Fake It Until You Make It

[Gunny376]

As many of you know I'm a retired Marine.

 

One of the things that I learned is that in many endevors, "action must precede emotion"

 

Case in pont. "PT" Physical Training ~ exercise. Many people struggle with this everyday. But, I KNOW from experience that oftentimes you've got to drag you butt out of bed and get out there and go through the motions ~ the warm ups, the "Daily Seven" (Calistincis X seven), the long run on the dusty road.

 

Ditto with anyone who's been through physical thearpy after an severe injury, stroke, etc.

 

At first the mind is working against you, and you don't want to do the necessary work, this is why many people need a personal trainer, and others need a physical therapist.

 

But it does work ~ but only IF you have the mental self discipline and self control to go out and go through it for the necessary amount of time until the mind catches up with the rest of your body and daily activities.

 

Depending upon what the "activity" is this may take as long as six to twelve months? And in the course of doing so ~ you may have to change up the routine from time to time to find what works? (The old "If you keep doing the same old thing over and over again ~ why should you expect different results?)

 

I myself don't have any problem with long-distance running ~ but I have serious issues with doing it in formation ~ aka ~ military style ~ (unless I'm in charge of the formation calling cadenance )

 

Applying "fake it until you make it" in relationships/marriage of course would require the full and complete dedication and cooperation of both individuals. Any half-hearted attempt by any one individual would meet with failure.

 

But it can and does work. I've gone out everyday five days a week, for as long as six months, (after I broke a leg and fell off the PT wagon) before it kicked in my brain housing group that I not only liked it, but wanted and needed to go PT.

 

Interestingly enough, it only took eight weeks to fall out of regular PT, but took me six to eight months to get back in to a regular PT mode. Not just physically, but mentally, emotionally.

 

Having retired from the Marine Corps, and having worked some jobs because I needed a job, but didn't necessarly like ~ I've found that it can take a minimum of six weeks to six months to get to where I became mentally, emotionally comfortable with it. It amazes me how quickly some people will quit a job, marriage, whatever ~ just because they don't like it.

WTF? What's like got to do with it ~ you do what you have to do.

 

IMHO, too many people quit a job, a carrer, a marriage ~ simply because they're "weak-minded" and lack in self-discipline, self-control, and allow their emotions to control them instead of controlling their emotions.

 

If your not master of yourself ~ your master of nothing!

[Ladyjane14]

"Amen, Brother Gunny... Hallelujah, AMEN!!! :bunny:

[Gunny376]

Perhaps it because of my military training/condintioning via the Marine Corps ~ perhaps its because I come from a dirt-poor Southern family. Where a pot full of collard greens and corn bread was considerd "Lean-Cusiene" Where "pot-liqour"wasn't something you got drunk off of, but sopped up with your cornbread!

 

A couple of things I've learned along the way

 

1. Fake it until you make it!

 

2. To thy own self? Be true!

 

3. One way or the other ~ pay your patrotic chore ~ Honor those that have gone before you!

 

4. Do not talk fast

 

 

5. Do not drive too slow

 

6. Always wonder what your Daddy would think!

 

7. Always clean your plate!

 

8. Don't be afraid to hold a ROLY-POLY!

 

9. Wave to the other person in the other coming car!

 

10. Know what "chittlins" are!

 

11. Know when to say "ma'am and "sir"

 

12. Appreciate "Moon Pies"

 

 

13. "Nip it in the bud!

[Gunny376]

Keep someone named "Bubba"

 

Call your sister "Sister"

[Gunny376]

I was quoating out of a book I'm reading, but most of all? RESPECT YOURSELF!