threebyfate Posted February 23, 2010 Share Posted February 23, 2010 This is a question for members who've been divorced, of either gender. If you're a man, did your ex-wife change her last name to yours, when you originally got married? If you're a woman, did you take your ex-husband's last name when you originally got married? I'm a woman and yes, I took my ex-husband's last name when we originally got married. Link to post Share on other sites
Gunny376 Posted February 23, 2010 Share Posted February 23, 2010 Yes she did. Last I heard she's on DHX3! Thus far to date she's had four last names! Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted February 23, 2010 Share Posted February 23, 2010 If you're a man, did your ex-wife change her last name to yours, when you originally got married? No........... Link to post Share on other sites
FreeNow Posted February 23, 2010 Share Posted February 23, 2010 I was going to take the last name of my first fiance. Hers was cooler and fit with her career intentions. First wife took my last name. Her choice. Second wife took my name. Her choice. She still uses it everywhere except on one social networking site and we've been divorced for years. So that's one would have (for me) and two yes (for them). Link to post Share on other sites
MJEW Posted February 23, 2010 Share Posted February 23, 2010 I had told my ex that I wasn't going to change my last name, he got pretty upset about it being the old school type. That was always a bone of contention between us. He actually refused to wear his wedding ring for a whole year because I wouldn't change my last name to his. Link to post Share on other sites
LonelyTiger Posted February 23, 2010 Share Posted February 23, 2010 I only filed for divorce yesterday so not sure that I qualify to answer this question but it's an interesting one so I'm going to join in anyway. No, I didn't take my ex's surname when we got married. I've got a really unusual surname and I like it, I never wanted to change it - and he didn't care what name I used. His first wife didn't change her name either! I've often wondered if there's a moral to this story Link to post Share on other sites
Gunny376 Posted February 23, 2010 Share Posted February 23, 2010 I've got a really unusual surname and I like it, I never wanted to change it - I can relate? Mine is Normandy French which when translated means "guy with a greeat looking @zz!" Link to post Share on other sites
LonelyTiger Posted February 23, 2010 Share Posted February 23, 2010 I've got a really unusual surname and I like it, I never wanted to change it - I can relate? Mine is Normandy French which when translated means "guy with a greeat looking @zz!" I'll bet it does Gunny! Mine's French Hugenot which when translated means "smoking hot, sexy woman" - obviously! Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted February 23, 2010 Share Posted February 23, 2010 I never take anyone else's last name. I believe that has a ring of posession to it. I didn't take my exH's last name. I would never take a man's name. I like MY name. My son has my last name, too - not his father's. Because my last name is 100 times cooler than his father's anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
OWoman Posted February 23, 2010 Share Posted February 23, 2010 This is a question for members who've been divorced, of either gender. If you're a man, did your ex-wife change her last name to yours, when you originally got married? If you're a woman, did you take your ex-husband's last name when you originally got married? I'm a woman and yes, I took my ex-husband's last name when we originally got married. I've been M twice. The first time, I took my H's surname because I preferred it to my own. When I D'd him I kept it, because it was easier, and because the kids had it too. When I M'd again, recently, I took my new H's surname - partly to signal a "new me" (new life, new country, new name) and partly because I did not want to be dragging the ghost of my xH around with me in my new M. My H has also been M before. His 1st W had been M before (briefly) and she'd taken her 1st H's name. After the D, she kept that name. I guess the issue about "ghosts of husbands past" didn't faze her - she'd cheated on her 1st H with her second (who didn't know she was M at the time...). She later reverted to her own name, so that the kids could have a double-barrelled surname (his-hers, rather than his-her xH's). I'm still leading a double life though as half of my documents are still in my old (xH's) name, and half in my new (H's) name... Link to post Share on other sites
You Go Girl Posted February 23, 2010 Share Posted February 23, 2010 This is an interesting topic for me because I am facing my second divorce. I never took 2nd H's name. I kept the name of my 1st H because I had a minor child and preferred to have the same last name when dealing with leaving the country, schools, etc. Now what? Do I go back to my maiden name now that my child is 20? I don't think I will. I am going to keep 1st H name. Why? Well, my father was not a nice person. I don't want to go back to an association there, even though he is deceased. I like that I am distanced from what was a tyrannical parent. My 1st H's father was a very kind man. I feel better wearing this name associated with that kind person. I guess in my first marriage, being young, I felt--adopted. Link to post Share on other sites
