Has anyone else NEVER had their dumper contact them?

I was dumped out of the blue, by phone. We dated 10 months. He hasn't contacted me even once. I've been in NC the whole time

I haven't heard a peep from my last ex since we broke up 2 months ago. Even though we broke up with no animosity I don't expect to hear from her again. She wanted to stay friends but I told her that wasn't a good idea.

She's got her path to persue and she'll move on without looking back. That's the way she is.

It's now about 18 months since my last dumper contacted me, and I don't expect to ever hear from him again unless we randomly bump into each other in the street. It's well over a decade since my previous dumper contacted me, and I don't expect to hear from him ever again.

On the other side of things, I've dumped several guys and never contacted them again. Timescales since I last contacted them range from one to thirteen years, and I have no intention of ever contacting them again. People break up and cut contact; that's just how it goes...

I haven't heard a peep from my last ex since we broke up 2 months ago. Even though we broke up with no animosity I don't expect to hear from her again. She wanted to stay friends but I told her that wasn't a good idea.

This is exactly like me. 2 months on, she hasn't contacted me, and I don't expect she ever will on purpose. We work in the same building, but we both keep our distance. We parted with no animosity, and talked as friends on the night she dumped me. I think that was my way of coping, the 'denial' stage, just trying to carry on as if it hadn't happened, as if my heart hadn't been broken.

At that time I was naive and thought in a week or two of healing maybe we could talk at work sometimes as friends. By a week later I was a complete wreck, and couldn't bear to return some money I owed her in person, so I got a mutual friend to do it. I could never see her as a friend unless I somehow get over this and learn to let her go. Right now it doesn't feel like that's ever going to happen And though I wish her no ill-will, I don't think she deserves my friendship (not that she wants it) seeing as she decided to drop me from her life. I treated her as well I as I think I could, but that wasn't enough for her. I imagine all we'll ever do is say "Hi" in passing when that moment comes.

My dumper has made noises, but I never considered that a form of contact.....sorry, I couldn't resist...

Its better that he doesnt contact you. he probably knows that if he does it will only drag out the torture for you. I had my ex texting me every week "how are you?", and I was waiting for that text every week, it was complete torture. If she didnt do that, I would have written her off and gotten over her sooner.

It's hard to see it early on but after a while you'll thank your stars that they left you alone!

You'll be surprised how quickly some people move on. My ex dumped me after 10 months. That was 2 months ago and he never looked back. I'm still dealing with the heartbreak and I recently found out he's already involved with someone else.

I dated a woman for about four months not too long ago... Things were good for the bulk of the time, until we went away on a trip.

Her behavior was horrible for the whole trip and she all but ruined it... When we returned, she contacted me a few times the first week trying to talk. I never responded.

There was no formal breakup, but her behavior was so bad that any further contact with her was beyond anything I was willing to do. TH

That was 5 months ago... I have zero plans to contact her and I'm guessing she fully believes that I am the devil now. Oh well...

I have had some form of post-relationship with every other woman I have been with prior. Some good, some not so good... Be careful what you hope for.

My ex disappeared off the face of the world after a year and half relationship. "she needed time to focus on herself" a couple weeks later she was at the club. Havent heard from her for 4 months and don't think i ever will unless we bump into each other and and sees how i changed. i became who i used to be, the person she pursued for 6 months

My ex also ended things with me after 10 months - via text message. It's been nearly 6 months since the break up and 4 months since I commenced NC.

Not heard a peep (Unless these blocked numbers that are ringing my phone are from him) But then again why would he if he's dating another chick!

I dated a woman for about four months not too long ago... Things were good for the bulk of the time, until we went away on a trip.

 

Her behavior was horrible for the whole trip and she all but ruined it... When we returned, she contacted me a few times the first week trying to talk. I never responded.

This has echoes of my story, though in my case on holiday she withdrew affection, treated me coldly and destroyed my self confidence by listing my failings that had been pissing her off... she treated me like s**t when all I'd done was give her my best. She knew she'd been horrible, while I knew there were things I needed to work on given my inexperience of relationships. She acknowledged afterwards by text that she'd "ruined" my holiday... but stood behind the things she said (fair enough, but I was only 2 months into my first ever relationship, still gradually building confidence with EVERYTHING... I wish she could understand that NOTHING came easily to me, but I gave it my best and always cared for her). I wasn't worried about the holiday being spoiled, all I cared about was the relationship.

In hindsight I kind of wish I had the foresight/balls to end things myself, or initiate the "we need to talk" rather than be a wet blanket and let her drag things out, hoping she'd show me some affection again, come back to me emotionally. It was obvious she'd all but dumped me. But because she'd said sorry about the holiday (I had already said so too, for the failings that upset her) and later she said sorry for being such a "knob head" lately, I held onto hope we may be able to patch things up. I sometimes think "if only I wasn't so upset that I could have talked to her about it all", but I think by then it was already too late. Passionate intimacy on the first night of holiday, feeling confused and rejected the next. At least after the break-up I've made no attempt to break NC or plead with her. I may be devasted to the core of my soul, but I've still got too much self-respect for that. I doubt she'll ever come over at work and talk to me again intentionally.