Welcome to Hell!!!

[trippi1432]

I've posted these before...the convo's with my STBXH...FL98 started a thread about laughable things ex's say....I've got an entire line of what an a** will say....you see, I have been an emotional punching bag for 15 years...today..I just let it ride....

 

Background (ex is pissed because son has called me every name in the book and hates me when he doesn't get his way and I was going to send him to live with his dad due to son's school refusal) - for those not familiar, my ex is an alcoholic and a pot smoker.

 

Wednesday, Jan 5th, 2009

Ex - Did you find out anything on the bus route?

 

Me - No, not yet. U might want to talk to (son)....he said that he doesnt' want to go and school wasn't bad....(meaning he does not want to live with his dad)

 

Ex - Go where? you guys are confusing me what is the deal?

 

Me - You need to talk to him. He keeps telling me he doesn't want to go. I told him I would give him 1 week, but if he has one more outburst of anger on his sister or doesn't get up for school he was going there.

 

Ex - Going where?

 

Me- To live with you.

 

Ex - here is the deal, you either want him to live there or here. I am not playing games anymore.

 

Me - Since when did the emotional stability of our son become a game. This isn't about u.

 

Thursday was met with calls I did not return...

 

Friday, Jan. 8, 2010

 

Ex - Yr check will be in the mail today

 

Me - R you not taking son this weekend?

 

Ex - calls me and reads me the riot act (I am dirt....trash...and he is so much better off...thanks, I think I am the one better off...so sorry you feel that way...I dont' really give a f***)...click

 

Me - from now on, I will not accept any phone calls from you until you learn to speak to me with respect. I am not ur wife now, so you have no right to speak to me that way.

 

Me - I have asked you for years to help with (son's) behavior problems to no avail. u r still helpless in that area and then accuse

 

Ex - Whatever, you need help

 

Me - me of playing games. I will not stand to be treated like this anymore. ur right, I do need help, the kind a father would give to his son. But I see ur r still the selfish man u have always been.

 

Ex - You have his mind f"d up, now you can alll live in your f"d up world.

 

Me - I'm sorry that you feel that way...I won't ask you to do anything for your son agian other than what you are obligated to.

 

Ex - No I refuse to buy his love, ou are all about he money

 

Ex - Control freak

 

Me - Wow, I didnt' realize our marriage was an episode of the Outsiders. Funny, I wasnt' about money while you were spending it.

 

Me - Wrong, not a control freak....had to "mother" a lot...but I would have love to have come home from work and not had to make all the decisions....u only involved yourself when it was convienient...want to keep going? This is starting to get fun now.

 

Me - Now we can call it a game...cuz now you have made it about us (sorry...I can't disappoint this man...I am the bitch he wants me to be)

 

Ex - I wish someday

Edited January 9, 2010 by trippi1432

[carhill]

I had all this nice advice typed out, but will instead say 'nice rant' and that you have my sympathies

[tojaz]

Way to stand your ground Trippi! Be treated the way you deserve to be.

[trippi1432]

I've posted these before...the convo's with my STBXH...FL98 started a thread about laughable things ex's say....I've got an entire line of what an a** will say....you see, I have been an emotional punching bag for 15 years...today..I just let it ride....

 

Background (ex is pissed because son has called me every name in the book and hates me when he doesn't get his way and I was going to send him to live with his dad due to son's school refusal) - for those not familiar, my ex is an alcoholic and a pot smoker.

 

Wednesday, Jan 5th, 2009

Ex - Did you find out anything on the bus route?

 

Me - No, not yet. U might want to talk to (son)....he said that he doesnt' want to go and school wasn't bad....(meaning he does not want to live with his dad)

 

Ex - Go where? you guys are confusing me what is the deal?

 

Me - You need to talk to him. He keeps telling me he doesn't want to go. I told him I would give him 1 week, but if he has one more outburst of anger on his sister or doesn't get up for school he was going there.

 

Ex - Going where?

 

Me- To live with you.

 

Ex - here is the deal, you either want him to live there or here. I am not playing games anymore.

