BoredPerson Posted March 28, 2009 Share Posted March 28, 2009 I went out to see some bands with a friend. They were metal bands and there were so many hot girls ! I hate life sometimes. Because I will never be able to have sex with any of them. They're so nice and sexy and friendly but I'll never get them because I am an ugly person ! I'm so low on the attractiveness scale the only women I can get are so unattractive you wouldn't WANT to have sex with them I thought having a good career would help, well it doesn't ! They don't care. Maybe if I have lots of money ? This sucks. I don't even need to have a hot one just one that is attractive. Hate @ being unattractive. Link to post Share on other sites
kdark Posted March 28, 2009 Share Posted March 28, 2009 Guys have it much easier than women do in the getting attractive department. As a guy, it's about style, being fit, and above all confidence. All three can be easily aquired. Link to post Share on other sites
MeaganRaye Posted March 28, 2009 Share Posted March 28, 2009 I agree. I see a lot of unattractive men paired with good looking women all the time. Men have it much easier. Link to post Share on other sites
You'reasian Posted March 28, 2009 Share Posted March 28, 2009 Its all about venue. And in terms of attractivity, just have fun. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I'm sure there are people here whom have strucken out with decent looking fun people and have done suprisingly well with some jaw-dropping attractive types. Attraction is not a linear, logical thing. Link to post Share on other sites
loser101 Posted March 28, 2009 Share Posted March 28, 2009 my pretty friend is married to a rather unattractive man and they are very happy with one baby a second on the way. they just clicked those girls are friendly with you, keep talking to them. they wouldn't be so friendly if they didn't like you I can tell you that much. Link to post Share on other sites
Author BoredPerson Posted March 28, 2009 Author Share Posted March 28, 2009 No they're not friendly to me they're friendly to other people most girls won't even talk to me and if they do they give me a funny look and wait for me to go away. Sometimes if I get caught looking at a girl in the street on the way home or to work she will look at me the same way like I am sort sort of freak. Non-linear just means the relationship of whatever we're measuring can't be done with a line. There can still a relationship between how attractive you are and how attractive the girls you date are, it just won't be represented with a line. Assuming you're right. I am part of the bit that not many people like.. Link to post Share on other sites
Peter_pan Posted March 28, 2009 Share Posted March 28, 2009 tip, join a gym get toned and im sure things will look up... try a new hair cut, anything, buy new clothes. i think your over thinking this. my ex is "fit" and she is out with a gimp. and im not just sayin that out of bitterness. her best mate said he looks like a rat... anyway. do the above Link to post Share on other sites
loser101 Posted March 28, 2009 Share Posted March 28, 2009 No they're not friendly to me they're friendly to other people most girls won't even talk to me and if they do they give me a funny look and wait for me to go away. Sometimes if I get caught looking at a girl in the street on the way home or to work she will look at me the same way like I am sort sort of freak. f*ck man, I'm a woman and reasonably attractive and I still get treated like a freak from time to time. I can assure that's the same for all of us. so what's the problem then you think? there is a suggestion on this thread about getting fit and that. by the way, bars are the worst places to meet people. the most pressured environment too Link to post Share on other sites
You'reasian Posted March 28, 2009 Share Posted March 28, 2009 Non-linear just means the relationship of whatever we're measuring can't be done with a line. There can still a relationship between how attractive you are and how attractive the girls you date are, it just won't be represented with a line. Assuming you're right. I am part of the bit that not many people like.. Wouldn't worry about it. Location still matters too, especially venues. What's attractive in one area may be unnatractive in another. Go to a biker bar and then over to a ghetto-booty club. What women will consider attractive in both places will be completely different. Get it? Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky555 Posted March 28, 2009 Share Posted March 28, 2009 after reading your post it sounds like you don't attract women because of your attitude. Im straight to the point. First off all your saying there were hot girls everywhere and you wanted sex. Didn't get any because they could sense your desperation probably. Why don't you just get some self esteem first. Learn to talk to women. Women really want someone who is actually interested in what they have to say and they like to be validated. No one wants to be around someone who is miserable either no matter how attractive they are!! Confidence. Don't mack on girls. Conversation. Don't expect anything except their company. get some skill. Start treating women "nicely" but know your boundaries as to not get run over. Don't act just be yourself..if you don't have self awareness GET SOME! Hope this helps Link to post Share on other sites
