bananaboat11 Posted January 18, 2010 Share Posted January 18, 2010 (edited) People who intentionally rebound are disgusting, despicable excuses for human beings... I'm sorry, but work on your self-esteem and get some respect for yourselves. It's gross for yourself... sooooooooo insulting and demeaning to the rebound person and disrespectful to your ex. Grow Up! /rant ~ 3 months later and I'm finally coming to terms that I'll never hear from her again and I'm growing more content with this fact. I was, unfortunately, stupid enough not to see that I WAS her rebound guy... speaks loudly to me that she is not healthy mentally, emotionally, etc and there is definitely so much better out there. Her ex was abusive to her... and if that's how she can find comfort, then so be it. I can no longer sit here and wonder about the what if's. It's definitely easier to speak words than it is to abide by them (for those of you who've I left comforting messages). Know, that I truly believe in words I've spoken and I find it's time that I live up to them. Thank you McGrupp... I wouldn't have picked my testicles up off the floor if it weren't for your recent post. Huge thank you to BHG, Penelope, LovelyDays, KATEYES, Serena, Caliguy, DB, and others (sorry if you've been listening to my rants / took the time to read my posts and reply)... thank YOU. It's time to start 2010 tomorrow... a brand new year for me... a brand new me. Until now, I've surrounded myself with good friends... family... and indulged in life's bittersweet activities. I've been going out to the bars w/ friends more, finally getting my academics back on track, being a bit more flirtatious, lifting more seriously than I have been the last few months (b/c of the psycho, abusive ex), and eating more again... The sleep thing I'm working on... but eventually. I can only know that I need to continue to reflect and grow internally... as I hope to walk again with that aura of confidence... that arrogance... and pure heart. I refuse to bow out gracefully... as I continue to heal I will only be here to help others to the best of my abilities. I know last night was a HUGE setback for me emotionally (no did not break No Contact... the Ex + ALL mutual friends are still on block via FB). Regardless, I never expect her or any of those failures (one of her friends who was a mutual friend I heard was fired from her job for not showing up carelessly for a week) to EVER contact me again... ever. The ex's pride precedes any rational thought... and that is her curse. She will one day feel remorse and sorrowful, but will expect me to find her because that is who she is. I am glad I do not associate with these individuals anymore. I wish to be more proactive in empowering myself to be a better lover, a better student, a better academic, a better partner, friend, companion, and person overall. (and I now can thanks to many of you - and I hope more of you reach this point). I like to myself believe... and slowly, it comes to light. Ty To anyone who has been a rebound... I empathize. It does not feel good whatsoever, and I'm sure you're like me wishing you saw those red flags earlier on in the "relationship". Just know you're not the problem. It SUCKS they dragged you into their problem, but you NEED to realize that it's THEIR problem. They are insecure, immature, and have a lot of underlying issues that need to be worked out. I now know I refuse to enter into a "relationship" unless they are 'healthy' emotionally... mentally. How to classify that? hmmm Thank you all... so, so much. From the bottom of my heart. Edited January 18, 2010 by bananaboat11 Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted January 18, 2010 Share Posted January 18, 2010 I'd glad to see this. You shouldn't have any regrets in your life as long as you learn from every experience and bring that knowledge and wisdom to each new experience. Without these sorts of bad experiences, you would never grow as a person... Link to post Share on other sites
Author bananaboat11 Posted January 18, 2010 Author Share Posted January 18, 2010 I'd glad to see this. You shouldn't have any regrets in your life as long as you learn from every experience and bring that knowledge and wisdom to each new experience. Without these sorts of bad experiences, you would never grow as a person... You're one of the names I meant to thank. Thank you! Link to post Share on other sites
Recommended Posts