 

Me - Since when did the emotional stability of our son become a game. This isn't about u.

 

Thursday was met with calls I did not return...

 

Friday, Jan. 8, 2010

 

Ex - Yr check will be in the mail today

 

Me - R you not taking son this weekend?

 

Ex - calls me and reads me the riot act (I am dirt....trash...and he is so much better off...thanks, I think I am the one better off...so sorry you feel that way...I dont' really give a f***)...click

 

Me - from now on, I will not accept any phone calls from you until you learn to speak to me with respect. I am not ur wife now, so you have no right to speak to me that way.

 

Me - I have asked you for years to help with (son's) behavior problems to no avail. u r still helpless in that area and then accuse

 

Ex - Whatever, you need help

 

Me - me of playing games. I will not stand to be treated like this anymore. ur right, I do need help, the kind a father would give to his son. But I see ur r still the selfish man u have always been.

 

Ex - You have his mind f"d up, now you can alll live in your f"d up world.

 

Me - I'm sorry that you feel that way...I won't ask you to do anything for your son agian other than what you are obligated to.

 

Ex - No I refuse to buy his love, ou are all about he money

 

Ex - Control freak

 

Me - Wow, I didnt' realize our marriage was an episode of the Outsiders. Funny, I wasnt' about money while you were spending it.

 

Me - Wrong, not a control freak....had to "mother" a lot...but I would have love to have come home from work and not had to make all the decisions....u only involved yourself when it was convienient...want to keep going? This is starting to get fun now.

 

Me - Now we can call it a game...cuz now you have made it about us (sorry...I can't disappoint this man...I am the bitch he wants me to be)

 

Ex - I wish someday u can find the love. it's amazing!!

 

Me - Thank u for the well withes, that's sweet....yes, still looking for a good man.

 

Ex - My GF thanks you for not noticing the good in me, she is afraid me and her would never met if you did.

 

Me - H, if I even cared about u right now or had one ounce of love for you at all...that would have hurt. I think ur the one that needs to move on

 

Me - Basically, I'm glad that she is the one that has to put up with u now.

 

Me - She is the best thing that happened to either one of us. Tell her I said thank you.

 

Ex - She is on the phone right now. she said you are welcome.

 

Me - LOL!!! Tell her anytime she wants to talk, feel free to call me.

 

Ex - She has better things to do....entertain her man.

 

Me - Good for her....speaking of which....I have several that I can give my attention to (ok...BS, but f* him )

 

Me - Oh, and dont' forget that check since I am so much about money...cio baby.

 

Ex - Try it, everyday its phenomenal.

 

Ex - Hope it don't get lost in the mail.

 

Me - Believe me, I know.....hope it doesnt' would hate to have it taken directly out of your ur check, but we could if you prefer.

 

Ex - P.S. did I mention that we are moving to (another state) in the fall..ta ta

 

Me - Thank God!! I was putting in for a transfer to (state withheld). guess I can tell them to stop that.

 

Ex - (Son) will love (other state). I am getting married there.

 

Me - (Son) is not going to (other state), but I wish you well on the nuptials..Hope you both get everything you deserve...really mean that....

 

Me - You can b a good person when you want to b....and it's good that u two can give that to each other...that is what marriage is about....

 

Ex - Soul mates rock!!!

 

Me - I know, they do.

 

Ex - I am sorry u couldn't bring out the man in me. some people are just better at it than others.

 

Me - I guess, or some ppl know when it isnt' worth the investment. But, when you get tired of being perfect, you have...

 

Ex - I never knew I could be so romantic and a true person....

 

Me - me to take ur frustrations out on....that was all I ever was anyway.

 

Me - Good, I'm happy for u....guess u will be working hard to keep her pleased since u got her 2 weeks after her ex left.

 

Ex - They have been split up for 9 months, his fat ass wouldn't leave.

 

Me - Ok, are you done now? I figure u needed to get that our of your system so we can discuss our son amicably....

 

Ex - you and him (her ex) have a lot in common....want his number?

