xxxicklexxx Posted August 2, 2008 Share Posted August 2, 2008 i honestly..fell completly confused about my situation. its rather complicated...well to me. the current place im living is not my home country..so i go over once a year to where my family originate from...!but this year was very different to most years..i became good friends with a group of guys.and iv never had good friends over there.but with one guy..my feelings..i felt developed...and i ended up making out with him. i have a boyfriend tho..at the time i was rather pissed off...and i had intended to break up with him when i arrived home.i got home and i tried but it broke my heart and i realised i wasnt ready.. so i told him i cheated on him..he was furious as expected...but he frgave me..in a way...and now we are trying to move on. but hes found out that me and the guy who i made out with..are good friends.we get on like a house on fire..and he completly respects my chice.he says hes happy having me as a mate then not knowing me at all..cus im a nice person. and i no hes being serious. but my bf ses i cannot contact him... the two problems that come out of this are:i told him i only made out with him when in fact i did it several times and we had moved onto hands also.no sex or oral.just that.and i no if i told him now..it would ruin what we have and im not sure what to do.. the other problem is...my friend is coming over for 10 days..along with other friends..to stay with me and my mom!im very excited but my bf isnt..i cant send him back because he has his ticket booked...and his parents are going aaway to so he has no choice.am i doing a wrong thing by staying friends with him ??? Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted September 11, 2008 Share Posted September 11, 2008 Bumping this up, noting your response in this thread: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showpost.php?p=1833997&postcount=39 I cheated Big time. Im still beating myself about it. It was the biggest mistake off my life. I gave into the pressure. And i hurt the person i love which ripped me apart.Wer still together but its when the topic comes up he gets angry and i just start bawling. Just the thought of it makes me break down. There is no excuse for what i did. Cheating is cheating no matter what state your relationship is in. But there was a reason for my actions, not an excuse though. I was intending on breaking up with him either way.i never intended to even tell him.When i saw his face i had to though. Then we broke up and i became histericall. i have never felt so upset before.i wanted another chance so desperatly. For anyone else out there. is it possible to work through a relationship after a cheat?? My question is: Why did you want to break up with your BF? Link to post Share on other sites
Author xxxicklexxx Posted September 12, 2008 Author Share Posted September 12, 2008 im the kind of person, that when things get serious i start to get scared and back out.i just wasnt feeling it anymore and it felt like i was just always pissed off at him.They were my main reasons for breaking up with him, well wanting to originally Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted September 12, 2008 Share Posted September 12, 2008 IMO, and I've experienced this before with women, you should work on yourself and your attachment style before attempting another LTR. That means flying solo for awhile and taking a hard look in the mirror. With some work, acceptance can replace annoyance, as both of those qualities reside within you Link to post Share on other sites
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