Sand&Water Posted November 7, 2006 Share Posted November 7, 2006 I confess. I admit it. I am losing interest in males. Every man I encounter, ignites the interest in me for about 5-6 days. Then, poof! My interest disappears. The texture of the atmosphere, the way it pans out, tastes so sour in my mouth. The whole, cage-of-interest, becomes dysfunctional. No excitement, butterflies, longing to further the development of the connection. It falls flat. Very flat. I was talking to a male friend of mine prior to posting this thread. There was a lot of teasing, joking, and laughter. He then informs he had won a large sum of money [$10 000]. I congratulate him, and emphasize the advantages of winning large amounts of money in life, and the possibilities. He, and I make a few reamarks about it all. Then, I utter the courage to ask him: "What are you going to do with $10 000?" Him: "Play around with $2 000, pay off debts, visa with the remaining $8 000. Save some money for a raft." Me: "Why would you want to buy a raft?" was my response. We exchange comments about sailing, teasing about rafts, and the joy of sailing in complete peace. He goes on to say: "we could let the raft drift us into where ever it may lead." . . . "sunsets, and the breeze, it would be peaceful." I thought it was very sweet. But by then, I couldn't make a distinction between his joking side and his real side. He kept using "us", and proclaiming that I am mysterious in nature. I asked him about the raft, thinking he was serious about buying one. He claims, it was a metaphorical raft. Question: What the h3ll is a metaphorical raft? and Why do I keep losing interest in men? Thank you in advance. Sand&Water Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted November 7, 2006 Share Posted November 7, 2006 I confess. I admit it. I am losing interest in males. Every man I encounter, ignites the interest in me for about 5-6 days. Then, poof! You're turning them gay??!! I think you're giving yourself too much credit. Are you sure that you're not subconsciously seeking out homosexuals in denial? 5-6 days is a pretty "exact" time period. Do you have some sort of weird hormonal cycle? On the other hand, if you do hold on to someone for a week then you just know it's forever. I asked him about the raft, thinking he was serious about buying one. He claims, it was a metaphorical raft.You don't see too many rafts with a kitchen, a bathroom, and a double bed. That's why it was metaphorical. Link to post Share on other sites
the_alchemyst Posted November 7, 2006 Share Posted November 7, 2006 I thought it meant he was going to save the remaining 8k to later spend it on himself and his love interest, using it to do all sorts of things, and upon spending more time with her, see where it lead to (love or not). But then again, I'm wrong more often than not, so . . . Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted November 7, 2006 Share Posted November 7, 2006 I thought it meant he was going to save the remaining 8k to later spend it on himself and his love interest, using it to do all sorts of things, and upon spending more time with her, see where it lead to (love or not). And who said that money can't buy you love?! On a metaphorical raft, no less. Link to post Share on other sites
Adunaphel Posted November 7, 2006 Share Posted November 7, 2006 Question: What the h3ll is a metaphorical raft? It's like a metaphorical white horse that you can ride to go rescue pricesses and ride with them in the sunset forever. Only, less cheesy. More seriously... I think it was a way to say he would like to take a break... get in touch with his inner side... see things.... start a journey to some unknown-but beautiful where... possibly in romantic company. Very new age-ish. And kind of sweet. And of course he was very probably trying to deliver you a sweet "I'm interested in you, I would like to have a relationship with you and find out where we can go from there" message. So, do you like this guy? and Why do I keep losing interest in men? Is there always a specific episode/thing that chases away the butterflies? Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted November 7, 2006 Share Posted November 7, 2006 Question: What the h3ll is a metaphorical raft? He was trying to increase the chances of getting in your pants.. Link to post Share on other sites