 

Me - No, I have more than I can handle now.

 

Ex - Really. I will to him for your...have a good day.

 

Me - LOL!! Cio!!

 

Ex - He likes money, r u sure.

 

Ex - he is a slob

 

Ex - Don't put out. u 2 would be perfect.... (me - silently....LMFAO!!! Who would want to screw a putz like you)

 

Me - No, I liek my men with big slongs, lasts for hours and makes more money...remember me = materialistic

 

Me - As I recall, u didn't fit in any of those categories. (yeah, I hated saying this....never held this over his head...he held it over his own....)

 

Ex - Can't help you on the slong part....she calls me marathon man..wierd ha? I guess ours wasn't interesting....

 

Me - Let me ask you a question...why do you care that I know all of this? U r the one who left and the one that didnt' want to work on it

 

Ex - Just playign your game, but normally you're drunk when you play it. ( he's the alcoholic)

I recognize my problems and I have a great supportive cast. Please stop using son as a crutch. If you haven't noticed, I've moved on.

 

Me - Great way to re-write history...they write books about passive aggressive narcissists like you. Love it, a real life case study.

 

Ex - We both have issues. I am working on mine, with a great teacher.

 

Me - Oh, too funny, maybe she's YOUR crutch because you can't fix yourself. She becomes your saving grace until you do something she doesn't like. (Yes, becoming the bitch that he loves me to be.)

 

Ex - No, I respect her.

 

Me - Yea, for now.

 

Ex - Forever. She has realistic dreams and I am included, as well as son.

 

Me - Well, that is good. Enjoy her dreams, you never knew what you wanted anyways.

 

E-mail from my loving 15 year Ex-husband that I could give a **** less about (A copied slap in the face from his new lust-filled relationship):

 

"This is all you were lacking………………………………….. Sorry but you did have faults too..

 

Baby I want you to NEVER lose sight of the fact that you are a beautiful, endearing, amazing, intelligent, phenomenal, caring individual. I truly do feel blessed that you are mine. Nothing in my life (other than the birth of my children) has brought me the happiness that you have. You're everything I've ever asked for and so much more. Thank YOU for being who you are!!!!! Thank YOU for loving me. Thank YOU for being the answer to my prayers."

Edited January 9, 2010 by trippi1432
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[trippi1432]

I had all this nice advice typed out, but will instead say 'nice rant' and that you have my sympathies

 

Thanks carhill; once you've married a dick, you always know one when you see one!:laugh::laugh:

[trippi1432]

Way to stand your ground Trippi! Be treated the way you deserve to be.

 

 

Believe me...after 15 years...I KNOW!!!!

 

I have to admit tho..after about 10 minutes of these assinine texts...I started feeling a little bit like the cat playing with a mouse in a mouse trap because I no longer gave a crap.

[trippi1432]

Way to stand your ground Trippi! Be treated the way you deserve to be.

 

 

Yeah...I try...but WTF...once screwed, you are always screwed.

[tojaz]

Yeah...I try...but WTF...once screwed, you are always screwed.

 

If you believe that, then your going to miss out on a lot of good things in life. It is a terrible way to go through life always waiting for the other shoe to drop, or worse trying to beat it to the punch. Screwed once does not a life make.

TOJAZ

[Gunny376]

I am sorry u couldn't bring out the man in me. some people are just better at it than others

No real man (and trust me after twenty years + in the Corps, I know some men that are men among men) would ever make a comment like that.

 

Your better off without this clown, what a waste, what loser, a true jewel.

 

Why are you engaging this Azzhat in any conversation other than absolutely necessary.

 

He gave up his 'bitcin' rights and any commentary about you and your life the day he walked out the door.

 

My XHEX started making comments about me and my how I'm living my life to my children awhile back, and I set her straight that she doesn't know spit about me, my life, or how I live my life. (The tables have flipped ~ and Karma is kicking her @zz ~ aka ~ "Who's crying now,...................)

 

Thanks to the self discipline and self control the Corps taught me, I bit the bullet, went without, did without, ate BennieWennies and Ramen for years.