loser101 Posted March 28, 2009 Share Posted March 28, 2009 after reading your post it sounds like you don't attract women because of your attitude. Im straight to the point. First off all your saying there were hot girls everywhere and you wanted sex. Didn't get any because they could sense your desperation probably. Why don't you just get some self esteem first. Learn to talk to women. Women really want someone who is actually interested in what they have to say and they like to be validated. No one wants to be around someone who is miserable either no matter how attractive they are!! Confidence. Don't mack on girls. Conversation. Don't expect anything except their company. get some skill. Start treating women "nicely" but know your boundaries as to not get run over. Don't act just be yourself..if you don't have self awareness GET SOME! Hope this helps should do. pretty good advice Link to post Share on other sites
Author BoredPerson Posted March 28, 2009 Author Share Posted March 28, 2009 after reading your post it sounds like you don't attract women because of your attitude. Im straight to the point. First off all your saying there were hot girls everywhere and you wanted sex. Didn't get any because they could sense your desperation probably. Why don't you just get some self esteem first. Learn to talk to women. Women really want someone who is actually interested in what they have to say and they like to be validated. No one wants to be around someone who is miserable either no matter how attractive they are!! Confidence. Don't mack on girls. Conversation. Don't expect anything except their company. get some skill. Start treating women "nicely" but know your boundaries as to not get run over. Don't act just be yourself..if you don't have self awareness GET SOME! Hope this helps I do have a positive attitude. But they don't like me. So what should I say to you so you won't come back and tell me the problem is my attitude. It wasn't the venue it happens everywhere I go. Link to post Share on other sites
Author BoredPerson Posted March 28, 2009 Author Share Posted March 28, 2009 Maybe I will just be single forever. I think that I will never have a girlfriend. Sometimes I even get lonely but now I feel fine with being alone and I start to feel repelled by the idea of a relationship. See how you women have damaged me with your silly games ! Why do women torture men ? They're like harpies that take delight in toying with us. Link to post Share on other sites
You'reasian Posted March 28, 2009 Share Posted March 28, 2009 Maybe I will just be single forever. I think that I will never have a girlfriend. Sometimes I even get lonely but now I feel fine with being alone and I start to feel repelled by the idea of a relationship. See how you women have damaged me with your silly games ! Why do women torture men ? They're like harpies that take delight in toying with us. Keep venting if it helps, but eventually you should figure out the reason why you think you are not meeting a woman that you desire and take action. You say its attractivity. Others have suggested that your location, venues, attitude and things that you can change dictate how others will react to you. Sorry that you've never had a girlfriend, but consider what people are telling you. Link to post Share on other sites
sally4sara Posted March 29, 2009 Share Posted March 29, 2009 Couldn't possibly be your attitude? Maybe I will just be single forever. I think that I will never have a girlfriend. Sometimes I even get lonely but now I feel fine with being alone and I start to feel repelled by the idea of a relationship. See how you women have damaged me with your silly games ! Why do women torture men ? They're like harpies that take delight in toying with us. Mmmmm.....okay, if you say so. Because you've yet to have any success, you've grown desperate. You've yet to get to know any women for real, so women are becoming less and less human to you. It starts to feel like they "do it to YOU" on purpose. You grow more bitter and more desperate making it even less likely you will remedy the problem you're having. If you are growing bitter towards women for not looking past your "ugliness", why do you feel okay about not giving "ugly" females a chance? If YOU won't accept an physically ugly person, why are women harpies for doing the same? Link to post Share on other sites
Author BoredPerson Posted March 29, 2009 Author Share Posted March 29, 2009 Keep venting if it helps, but eventually you should figure out the reason why you think you are not meeting a woman that you desire and take action. You say its attractivity. Others have suggested that your location, venues, attitude and things that you can change dictate how others will react to you. Sorry that you've never had a girlfriend, but consider what people are telling you. I screwed up my life but now it is back on track... that didn't help the cause. I thought that was why girls didn't like me but apparently I was wrong. They hate me no matter what I do for living. I'm just a massive douchebag. And I'm ugly. My attitude.. I have no energy left to use on women. I thought about it last night and I thought to myself why should I ever have to put myself on the line and have my feelings crushed for a woman ever again. Link to post Share on other sites