DanielMadr Posted November 7, 2006 Share Posted November 7, 2006 I confess. I admit it. I am losing interest in males. Every man I encounter, ignites the interest in me for about 5-6 days. Then, poof! My interest disappears. The texture of the atmosphere, the way it pans out, tastes so sour in my mouth. The whole, cage-of-interest, becomes dysfunctional. No excitement, butterflies, longing to further the development of the connection. It falls flat. Very flat. I was talking to a male friend of mine prior to posting this thread. There was a lot of teasing, joking, and laughter. He then informs he had won a large sum of money [$10 000]. I congratulate him, and emphasize the advantages of winning large amounts of money in life, and the possibilities. He, and I make a few reamarks about it all. Then, I utter the courage to ask him: "What are you going to do with $10 000?" Him: "Play around with $2 000, pay off debts, visa with the remaining $8 000. Save some money for a raft." Me: "Why would you want to buy a raft?" was my response. We exchange comments about sailing, teasing about rafts, and the joy of sailing in complete peace. He goes on to say: "we could let the raft drift us into where ever it may lead." . . . "sunsets, and the breeze, it would be peaceful." I thought it was very sweet. But by then, I couldn't make a distinction between his joking side and his real side. He kept using "us", and proclaiming that I am mysterious in nature. I asked him about the raft, thinking he was serious about buying one. He claims, it was a metaphorical raft. Question: What the h3ll is a metaphorical raft? and Why do I keep losing interest in men? Thank you in advance. Sand&Water Because you are cold-hearted:( ?? You think too much. You are afraid to enjoy life. Just lose the grip on your emotions. Or your companions are simply boring;) Methamorphical raft is something like your fictious lover you tell your mother about:D sorry Link to post Share on other sites
Walk Posted November 7, 2006 Share Posted November 7, 2006 I might be wrong, but I've gotten the strong impression (from your other posts) that you don't open up real well to other people. At least in person. That you're friendly and good at chatting, but you never show them anything of real depth to you.... You seem to have great conversations. But they're mostly about "safe" topics. Or in this instance, metaphors are used to protect the person from rejection. I think people are on guard around you. If you aren't willing to open up, then they won't. They might attempt to gently lead you in that direction, but if you don't jump in and go with it, then they wont' open up any further. That psudeo talk with no depth makes them seem... two-dimensional. Flat. Uninteresting. It's just the outter shell of who they really are.... Anyway, that's my side chair evaluation.... Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted November 7, 2006 Share Posted November 7, 2006 and proclaiming that I am mysterious in nature. A number of people seem to be zeroing in on this. Perhaps you think in mysterious ways. Nothing wrong with that. Link to post Share on other sites
NTB Posted November 7, 2006 Share Posted November 7, 2006 He was trying to increase the chances of getting in your pants.. i must agree with AC Link to post Share on other sites
laRubiaBonita Posted November 7, 2006 Share Posted November 7, 2006 He was trying to increase the chances of getting in your pants.. not with a raft! maybe a yacht..... plus he is not factoring taxes on the money, which will leave him with enough to only buy a damn raft! Link to post Share on other sites
CurvyGurl Posted November 7, 2006 Share Posted November 7, 2006 I'm having a hard time getting excited about anyone. I dunno if it's just not right or if I am just losing interest in men and dating. I'm SO used to rejection that it's like I expect it now, and I wait until I am a few dates in and he seems to like me before I sense any excitement or butterflies. I'm just... blah. Flat, as you say. Link to post Share on other sites
laRubiaBonita Posted November 7, 2006 Share Posted November 7, 2006 I confess. I admit it. I am losing interest in males. Every man I encounter, ignites the interest in me for about 5-6 days. Then, poof! My interest disappears. The texture of the atmosphere, the way it pans out, tastes so sour in my mouth. The whole, cage-of-interest, becomes dysfunctional. No excitement, butterflies, longing to further the development of the connection. It falls flat. Very flat. Sand&Water you sound like you are ALWAYS expecting passion and butterflies with each man you meet... and it just does not always happen. and sometimes when it does happen, it may only last a day, a week, a month.... supposedly One day love WILL happen... or so i have been told. better to have liked and lost than never to have liked someone at all. