking out your wife, almost like a proud moment for me, you know? I don't know if that's weird or not. But I was just getting some opinions especially from women on whether or not they know how exposed their breasts can be.

[sweetkiwi]

As a woman i hardly notice my breasts unless men are staring at them and i usually am quick to cover them. I think the same is true for your wife. She is probably oblivious.

[todreaminblue]

Okay, here is the story. The summer after my wife and I got married (she would have been 23) we had this young kid come to the house who did a few chores in the yard. I paid him and liked how a kid who was probably 13 or so was earning his money. It was a hot summer day he was picking up some sticks in the yard with a garbage bag.

 

My wife was sitting on the porch and decided to give him a hand. She was wearing a blue tank top. She bent over and helped him pick up some sticks. As is usually the case with a tank top when you bend over, or are on your knees, or croutched down, your top opens up a bit and your clevage shows.

 

Now, my wife kept helping the kid, probably for about 15-20 minutes. She bent over, put some sticks in the bag, croutched down, etc. I was looking out the window and I could see some serious clevage from my vantage point and the kid was standing right in front of her and needless to say he was doing a little less work at this time, he was staring you know where.

 

Here is my question. Was my wife oblivious to this? Do women not know how much their boobs get exposed when they have low cut tank tops on? My wife has nice boobs, she's a 38C and is a great looking girl with a flat tummy too. The kid liked what he saw I am sure, let's just say. But did she know she was being leered at by a 13 year old kid the whole time or would that have been something that wasn't on her mind? Would she have just had more of a maternal instinct to help the kid and not think anything of it?

 

I never asked her this, it isn't a deal breaker obviously, but could she have done this intentionally subconciously? Or just not thought it was a big deal? My wife was a heavier girl when she was a teenager. Needless to say she wouldn't have had guys leering at her and drooling over her at that time. Would something like this sort of be a way for her to make up for that inability to catch a teenage boy's eye since she looks wonderful now? Would part of her want to know that she's "still got it" if a teenager is leering at her?

 

Or did she really just not think anything about it and was just trying to help the kid with the chores?

 

 

I have been oblivious because i vague out sounds liek soemthign i woudl do ...when i hav ebeen in a relationship in the past when guys have been starign or whatever ....a boyfriend built liek a line backer was enough deterrant the fact he was fairly open with me was a gift...because if i was oblivious he would have some over and whispered deb stand up or "houdini" debs....we had code words so i wouldnt get embarrassed......i havee breasts that are pretty big i dont think about them all the time.....sometimes i forget i have them.....unless they are bouncing then i feel it...and ill naturally make sure they havent doen a houdini thing and escaped the cage

 

you should hav egone down and told her straight away .....she woudl have appreciated the heads up..especially since it was a child watching national geographic in 3d........deb

[Clockwork]

you should hav egone down and told her straight away .....she woudl have appreciated the heads up..especially since it was a child watching national geographic in 3d........deb

 

The question I have is that how do women not know this? They buy the shirts right? I mean, with guys our eyes gravitate towards boobs at any time.

[veggirl]

The question I have is that how do women not know this? They buy the shirts right? I mean, with guys our eyes gravitate towards boobs at any time.

 

Right. I guess I'm the lone dessenter. I think every woman knows (or should...how naive and dumb are we...gimme a break) when her "girls" are on display. A woman might play dumb, like omg where did those come from?!! but really...you bend over in a low cut top and it never crosses your mind that your breasts are now on display? You wear a scoop neck top, look in the mirror, and "don't notice" your cleavage?

 

Or maybe I just check myself out too much.

[GSB81]

Idk, Veg. Maybe it's like how some guys are oblivious to showing butt crack.

[Clockwork]

Idk, Veg. Maybe it's like how some guys are oblivious to showing butt crack.

 

But no woman finds that attractive regardless. Clevage is attractive at the worst of times. And I know guys realize what you described, and that's from the back not the front.

[Mme. Chaucer]

I'm pretty oblivious, myself, especially if I am doing outdoor work in the heat and wearing something like a tank top. My boobage is the last thing on my mind, even if there are men around.

[Clockwork]

I'm pretty oblivious, myself, especially if I am doing outdoor work in the heat and wearing something like a tank top. My boobage is the last thing on my mind, even if there are men around.

 

But you are likely still aware that you are probably being checked out, no?

[johan]

But you are likely still aware that you are probably being checked out, no?

 

That would be the opposite of "oblivious".

[Clockwork]

That would be the opposite of "oblivious".

 

Yeah, I know. But it is hard to believe, from a guy's perspective, that women don't realize guys will check any skin out on them at every opportunity, especially the skin they aren't supposed to see.

[johan]

Yeah, I know. But it is hard to believe, from a guy's perspective, that women don't realize guys will check any skin out on them at every opportunity, especially the skin they aren't supposed to see.

 

I guess they occasionally have to focus on things besides themselves and what the guys around them are up to.

[Clockwork]

I guess they occasionally have to focus on things besides themselves and what the guys around them are up to.

 

But don't you still want to hide your clevage if there are young boys around? Wouldn't that be a priority?

[nofool4u]

Here is my question. Was my wife oblivious to this? Do women not know how much their boobs get exposed when they have low cut tank tops on? My wife has nice boobs, she's a 38C and is a great looking girl with a flat tummy too.

 

She knew exactly what she was doing. She was giving the 13yo kid a show.

[NervisPervis]

She knew exactly what she was doing. She was giving the 13yo kid a show.

 

I don't know if this is serious or not, but I find it odd that she was helping a kid do the work that you hired him to do. The fact that she wanted to make his day while doing it actually makes sense.

 

But I'm a little sicker than most...