Been on 3 dates then no contact?

Hi there.

So i came out of a long term relationship around 2 to 3 months ago, and now i'm back in the game of dating. Since breaking up, my ex ex (the ex before my current ex) has been in contact with me. Oh by the way, the reason the relationship failed with the ex ex is because i wasn't dominant enough, i was more of a clingy and always wanted her to make the moves such as where we go, what we do etc. She has also come out of a long term relationship around the same time as me. Since we both broke up with our ex's we have been in light contact.

Anyhow, out of the blue she phoned me up and invited me out for a drink and i accepted, we went to a local club and we got very drunk, it went very well, couldnt have gone any better. I saw her as a friend, i didnt expect anything and i didnt develope any feelings for her.

So, two days after this drinking, she called me again asking me to pick her up to get something to eat at a restaurant. Again it went very, very well, lots of laughter etc.

At this point i was thinking she is showing some interest. I said to myself i will let her contact me again and make the move again before i make the move so i know for sure she is really showing some interest. Yes, she did indeed phone me up again asking me to take her out again, for a meal and drink at the pub, which again went well, but could have been a bit better, i'd say i let myself down by not being focused enough, i had to say pardon alot because i couldnt quite catch what she was saying. Anyway, she told me she enjoyed it. This happend on monday 6th november.

3 days ago, i sent her a text message asking if she wanted to go to the cinema to see a movie... and to my surprise i have yet to recieve a reply and it's really got to me because i'v developed some feelings for her again and its bugging me the fact she hasnt got back to me.

It was only sent 3 days ago, so really i should give it more time, but usually i get a reply instantly i remember this when i use to be in a relationship with her.

Is it possible she doesnt want to see me again or...?

How long should i leave it before i contact her again and what method of contact should i use? Call her or text?

The only thing i can see if she has no credit to text me back, but surely she can use other methods of contact.

Any ideas?

Thanks.

She may be busy or she was only interested in temporarily companionship.

Parky, i know excactly how you feel, i'm in the same shi*e.

Ok, there may be a legitimate reason, or it could be head games, i dunno, but it is a pain!

cg

Wait--you relied on the technology of a text message for a date and you are pissed because she never called you back?

First she broke up with you because you were not dominant enough. Looks to me that there have been three dates and she had to arrange all three. Seems like you are indeed not dominant enough and she is seeing this. Probably three strikes and your out.

What if the text was not received. What if it went to the cellphone graveyard. Grow some balls and, here is an idea, CALL HER UP AND ASK HER! If it goes to her voicemail, leave a message and THAN if she doess not call you have your answer.

But relying on a text is ridiculous. That is like telling your best ADD friend to pass along an important message.

That is like telling your best ADD friend to pass along an important message.

:lmao:

i guess it's different if she has to instigate all dates, but if your the one asking her & she says she can't because she's busy, then i guess you can tell her to let you know!

Thats whats happened with me.

Then there's image you could portray of 'jumping', when she texts.

It's the best to instigate dates & the only time i think texts should be used, is if their busy & they don't know when they'l have time!, annoying when they don't though, even to say sorry they're not interested.

cg

yet another textbook example of why you should simply disappear and implement strict no contact forever the first time she dumps you.