 

Quit being a fool and got myself back into school ~ both formally and informally (bookstore and library)

 

In so far as the DS goes, you might want to read of series of paperback books titled "Tough Love" (I've got them laying around here somewhere and can look up the author and the ISB number for you come Monday or Tuesday)

 

When I was 15 and going through my rebellious teenage years, my Dad took me down, shaved my head (mind you this was in the early seventies), woke me up out of bed early one morning banging on a garbage can lid with a kitchen spoon, then took me down to the city jail and had me locked up for eight hours. Then he kicked me out of the house for twenty four hours. He had already called all of my friends parents and told them not to let me in. (Very small town Pop 1000) It was during January. And bitter cold.

 

When I came home? He asked me, "Is this how you want to live your Life? Because that's the road your headed down."

 

If you can't find the the books, let me know via PM and I'll mail you my copies via 'blind mail drop" (I'll have to check with the post office as how to do this ~ I've done it before.)

 

Finally quit stressing over this @zzhat. You do owe other woman a card thanking him for taking him off of your hands. Your better off without him.

 

Your biggest problem is in finding a card with the right sentiment? I don't think Hallmark makes a card that says something along the lines of ~

 

"Thank you!

 

Thank you for taking this lying, cheating, two-timing, pot smoking, drunk SOB off of my hands!

 

I really don't know how much longer I could have gone on!

 

Now I can go and find myself a real man, a man that's a man's man, and that doesn't need a woman nor anyone else to be a man!

 

Now I can go and find myself someone that's got just as much to give if not more, whose just as good if not better.

 

You can have the KIA Baby, I'm going to find myself a Lexus!

[carhill]

Thanks carhill; once you've married a dick, you always know one when you see one!:laugh::laugh:

I've heard this story so many times over the decades, personally, that I've had to disconnect from it, especially the children part, as someone who always wanted children. Whoever said the best genes reproduce surely didn't mean some of these fathers I've had the pain of hearing about.

 

TBH, I'd get him withheld for child support. So much cleaner that way and no conversations. That's my only advice. Best wishes

[Gunny376]

I've heard this story so many times over the decades, personally, that I've had to disconnect from it, especially the children part, as someone who always wanted children. Whoever said the best genes reproduce surely didn't mean some of these fathers I've had the pain of hearing about.

 

TBH, I'd get him withheld for child support. So much cleaner that way and no conversations. That's my only advice. Best wishes

 

Got that part right!

 

The less said?

 

The best said!

[trippi1432]

Sheesh....was hoping you wouldn't see the palm trees Gunny....thought I hid the rum this time....

 

Yes....I let myself become the punching bag today....what can I say...he can't have a successful relationship with his "soul mate" without a willing punching bag. I KNOW...been fussed out by more than one person tonight for putting myself in that position. I did hold out for 3 days by not answering his calls or texts...guess he had a lot of hate and aggression built up...but if you notice, what set him off was me stating that I deserved more respect from him than that....never had it, never will.

 

Yes...I brought it on myself, honestly, he wasn't going to give up hammering on me and dealing with his son until he nailed me in the ground...did I give him what he wants....always have, even at my own expense. Was it worth it..NO...did I go into self-destruct mode....most likely, not because his opinion matters but the insults do hurt....they have for 15 years...just gotten uglier. In the end, he dealt with his son tonight in a positive manner when he didn't want to go to his dad's. I didnt' have to hear about it....I guess that better satisfy him for a while because YES!! I'm tired of being the punching bag.

[trippi1432]

If you believe that, then your going to miss out on a lot of good things in life. It is a terrible way to go through life always waiting for the other shoe to drop, or worse trying to beat it to the punch. Screwed once does not a life make.

TOJAZ

 

I know...trying to remember that. Tks.

[Gunny376]

So let me get this straight? Just so I UNDERSTAND?

Your this self supporting, self independent woman that's letting a drunken, lying, two-timing cheating POS pot head run rough shod over your life?

 

Where in tha' Hell did you ever get into you head that you couldn't do better than this?