IcemanJB Posted March 29, 2009 Share Posted March 29, 2009 Wow dude, enough with the pity party. Get over yourself. Women aren't "doing this to you". Like others have said, it's easier for an unattractive guy to get by than it is for an unattractive girl to get by. Why? Because guys are more attracted to the visual aspects, whereas women are more in tune with the inner aspects; such as confidence, which you don't seem to display. I'm not ripping on you, just trying to help out. Take me for example; 5'6" pale, kinda hairy dude. I've dated girls wayyy "out of my league" in attractiveness. But I take care of myself; i.e. working out, go running, good hygiene, decent clothes (working on this haha), and above all NOT saying things like "I'll never have a girlfriend because I'm unattractive". Women can tell if a guy takes care of himself, and that usually trumps looks (usually...). Link to post Share on other sites
stepka Posted March 29, 2009 Share Posted March 29, 2009 Boredperson, I have a homework assignment for you. Next time you go out, forget about picking up a hot chick or any chick for that matter. I want you to pick out the ugliest woman in the room and attempt to make her feel beautiful. Don't lie to her, don't try to pick her up, just talk to her in such a way that she feels listened to and validated. If you're not interested in her and you won't be, fine, don't lead her on and at least you'll have a new friend. Choose your girl carefully--look for a diamond in the rough, or someone as least as intelligent as you. And most of all, forget about yourself--self centeredness is sooo unattractive. Just concentrate on her--chances are you won't think she's ugly for long. Just a thought. Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky555 Posted March 29, 2009 Share Posted March 29, 2009 I'm not saying you have an attitude when u talk to women. I'm talking about the attitude about yourself and this is subconsciously picked up by women. I don't think you need therapy. I think you need to love yourself! Do things for you!! Work out Hike New hobby Volunteer somewhere-you may meet a nice girl Write a book Play poker with buds once a week Play golf or a sport. Get a puppy!! Go for walks start caring about something. Fill up your life and be open to meeting new people. Be kind, be positive! People notice and you never know you just may make an attractive lady smile. There is a start. SMILE even if you fake it! have a sense of humor! Start getting you back, just by reading your post it reminds me of some guy i know and I'm not giving him the time of day because He is screaming out "lonely" vibe. Women don't want a lonely man. Women want a confident, sexy, good listener, goal orientated guy for the most part!!!When I start dating a guy i begin to think if he and I are going to have fun together and what we would do for activities besides being intimate. If hes is boring and has no life why would anyone desire that??? IF the guy does not have self worth he is worth nothing to women (this is the same for women)..we just don't deal with it as you don't want to deal with a crazy girl..lonely men don't get sympathy because you can do something about it. I can tell you right now you will not meet a decent girl at a club or bar. Clubs are times when girls let loose and don't worry about anything else except the creeps that try to hit on her and they just don't get the time of day and all her friends just give you the stare of death look. hahaha Link to post Share on other sites
You'reasian Posted March 29, 2009 Share Posted March 29, 2009 I screwed up my life but now it is back on track... that didn't help the cause. It can't be that bad. Life isn't perfect. You could have 3 kids to support, out of work and have no one to turn to. You could be a successful, multi-millionaire and still have problems connecting with women. Its all about attitude. I thought that was why girls didn't like me but apparently I was wrong. They hate me no matter what I do for living. What you do for a living should have little bearing on your interest in girls, unless you're a jigolo. For what its worth, what you do for a living shouldn't even be their concern. Women are attracted to guys who don't work and spend their time drinking to guys whom are at the peak of their career... I'm just a massive douchebag. And I'm ugly. My attitude.. I have no energy left to use on women. I thought about it last night and I thought to myself why should I ever have to put myself on the line and have my feelings crushed for a woman ever again. You have a low self-image and that's not helping. Find your venue and have fun Link to post Share on other sites
You'reasian Posted March 29, 2009 Share Posted March 29, 2009 Women don't want a lonely man. Women want a confident, sexy, good listener, goal orientated guy for the most part!!!When I start dating a guy i begin to think if he and I are going to have fun together and what we would do for activities besides being intimate. If hes is boring and has no life why would anyone desire that??? IF the guy does not have self worth he is worth nothing to women (this is the same for women)..we just don't deal with it as you don't want to deal with a crazy girl..lonely men don't get sympathy because you can do something about it. I can tell you right now you will not meet a decent girl at a club or bar. Clubs are times when girls let loose and don't worry about anything else except the creeps that try to hit on her and they just don't get the time of day and all her friends just give you the stare of death look. hahaha We came to the same conclusion. Excellent post, by the way. Link to post Share on other sites
