Help talking to girls...

Hi. you guys probably get this quite a lot, maybe not i dont know. anyway, basically im 13 years old and i sometime find it quite hard to talk to girls. Its kind of annoying as I see a lot of boys around sort of socialising better than I can. I would really like to be able to do it well. I know people say stuff like you need be yourself and relax and stuff, but how do you do that? Thanks.

First you need to conversation starter. Something to make you approach a girl. As her for a pen or pencil then notice something that you 2 have in common. "Oh i see you like eminem. Start talking and the rest is history. By talking to girls do you mean asking them out? I know you have to talk to girls in your class or whatever. i would listen to those people telling you to be yourself and relax.

Be interested in her. Ask her questions about her family, her hobbies and favourite movies/tv shows etc... This way she will feel that you are interested in what she's talking about. You don't wanna sit there and talk about you too long...But I'm sure she'll ask you the same sort of stuff too.

Good luck! Be confident! Practice infront of the mirror!

No i dont really mean asking them out, not straight away anyway. Just being able to talk to them and make friends with them. Maybe I need to gain confidence somehow?

Originally posted by whichwayisup

Be interested in her. Ask her questions about her family, her hobbies and favourite movies/tv shows etc... This way she will feel that you are interested in what she's talking about. You don't wanna sit there and talk about you too long...But I'm sure she'll ask you the same sort of stuff too.

 

Good luck! Be confident! Practice infront of the mirror!

okay. But how can I be more confident when speaking to them?

Practice infront of the mirror until you feel good about what you're saying.

Believe in yourself, positive thinking and saying it outloud, I can DO this and Talk to girls...Over and over again until you believe it and really feel it.

Originally posted by BB49

 

 

okay. But how can I be more confident when speaking to them?

it just takes some practice. start with girls you are comfortable speaking with, like your friends.

additionally~ girls around your age, may be wierded out that a guy wants to talk with them. they are just as shy as any guy.

Well I'm the same age as you and last year I had a small bit of trouble there too so here are some tips. Firstly find a friend who is comfortable when talking to girls and when he starts a conversation join in every once and a while. That way the attention isnt fully on you just for a little bit. Second talk to the girls that sit next to you in class. Just like small talk to get you practice. Like in Math if you don't get an equation (or in you do and just want to talk to a girl) she won't even realize why you are actually talking to her. Thirdly if the girl you want to talk to(it sounds like you have one singled out) plays sports and you go to her game congradulate her and tell her she played good. Then she will want to talk to you more. All guys get embarrassed in front of girls it happens to me on a daily basis but if you can learn to live with it and just think of it asa joke girls will like you more.

ok this girl i realy like... im having troubles talking to her

i kinda gotten to the stage where she likes me but not in that way

how do i get a btr relationship and i think she

is annoyed with me asking so much questions....help please someone