DSM2709 Posted August 23, 2009 Share Posted August 23, 2009 I am currently going through a breakup with my ex, who has no problem leapfrogging into new relationship(s) or dating other guys, where I am sitting at my apt, wondering why I can't meet women. I often see other posts on this site how guys say thay have "dated here and there" after their particular breakups. I have been on the computer (dating sites) hoping to strike it lucky with someone, but to no avail. I have been wondering where do I go BY MYSELF to meet women? I feel ackward going to a club, or a bar by myself to meet someone. I do go to the movies and walk through the malls by myself, but then I feel stupid just walking aimlessly hoping to bump into someone who will find me attractive enough to talk to me or vice versa. Because of where I live, I don't really have alot of friends to call and get them to hang out. I do go to the gym, and I'm hoping someday I can find someone their to talk to and see where it goes from there. So, I ask anyone that is in the same boat as me, where do I go BY MYSELF to meet someone?? Any and all advise or ideas would be greatly appreciated. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted August 23, 2009 Share Posted August 23, 2009 I dunno. If I see a woman I am interested in I spark up a conversation. Waiting in line at a restaurant. At the gas station. Grocery store. The gym. Walking down the street. You just gotta smile and say hi. Sometimes...that's all it takes. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DSM2709 Posted August 23, 2009 Author Share Posted August 23, 2009 Thanks CaliGuy, I actually had a woman say to me in a dunkins a couple of weeks ago "you make me feel short!", and I stood in front of her in line, and I didn't have a quick enough answer for her...instead I said something stupid....I am 6'2", and she was short. Sometimes I just don't have the quickness when it comes to things like that...but I'm learning. Link to post Share on other sites
mortensorchid Posted August 23, 2009 Share Posted August 23, 2009 I don't think there's any one place one can go to meet people whether you are along or not. The best way is through friends and other organizations / groups that you may be part of. Just recently I became involved with a theater group and I have met many new friends through them. Not bf material by any means, but friends. I am also off the market in terms of love these days, but I am always willing to meet and make new friends, become involved and try new things, which you must never let go of no matter what happens. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted August 23, 2009 Share Posted August 23, 2009 Thanks CaliGuy, I actually had a woman say to me in a dunkins a couple of weeks ago "you make me feel short!", and I stood in front of her in line, and I didn't have a quick enough answer for her...instead I said something stupid....I am 6'2", and she was short. Sometimes I just don't have the quickness when it comes to things like that...but I'm learning. You need to practice. You should say something like "When you're sexy, nobody cares how tall you are!" (Meh I dunno, just pulled that out of my butt). Just make her smile. That's all that matters. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DSM2709 Posted August 23, 2009 Author Share Posted August 23, 2009 LOL, that's a good one. I'll have to try that sometime. Link to post Share on other sites
mammax3 Posted August 23, 2009 Share Posted August 23, 2009 I agree about classes, or groups. Even if there are no potentials there - if you go out with some of them as friends, you may meet some of their friends and meet more people. Link to post Share on other sites
Chicago_Guy Posted August 24, 2009 Share Posted August 24, 2009 You might consider taking some aerobics classes at your gym if you work out. I work out at a nice gym frequented by many women and I've taken some cycling, cardio kickboxing, and yoga classes at my gym and have literally just started meeting some women this way. I haven't asked anyone out yet because I recently changed my routine to meet women this way, but figure that I might eventually ask out one of these women. I'm not sure how it works at every gym, but at my gym most of the people who take aerobics classes are women, which makes it a little easier for men to be noticed by single women in those classes. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DSM2709 Posted August 24, 2009 Author Share Posted August 24, 2009 Thanks CG, I am attending a gym now, I go Monday thru Friday, I'm trying to go around 5ish or later, because I figure most women work during the day, so then they go to the gym after work. We'll see how that goes. Thanks again. Link to post Share on other sites
SoulSearch_CO Posted August 24, 2009 Share Posted August 24, 2009 <hopes to never be "tackled" by a man. That sounds painful. Not to mention the "ladykiller" part. Of course, given DSM's avie, maybe not so far off the mark. DSM, your avie gives me the creeps every time I see one of your posts. LOL Perhaps the look is what throws some women off. I kid. (in case the post above mine is pulled before people read this post, my first paragraph was in response to a super-cheesy spam message about how to tackle beautiful women) Link to post Share on other sites
Lish Posted August 26, 2009 Share Posted August 26, 2009 You need to practice. You should say something like "When you're sexy, nobody cares how tall you are!" (Meh I dunno, just pulled that out of my butt). Just make her smile. That's all that matters. Hahaha. Smooth. And might I just say...you are quite the fox. Link to post Share on other sites
espec10001 Posted August 26, 2009 Share Posted August 26, 2009 Don't focus on going out to meet single people, go out to do things fun for yourself and to learn new things. If you're just going out and taking classes simply to meet chicks then you're always gonna be dissapointed. It's when your out doing your thing and you just 'happen' to meet someone with common interests now you got something to talk about with them you'll never be wondering 'what do I say' because you have common interest. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted August 26, 2009 Share Posted August 26, 2009 Hahaha. Smooth. And might I just say...you are quite the fox. See?! Instant connection, both are interested. "Hey, let's go grab come coffee" or something like that then chat. It's not that hard you just have to reach out (without looking too much like a dork!). hah. Link to post Share on other sites
Lish Posted August 27, 2009 Share Posted August 27, 2009 See?! Instant connection, both are interested. Ever come to Northern Ireland? Link to post Share on other sites
Brady_to_Moss Posted August 27, 2009 Share Posted August 27, 2009 If I see a woman I am interested in I spark up a conversation. . These women your interested in..is it because of looks and looks only? See i have always thought talking to someone just because they are good looking...its not the right thing to do...well i am weird so thats probably why Link to post Share on other sites
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