 

Anything he's got to offer? There's someone out there that got more! Any answers he can answer ~ they got better answers to. Any solutions he's got ~ there's better solutions to.

 

Forget this mother-trucker ~ leave him to the side of the road. He's broke down and out of gas!

[hopesndreams]

I've posted these before...the convo's with my STBXH...FL98 started a thread about laughable things ex's say....I've got an entire line of what an a** will say....you see, I have been an emotional punching bag for 15 years...today..I just let it ride....

 

Background (ex is pissed because son has called me every name in the book and hates me when he doesn't get his way and I was going to send him to live with his dad due to son's school refusal) - for those not familiar, my ex is an alcoholic and a pot smoker.

 

Wednesday, Jan 5th, 2009

Ex - Did you find out anything on the bus route?

 

Me - No, not yet. U might want to talk to (son)....he said that he doesnt' want to go and school wasn't bad....(meaning he does not want to live with his dad)

 

Ex - Go where? you guys are confusing me what is the deal?

 

Me - You need to talk to him. He keeps telling me he doesn't want to go. I told him I would give him 1 week, but if he has one more outburst of anger on his sister or doesn't get up for school he was going there.

 

Ex - Going where?

 

Me- To live with you.

 

Ex - here is the deal, you either want him to live there or here. I am not playing games anymore.

 

Me - Since when did the emotional stability of our son become a game. This isn't about u.

 

Thursday was met with calls I did not return...

 

Friday, Jan. 8, 2010

 

Ex - Yr check will be in the mail today

 

Me - R you not taking son this weekend?

 

Ex - calls me and reads me the riot act (I am dirt....trash...and he is so much better off...thanks, I think I am the one better off...so sorry you feel that way...I dont' really give a f***)...click

 

Me - from now on, I will not accept any phone calls from you until you learn to speak to me with respect. I am not ur wife now, so you have no right to speak to me that way.

 

Me - I have asked you for years to help with (son's) behavior problems to no avail. u r still helpless in that area and then accuse

 

Ex - Whatever, you need help

 

Me - me of playing games. I will not stand to be treated like this anymore. ur right, I do need help, the kind a father would give to his son. But I see ur r still the selfish man u have always been.

 

Ex - You have his mind f"d up, now you can alll live in your f"d up world.

 

Me - I'm sorry that you feel that way...I won't ask you to do anything for your son agian other than what you are obligated to.

 

Ex - No I refuse to buy his love, ou are all about he money

 

Ex - Control freak

 

Me - Wow, I didnt' realize our marriage was an episode of the Outsiders. Funny, I wasnt' about money while you were spending it.

 

Me - Wrong, not a control freak....had to "mother" a lot...but I would have love to have come home from work and not had to make all the decisions....u only involved yourself when it was convienient...want to keep going? This is starting to get fun now.

 

Me - Now we can call it a game...cuz now you have made it about us (sorry...I can't disappoint this man...I am the bitch he wants me to be)

 

Ex - I wish someday u can find the love. it's amazing!!

 

Me - Thank u for the well withes, that's sweet....yes, still looking for a good man.

 

Ex - My GF thanks you for not noticing the good in me, she is afraid me and her would never met if you did.

 

Me - H, if I even cared about u right now or had one ounce of love for you at all...that would have hurt. I think ur the one that needs to move on

 

Me - Basically, I'm glad that she is the one that has to put up with u now.

 

Me - She is the best thing that happened to either one of us. Tell her I said thank you.

 

Ex - She is on the phone right now. she said you are welcome.

 

Me - LOL!!! Tell her anytime she wants to talk, feel free to call me.

 

Ex - She has better things to do....entertain her man.

 

Me - Good for her....speaking of which....I have several that I can give my attention to (ok...BS, but f* him )

 

Me - Oh, and dont' forget that check since I am so much about money...cio baby.

 

Ex - Try it, everyday its phenomenal.

 

Ex - Hope it don't get lost in the mail.

 

Me - Believe me, I know.....hope it doesnt' would hate to have it taken directly out of your ur check, but we could if you prefer.