Author BoredPerson Posted March 29, 2009 Author Share Posted March 29, 2009 Boredperson, I have a homework assignment for you. Next time you go out, forget about picking up a hot chick or any chick for that matter. I want you to pick out the ugliest woman in the room and attempt to make her feel beautiful. Don't lie to her, don't try to pick her up, just talk to her in such a way that she feels listened to and validated. If you're not interested in her and you won't be, fine, don't lead her on and at least you'll have a new friend. Choose your girl carefully--look for a diamond in the rough, or someone as least as intelligent as you. And most of all, forget about yourself--self centeredness is sooo unattractive. Just concentrate on her--chances are you won't think she's ugly for long. Just a thought. Are you omish ? As intelligent as me ? So she can drool and eat.. Link to post Share on other sites
You'reasian Posted March 29, 2009 Share Posted March 29, 2009 Are you omish ? Your question sounds like you might be trolling. Link to post Share on other sites
Author BoredPerson Posted March 29, 2009 Author Share Posted March 29, 2009 I'm not saying you have an attitude when u talk to women. I'm talking about the attitude about yourself and this is subconsciously picked up by women. I don't think you need therapy. I think you need to love yourself! Do things for you!! Work out Hike New hobby Volunteer somewhere-you may meet a nice girl Write a book Play poker with buds once a week Play golf or a sport. Get a puppy!! Go for walks start caring about something. Fill up your life and be open to meeting new people. Be kind, be positive! People notice and you never know you just may make an attractive lady smile. There is a start. SMILE even if you fake it! have a sense of humor! Start getting you back, just by reading your post it reminds me of some guy i know and I'm not giving him the time of day because He is screaming out "lonely" vibe. Women don't want a lonely man. Women want a confident, sexy, good listener, goal orientated guy for the most part!!!When I start dating a guy i begin to think if he and I are going to have fun together and what we would do for activities besides being intimate. If hes is boring and has no life why would anyone desire that??? IF the guy does not have self worth he is worth nothing to women (this is the same for women)..we just don't deal with it as you don't want to deal with a crazy girl..lonely men don't get sympathy because you can do something about it. I can tell you right now you will not meet a decent girl at a club or bar. Clubs are times when girls let loose and don't worry about anything else except the creeps that try to hit on her and they just don't get the time of day and all her friends just give you the stare of death look. hahaha I'll just sit and watch the world go by as I always do. Girls aren't interested in creeps like me when there are tonnes of other eligible young men who are better looking, happier, and are at a better point in their career.. Pretty hard to compete with that.. and I don't want to have to compete its boring and I never end up winning because they just pick the other guy. Making me feel tired and sick of the whole thing. Sometimes it makes me motivated in other area's sometimes, like now, it just makes me tired. Link to post Share on other sites
You'reasian Posted March 29, 2009 Share Posted March 29, 2009 I'll just sit and watch the world go by as I always do. Girls aren't interested in creeps like me when there are tonnes of other eligible young men who are better looking, happier, and are at a better point in their career... I've noticed you've mentioned career quite a bit throughout your posts and that you've made some kind of connection between women and career. I challenge you to break that association. You should take pride in whatever it is that you do and work at your trade, but separate that from your desire to meet women since you are meeting them when you aren't at work - I assume unless you're a bartender? Do women in the UK put more importance on a man's career? I've also noticed that you called yourself a douche bag. Look at your life over the last 3 years - what have you done that supports or opposes how you've identified yourself? Not just career, but other achievments. Successes, failures, lessons learned. Another thing to understand is that when you meet a woman on the spot, she cannot possibly process everything about you - if she doesn't even know who you are. This is why stepka suggested that you change your tactic - get to know the person. And if you have been a bored person for the past 3 years, then everything that Lucky555 has suggested would make you an interesting person Best of luck! Link to post Share on other sites
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