sumdude Posted February 23, 2010 Share Posted February 23, 2010 My ex wife took my surname... then gave it back. Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted February 23, 2010 Share Posted February 23, 2010 Separated five years, divorcing this summer. I took stbxH's name. I'm not sure what I want to do when I get married again. Got a year or so to think about it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author threebyfate Posted February 23, 2010 Author Share Posted February 23, 2010 The following statistics are based on members who are divorcing or have been divorced. Each divorce is tabulated as one vote. I didn't count engagements, existing marriages or hearsay. These statistics end at Lb. If anyone has posted afterwards, I'll incorporate it in the next consolidation: Yes, I or she took his/my last name: 61.54% No, I or she didn't take his/my last name: 38.46% Thanks to everyone who's posted. If anyone else wants to participate, plse feel free to do so, as I'll continue tabulating. Link to post Share on other sites
melodymatters Posted February 23, 2010 Share Posted February 23, 2010 I was married twice. Divorced once, widowed once, never changed my name. That should bring up the odds:) Curious TBF, did you change back after your divorce or keep his name ? And now that you are remarried, where are you name wise ? Link to post Share on other sites
sumdude Posted February 23, 2010 Share Posted February 23, 2010 My ex wife took my surname... then gave it back. Oh yeah and i do believe she took the last name of the guy she married right after our D.. not even sure she went back to her maiden name at all lol.. Link to post Share on other sites
hopesndreams Posted February 23, 2010 Share Posted February 23, 2010 Married twice. Will soon be divorced twice. Didn't officially change last name with either. Link to post Share on other sites
Author threebyfate Posted February 23, 2010 Author Share Posted February 23, 2010 Yes, I or she took his/my last name: 57.14% No, I or she didn't take his/my last name: 42.46% Statistics amended up to melodymatters, which only includes the one marriage that ended in divorce. mel, I changed back to my maiden name after the divorce and didn't change my name for my second marriage. While H. would have preferred the name change, he respected my choice. Link to post Share on other sites
sally4sara Posted February 24, 2010 Share Posted February 24, 2010 I took my 1st husband's last name - divorced after 8 years. I am married a second time. I kept my last name for reasons that do not include some stupid battle of the genders. Link to post Share on other sites
Author threebyfate Posted February 24, 2010 Author Share Posted February 24, 2010 Yes, I or she took his/my last name: 52.94% No, I or she didn't take his/my last name: 47.06% Statistics amended up to sally4sara, which only includes the marriages that ended in divorce. Link to post Share on other sites
2sure Posted February 24, 2010 Share Posted February 24, 2010 Changed my name twice for marriage. In between went back to my maiden name. My daughter has her father's last name which is one I never took. I have so many AKAs I look like a criminal. Link to post Share on other sites
Author threebyfate Posted February 24, 2010 Author Share Posted February 24, 2010 2sure, is your second marriage ending in divorce, for certain? I'm only including marriages that end in divorce. Thanks. Better aka's than dba's! Link to post Share on other sites
2sure Posted February 24, 2010 Share Posted February 24, 2010 Who the hell knows. Either way, I'm saying right here and now that my ID stays the same. Link to post Share on other sites
White Flower Posted February 24, 2010 Share Posted February 24, 2010 This is a question for members who've been divorced, of either gender. If you're a man, did your ex-wife change her last name to yours, when you originally got married? If you're a woman, did you take your ex-husband's last name when you originally got married? I'm a woman and yes, I took my ex-husband's last name when we originally got married. I took my ex-husband's last name when I got married, and kept it after D because there were too many assets, credit cards, etc in that name. Plus my children have that last name and some are still in school. If I remarry, I will gladly change it if my new H wants me to. Link to post Share on other sites
Author threebyfate Posted February 24, 2010 Author Share Posted February 24, 2010 Yes, I or she took his/my last name: 57.89% No, I or she didn't take his/my last name: 42.11% Statistics amended up to White Flower, which only includes the marriages that ended in divorce. Thanks to everyone who've particated. If anyone else wants to participate, the poll will be recalculated. I don't blame you 2sure. It's how I felt after the end of my first marriage. Not going to change my name ever again, so I didn't, for my current marriage. Link to post Share on other sites
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