Questions about guys approaching women

Guys, do you only approach a woman once she has given you a sign that she's interested?

Women, do you usually give guys a sign that you're interested before they approach you?

If so, what would you think of a guy approaching you who you didn't give a sign to?

Guys, do you only approach a woman once she has given you a sign that she's interested?

Usually but it is not a requirement. Most of the time I need a smile, stare, or mannerism that shows interest. Sometimes if I feel like the girl might be shy I don't wait for a sign.

Women, do you usually give guys a sign that you're interested before they approach you?

IME, some women give signs and others do not. Just make sure to have the balls to walk up to her and introduce yourself if she is looking your way. And if she gives a sign she is not interested don't waste your time.

If so, what would you think of a guy approaching you who you didn't give a sign to?

Just behave playful, fun, and respectful. Quality women are ok with this. Don't make a big deal out of talking to her.

Guys, do you only approach a woman once she has given you a sign that she's interested?

 

Women, do you usually give guys a sign that you're interested before they approach you?

 

If so, what would you think of a guy approaching you who you didn't give a sign to?

I think my first piece of advice is this if you're approaching a woman or being appraoched by one: don't act like it's a big deal. This is yet another human being who uses the toilet, farts and burps like you do. If you treat someone like they're a god or that you think they're better than you, they're probably going to move on fast because they'll be creeped out.

But I digress - I give out signals. It's hard not to when you're interested in somebody. A subtle glance, a playful touch, some kind of innuendo. When I was in a past relationship, I met my current boyfriend on a city message board. He routinely invited me out to lunch but I turned him down because my partner was very jealous. After we broke up, I went out with current b/f for lunch. He wanted to see me more and more, and eventually he kept trying to tickle and touch me. I kissed him. He rubbed my back. The rest is history.

With my ex, I think I mostly just went out with him a couple of times. He paid for my ticket at a theater, and that clued me into the possibility that he might like me. He asked me out later on. But I never really gave out any clues.

If a guy approached me just because, what am I going to say? A compliment is a compliment. As long as he's not going to get visibly offended or angry when I have to turn him down, the last thing I'm going to do is make fun of him. We're not in grade school here and I'm not going to sit there and go, "omg that dweeb thought he had a chance with ME!" I've been in that situation before (albeit rarely) and I've always acted in this manner. A polite smile, a nod, some kind of compliment, and an, "I'm sorry, I'm seeing somebody." That's all it takes.

Now, I've seen guys get ANGRY over this. But usually the response is either A.) "Oh, lucky guy" or B.) "Ahh...uhhh...I meant your friend over there. Bye!"

Guys, do you only approach a woman once she has given you a sign that she's interested?

basically yes, with this method your hit rate is like 80%. if you go in with the "cold approach" method your hit rate is like 5%.

bascially what it comes down to is that women choose the men they want then they wait to see if he has the balls to come over

Yeah, at the basic level, ideally you want to see some sort of a sign first. But there are situations where you have to do a cold approach. For example, you don't expect to run into her ever again. Well, then 5% is better than 0%, go for it and see what happens.

However, there are other factors that complicate things. "Signs" for every woman is different. A smile from one woman may mean more than running across the room to give you a hug while crushing her boobs into your chest from another woman.

And, many women give out "signs" for other reason. For example, they want a free drink.

And, just like what was mentioned before, women don't always give out signs when they are interested. They could be shy...etc.

So yes, ideally you want to see signs. But sometimes, you just have to go for it and see what happens. But don't be surprised if the "signs" turned out to be nothing.

I guess if I was to start trying to get a girl I'd always have to cold approach, because I never get any of these 'signs' from women.

Which would just make things all the more harder for me.

We're not in grade school here and I'm not going to sit there and go, "omg that dweeb thought he had a chance with ME!"

It's interesting that you say that. I'll speak for myself, but I think it's true of a lot of men: Grade school, and childhood in general, is a traumatic time. The fears you develop at that age can stay with you. A lot of us are afraid, deep down, that a woman is going to do exactly that. Your first rejection hurts so bad your mind tries to make sure it never happens again. And kids are mean.

So, to some extent, we're all still in grade school.

To me, real life is still no different from grade school.

To me, real life is still no different from grade school.

Yes, you do seem stuck. Grow up

Women, do you usually give guys a sign that you're interested before they approach you?

 

If so, what would you think of a guy approaching you who you didn't give a sign to?

Sometimes (rarely) I see a guy who's handsome, who I'd like to be approached by, and I smile at him and make eye contact in the hope that he'll approach me. This doesn't happen very often though, maybe a couple times a year. If he approaches and he's a total bore, I'll still try to make my escape, even though I initially thought he was cute.

Usually I need to get to know a guy a little before I get interested, so he should approach me if he's interested and make conversation, and give me the opportunity to decide whether I like him or not. There have been a few occasions where I wasn't attracted to a guy at first glance, but I became extremely interested after I talked to him. At the very least, even if I'm not interested in him it's still fun to have a flirtatious chat and a laugh.

In a nutshell: attraction isn't something I usually feel from just looking at a guy, it's something which is created by our interactions with each other.