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sand&Water Posted November 8, 2006 Author Share Posted November 8, 2006 RE: You don't see too many rafts with a kitchen, a bathroom, and a double bed. That's why it was metaphorical. He, clearly, said to me he is neither gay nor bisexual. I'm, absolutely, relieved. You, Magichands, are fantasizing. It is a raft. Not a yacht. No fuel-engine-whatsoever [At least that is what he said]. Sand&Water Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted November 8, 2006 Share Posted November 8, 2006 and Why do I keep losing interest in men? cause you're meeting and dating the wrong ones... Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted November 8, 2006 Share Posted November 8, 2006 You, Magichands, are fantasizing. It is a raft. Not a yacht. No fuel-engine-whatsoever [At least that is what he said]. I just wondered if you'd like to shower and freshen up before our night of rollicking, passionate lovemaking under the stars. That's all. I hope there are no splinters in the logs. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sand&Water Posted November 8, 2006 Author Share Posted November 8, 2006 RE: More seriously... I think it was a way to say he would like to take a break... get in touch with his inner side... see things.... start a journey to some unknown-but beautiful where... possibly in romantic company. Very new age-ish. And kind of sweet. And of course he was very probably trying to deliver you a sweet "I'm interested in you, I would like to have a relationship with you and find out where we can go from there" message. You are definitely onto something, Adunaphel. I thought so, too. I just wanted to make sure I was on the right track. When I was talking to him, he expressed the desire to travel to Europe and Africa. Hence, the indication of inner discoveries, and aspirations. So, do you like this guy? Yes. I do like him. He is different, and unique. The oxymoron segment of the situation is that I like him and at the same time do not like him. There are parts of him, that seem annoying and superficial. He doesn't express feeling/affection very well -IF not at all. However, other parts show his true inner charm and acceptability with my likes and personality. Overall, I know deep down it will not work with him. Yet, it may not hurt to see where this metaphorical raft may lead to with him on board. Thank you. Sand&Water Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted November 8, 2006 Share Posted November 8, 2006 Overall, I know deep down it will not work with him. Yet, it may not hurt to see where this metaphorical raft may lead to with him on board. He's the captain, and you're first mate? Actually, this sounds wonderful. I'm going to take a bath with my rubber ducky. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sand&Water Posted November 8, 2006 Author Share Posted November 8, 2006 RE: . . . I've gotten the strong impression (from your other posts) that you don't open up real well to other people. At least in person. That you're friendly and good at chatting, but you never show them anything of real depth to you.... Oh, no. I am, just, a very private person. I am content in this manner, and do not expect any man to pressure me or sway me into unknown territory. I have an enormous amount of depth to me. Everyone, who is close to me, knows I think too much and am wise beyond my years. The issue is, like Alphamale pointed out, I am meeting strange and uneventful men that essentially can't comprehend and connect with my rosy and mysterious persona/personality. Thank you. Sand&Water Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted November 8, 2006 Share Posted November 8, 2006 The issue is, like Alphamale pointed out, I am meeting strange and uneventful men that essentially can't comprehend and connect with my rosy and mysterious persona/personality. you need someone like me S&W....smart, mysterious, attractive, aloof, and a mix of good boy/bad boy.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sand&Water Posted November 8, 2006 Author Share Posted November 8, 2006 RE: He's the captain, and you're first mate? Actually, this sounds wonderful. I'm going to take a bath with my rubber ducky. This is making me laugh! Actually, when I was taking to him it was really about the paddling. He kept jokingly insisting on me paddling the raft, and for him to just lay back and relax. Pfft! I, of course, strongly disagreed. I told him: "You either paddle, or I toss you overboard to the sharks." He, finally, compromised to a "taking-turns-paddling-and-enjoying-the-view". Now, I know, he is willing to compromise. Good trait #1. That is kind of you, Alphamale. I understand where you are coming from. Sand&Water Link to post Share on other sites
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