 

Ex - P.S. did I mention that we are moving to (another state) in the fall..ta ta

 

Me - Thank God!! I was putting in for a transfer to (state withheld). guess I can tell them to stop that.

 

Ex - (Son) will love (other state). I am getting married there.

 

Me - (Son) is not going to (other state), but I wish you well on the nuptials..Hope you both get everything you deserve...really mean that....

 

Me - You can b a good person when you want to b....and it's good that u two can give that to each other...that is what marriage is about....

 

Ex - Soul mates rock!!!

 

Me - I know, they do.

 

Ex - I am sorry u couldn't bring out the man in me. some people are just better at it than others.

 

Me - I guess, or some ppl know when it isnt' worth the investment. But, when you get tired of being perfect, you have...

 

Ex - I never knew I could be so romantic and a true person....

 

Me - me to take ur frustrations out on....that was all I ever was anyway.

 

Me - Good, I'm happy for u....guess u will be working hard to keep her pleased since u got her 2 weeks after her ex left.

 

Ex - They have been split up for 9 months, his fat ass wouldn't leave.

 

Me - Ok, are you done now? I figure u needed to get that our of your system so we can discuss our son amicably....

 

Ex - you and him (her ex) have a lot in common....want his number?

 

Me - No, I have more than I can handle now.

 

Ex - Really. I will to him for your...have a good day.

 

Me - LOL!! Cio!!

 

Ex - He likes money, r u sure.

 

Ex - he is a slob

 

Ex - Don't put out. u 2 would be perfect.... (me - silently....LMFAO!!! Who would want to screw a putz like you)

 

Me - No, I liek my men with big slongs, lasts for hours and makes more money...remember me = materialistic

 

Me - As I recall, u didn't fit in any of those categories. (yeah, I hated saying this....never held this over his head...he held it over his own....)

 

Ex - Can't help you on the slong part....she calls me marathon man..wierd ha? I guess ours wasn't interesting....

 

Me - Let me ask you a question...why do you care that I know all of this? U r the one who left and the one that didnt' want to work on it

 

Ex - Just playign your game, but normally you're drunk when you play it. ( he's the alcoholic)

I recognize my problems and I have a great supportive cast. Please stop using son as a crutch. If you haven't noticed, I've moved on.

 

Me - Great way to re-write history...they write books about passive aggressive narcissists like you. Love it, a real life case study.

 

Ex - We both have issues. I am working on mine, with a great teacher.

 

Me - Oh, too funny, maybe she's YOUR crutch because you can't fix yourself. She becomes your saving grace until you do something she doesn't like. (Yes, becoming the bitch that he loves me to be.)

 

Ex - No, I respect her.

 

Me - Yea, for now.

 

Ex - Forever. She has realistic dreams and I am included, as well as son.

 

Me - Well, that is good. Enjoy her dreams, you never knew what you wanted anyways.

 

E-mail from my loving 15 year Ex-husband that I could give a **** less about (A copied slap in the face from his new lust-filled relationship):

 

"This is all you were lacking………………………………….. Sorry but you did have faults too..

 

Baby I want you to NEVER lose sight of the fact that you are a beautiful, endearing, amazing, intelligent, phenomenal, caring individual. I truly do feel blessed that you are mine. Nothing in my life (other than the birth of my children) has brought me the happiness that you have. You're everything I've ever asked for and so much more. Thank YOU for being who you are!!!!! Thank YOU for loving me. Thank YOU for being the answer to my prayers."

 

This is exactly why NC is so important.

[trippi1432]

Today, after 3 days of NC (because I refuse to answer my phone) I get this in the mail today...a CS check for less than the amount.

 

From Ex:

 

Here is the $XXX, I was under the assumption (son) was staying with me for a week. I went and got $xxx in groceries. I will send the checks as listed on the "card" (business card). Once again, we had a lack of communication. You will get your monies owed. I am not retaliating. If there is one thing we could change about both of us, I wish we could both stop hurting each other's feelings. (Sorry, think you were doing a prety good run last week...hoping this isn't my karma or my destiny.)

