Itsnotme Posted April 22, 2010 Share Posted April 22, 2010 Hi all. I haven't posted on LS for almost a year (after I was messed around by a guy I never got to meet) but I have read all the LDR posts since that time. I just had to share my story with you. So, I remained single and have been for two years in total. When I was eighteen (26 years ago ) I had a relationship with a wonderful man who was the same age. We lived together and bought a home together and were together for nearly 3 yrs. But, we were young and stupid and I had my finger on the self destruct button. I was, at that time, very insecure and jealous and, as crazy as I was about him, I just drove him away. I have never ever forgotton about him. I was head over heels in love with this guy and although he loved me, he just couldn't put up with me any longer. (Thank goodness I grew up ) I last saw him 25 yrs ago when I was nineteen. I had other relationships and eventually married and had three children. Even then, I never ever forgot about him. So fast forward 25yrs. I spotted his best friend from back then on facebook as a friend of one of my friends. I was thrilled to contact him as he and his girlfriend were best friends of me and my boyfriend. I sent him a message asking how he was and if he ever saw my ex. He sent a lovely message back saying that they were still best friends and he was seeing him that very night. So he tells my ex that I had been in contact and the ex immediately signs up to facebook and sends me a message. We messaged on there for two days, exchanged numbers and texted and then rang eachother. Boy those phone calls were long lol and they still are. Two weeks later he came to see me for the weekend. He walked out of the station doors and it was like stepping back in time. The entire weekend was just fabulous. I cannot even describe how well we got on and how happy we were. It was all so perfect. Lots of kisses and cuddles too but we wanted to wait until next visit for anything further physically. So, we are still in text contact several times a day and we talk each night on the phone. He's coming to see me the weekend after next I tried to find him without success three years ago and it appears he tried to find me too about a year ago. But, I had changed names after being married. He was married and has four children. Two are grown up and his daughters are 15 and 12. They live with their mum but he sees them regularly. He's been divorced for four years and there has been no SO since. We are three and half hours apart and I don't drive. Also he works all the hours god sends. But after that magical weekend, we are again crazy about eachother and are going to make a go of this second time around. I have no idea where its all headed but I now find myself in an LDR with the only man I ever truely loved. I went through every emotion you can imagine when he had to get back on that train. I came home feeling flat and empty but thrilled that it had all gone so amazingly well. I've struggled through the last almost three weeks and I have to say that I take my hat off to all of you who cope with LDR's but he's been so amazingly consistent with his contact and said some wonderful things to me. I am just buzzing from all of this. Rekindled love after 25yrs. How lucky am I? I wanted to share my story with you and I hope that you'll be here for me through the good times and the (not to frequent) bad. Link to post Share on other sites
aerogurl87 Posted April 22, 2010 Share Posted April 22, 2010 Awww that's so freaking sweet! I hope everything turns out well for you two this go around. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Itsnotme Posted April 23, 2010 Author Share Posted April 23, 2010 Isn't it awesome Thanks for your kind words. Link to post Share on other sites
Deeblondie82 Posted April 28, 2010 Share Posted April 28, 2010 Thats a great story!!! Good luck with it all.. Link to post Share on other sites
Passionate1 Posted April 28, 2010 Share Posted April 28, 2010 WOW....eerily similar story as mine. 21 years ago I fell in love with an amazing guy (we were both 19) and I also screwed it up by being jealous and clingy. I never forgot him either and often thought of him. I always said that if he ever showed up on my doorstep one day that I would leave everything behind to be with him. Like you, I got connected with his BF on Facebook and asked about him. Unfortunately, we were both married at the time (over a year ago) so I let it drop. About a month ago I noticed through the friends FB page that he was now a friend, so I sent the friend request. He accepted right away and we began exchanging emails about typical stuff...jobs, children, etc. He let me know right away that he had been separated for "a few years" and I couldn't have been happier. I know, that's awful, lol. Needless to say, we communicated every few days through email and chat and eventually I got the nerve up to call him. His voice alone was music to my ears. I just couldn't believe that the dream that I had been dreaming for over 20 years was actually starting to come true. We both couldn't wait to see each other so we planned a rendezvous "in the middle" (we are 4 hours apart). It was amazing!! It was like we never were apart...everything was so natural. We text and chat every day (that started about a week after getting in touch on FB) and talk on the phone almost as much...even if it is just a 5 minute call to see how our days were. We are seeing each other again in less than 2 weeks and I can't wait. You and I are both very lucky in that we have reconnected with our only true loves. I have been married twice, and I can tell you with absolute certainty that I would NOT go back to either of them. I guess they just never lived up to my one true love, and as much as I wanted them to be "the one" they just never were. Here's to hoping that both of us can finally make it work with "the one". Link to post Share on other sites
Spiritofnow Posted May 6, 2010 Share Posted May 6, 2010 Wow!!!! What a beautiful story...I don't know what else to say other than grab it with both hands and be present in every single moment. Here's to love : ) Link to post Share on other sites
Author Itsnotme Posted May 6, 2010 Author Share Posted May 6, 2010 Thank you. We've just spent this last weekend together again and it was even better than before. I am totally 100% crazy about him. I'm struggling to keep busy now until I travel to him in three weeks time. He is still so consistent in his contact. Thank you for your kind words. Passionate1......I so hope that all goes well for you too. I'm looking out for the updates Link to post Share on other sites
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