 

I will mail the checks on Thursday's for now on and maybe you will recieve on Friday's.

 

Tks,

 

Ex

 

 

Hmmm, feelings...he had them...Wow!!! I must have totally been in the dark.....

Edited January 12, 2010 by trippi1432

[FeelingLonely98]

trippi - Wow. I can't believe you have to deal with this BS. But why are you? NC my dear. NC!! If ever a situation demanded it ... Only respond to important matters about the child. Listen to Gunny, HnD, ... others. You don't have to put up with this POS guy.

I guarantee that no matter how wonderful he claims the new relationship is it will disintegrate - OR it is already unsatisfying but he is claiming it is all peaches and cream.

You deserve better ...

 

Also, one of your text messages said something like "you no longer have to right to speak to me like that since I am no longer your wife". WRONG!!! He never had the right to speak to you like that. No man does. Like Gunny would say - No Real Man Would (talk to a woman like that).

[trippi1432]

Thanks FL98, I wish I could be totally NC with the ex..but now he is forefront and in the center...who did that...ME....son with behavorial problems and school issues. He is now living with his father.

 

In the meantime, I continue to implode my life so I can rebuild from it. The only way from Rock Bottom is UP. To hell with being honest and vulnerable...after today...it's all about ME (as it should be ,but I hate myself for not knowing it). I'm done.....you can care...you can wish with all your heart that they see...but some people are so stuck in their in the place of oblivion they can't pull themselves out...sometimes you just have to save yourself.

 

Pull away, back away...better off alone.....doesnt' mean that they didnt' mean the world to you. Just means you weren't a part of theirs.

Edited January 14, 2010 by trippi1432

[FeelingLonely98]

...sometimes you just have to save yourself.

 

When I finally "Saved" myself that's when I became a better Father again, a better brother, son, employee, ... All of these suffered while I was "lost" ... and would more than likely still be suffering if I had not found myself. (In some way I thank my STBXW for having ZERO desire to work on the M. Otherwise I'd still be lost to some level.)

 

Save yourself trippi - sounds like the only plan now.

 

I know you can not establish absolute NC. But make it as limited as possible. Don't deal with this jerk any more than is absolutely necessary.

 

Good Luck!!!!!

[trippi1432]

When I finally "Saved" myself that's when I became a better Father again, a better brother, son, employee, ... All of these suffered while I was "lost" ... and would more than likely still be suffering if I had not found myself. (In some way I thank my STBXW for having ZERO desire to work on the M. Otherwise I'd still be lost to some level.)

 

Save yourself trippi - sounds like the only plan now. Fully agree on this one.

 

I know you can not establish absolute NC. But make it as limited as possible. Don't deal with this jerk any more than is absolutely necessary.

 

Good Luck!!!!!

 

Actually, it's really strange now that ex has our son...the son is now defending me and his sister to him...lol! And ex called this morning to let me know that our son is staying in his current school and we can do split custody...one week with mom, one week with dad. I'm at least hopeful that this works and we can get along for our son. If nothing else, the ex seems happy which gets me off the hook when he is frustrated.

 

Now...hopefully I can find some peace from all the chaos and work on me.

[hopesndreams]

It will always and forever be, just about him, his feelings.

 

Get along with him? You are kidding, right?

 

He has no right in your business. Not anymore. End it.

 

After I left my 1st H, he knew absolutely nothing about MY life, and we had joint custody of 2 little kids.

[trippi1432]

It will always and forever be, just about him, his feelings.

 

Get along with him? You are kidding, right?

 

He has no right in your business. Not anymore. End it.

 

After I left my 1st H, he knew absolutely nothing about MY life, and we had joint custody of 2 little kids.

 

Thanks H&D, honestly, there is nothing to end there....he has HIS life and I have MINE but we have to SHARE the son. If this gets my ex off my back and is good for our son, then it is what it is.

 

Ultimately, I need to work on me and I need to find some peace somewhere in all of this drama.