This time of year is tough!

[mike5770]

Broke up with ex in July....Broke NC twice but just emails no drunk dialing or texting predictably got no response (been 2 months since last attempt) As usual after breakup with g friends am in a big slump with women get numbers that go nowhere or not even getting numbers. Always seems loke I am single this time of year out in the cold looking in again while everyone has warm relationships. Sorry just feeling sorry for myself tonight.

[Feelin Frisky]

Broke up with ex in July....Broke NC twice but just emails no drunk dialing or texting predictably got no response (been 2 months since last attempt) As usual after breakup with g friends am in a big slump with women get numbers that go nowhere or not even getting numbers. Always seems loke I am single this time of year out in the cold looking in again while everyone has warm relationships. Sorry just feeling sorry for myself tonight.

 

You're not alone--especially not here about the holiday thing. Some things I just try to put out of my mind. It'll be over soon enough.

[cerridwen]

Definitely not alone and yes, this is a rough time of year.

 

But, come December 31st, it's time to drop kick this crappy year into oblivion and welcome in a new, better one. Personally, I'm going to toast to 2010 ending with a nice bottle of ice wine--or two.

[PegNosePete]

Yes whilst Christmas is a time for single people to sit around feeling sorry for themselves, New Year is a time for single people to be in a bar and come midnight just grab the nearest single girl and plant one on her.

[denise_xo]

Broke up with ex in July....Broke NC twice but just emails no drunk dialing or texting predictably got no response (been 2 months since last attempt) As usual after breakup with g friends am in a big slump with women get numbers that go nowhere or not even getting numbers. Always seems loke I am single this time of year out in the cold looking in again while everyone has warm relationships. Sorry just feeling sorry for myself tonight.

 

If it's any consolation (which I suspect it isn't) I've always longed to be alone during the holidays. When I grew up, holidays were always such a depressing 'family' time. My best holidays have been those where I could avoid all the rituals, and, preferrably, just be alone. This year I have an in-between, compromise kind of set up. I'm hoping it's not going to pan out too bad. I'm just looking forward to getting it over and done with and regular days setting in again.

[Feelin Frisky]

I'm beginning to feel "smothered" by Christmas. Cripes. I went for a hair cut yesterday and they had some Christmas music on loud but it was like overdone to the point I felt like I was being water-boarded. I don't know who was singing "Oh Come All Ye Faithful" but he did it Gospel style with an added layer of accompanying voices and more bluesy liberties each verse to the point of me getting a hot flash and asking for a towel. I felt like I couldn't wait to get out of that chair and back into the quiet confines of my car.

 

When that song went over another Christmas Carol came on only with Aaron Neville sining it. If ever there were a guy in love with the sound of his own voice just changing things up for the sake of changing them up it's him. I was almost a postal case. It's turning me off to even wanting to go out and insert myself in this materialistic mania. Give me a lousy sugar-plum and call it over already.

[durkadurka]

I feel you, a week from now last year I was jumping on a flight to Hawaii.. which was great until she cried the entire flight down because she was upset with how her parents were doing in the States.

 

Ultimately, this nuked our relationship and she flew back home to save our parents. For me, this time marks the beginning of the end.

 

This year, my friend is flying home from England, and I plan on spending the holidays ****tered with him.

[denise_xo]

I'm beginning to feel "smothered" by Christmas. Cripes. I went for a hair cut yesterday and they had some Christmas music on loud but it was like overdone to the point I felt like I was being water-boarded. I don't know who was singing "Oh Come All Ye Faithful" but he did it Gospel style with an added layer of accompanying voices and more bluesy liberties each verse to the point of me getting a hot flash and asking for a towel. I felt like I couldn't wait to get out of that chair and back into the quiet confines of my car.

 

When that song went over another Christmas Carol came on only with Aaron Neville sining it. If ever there were a guy in love with the sound of his own voice just changing things up for the sake of changing them up it's him. I was almost a postal case. It's turning me off to even wanting to go out and insert myself in this materialistic mania. Give me a lousy sugar-plum and call it over already.

 

I'm so with you on that. I hate it. The radio station that I listen to in the morning when I shower has decided to play Christmas music non stop until the end of December. It's just way too much and I've had to switch to another channel. Not to mention all the commercial crap and all the god damn shopping. Some children get so many presents that they can hardly open them all. Last Christmas people here started selling their Xmas gifts online on the 26th. It's disgusting.

[nsearch4u]

The best advice i got from a girlfriend recently about being alone during the holidays:

 

"just dont take it too seriously"

[reknown29]

Yes whilst Christmas is a time for single people to sit around feeling sorry for themselves, New Year is a time for single people to be in a bar and come midnight just grab the nearest single girl and plant one on her.

 

I like the optimism here and the Faith no More quote. Very true, NYE is more of a singles holiday. I'm looking forward to it.

[Soxfan_96]

You can put me in this boat too. I am recently divorced in October and thanksgiving was tough. My father told me to stop feeling too sad. Like check your feelings at the door, those feelings are not welcomed here.

 

Christmas was the holiday both of us liked the most. My family has no young children and where as her family there were. Christmas for me was seeing the kids open their presents and see the smiles on their faces. I had a horrible childhood and yet seeing a child's smile making me happy. Maybe I'll volunteer on christmas day.

 

I may feel like crap because my wife of 2 years and someone I knew for 6.5 years is now gone. It still hurts alot her blaming me for all our martial issues. It hurts so damn much her cheating on me. It hurts so much that she gave up on us. It hurts to think she abandoned me when I was suffering from depression.

 

I really wanted to text her this message:

Happy for Thanks Giving Up.

 

But somehow I am getting better. I've have learned so much about my relationship with this vile woman. I now know why I chose her. I see the errors in my ways and I am going to counseling to correct the issues I have. In counseling, my counselor makes me explore why I am having certain feelings. I may suggest to you do the same. What about this time of year effects you so much. For me its missing the family I always wanted and I will never get with mine. I miss the kids being happy, because I wasn't happy during mine. Thats what gets me sad.

 

Relationships are like teachers. They teach you about life, yourself, and other people. Take this time to learn. Take this time like myself to grow. Take this time to make peace with your leftovers from your past. This is what I am doing and I hope all of you loveshackers do too. Good luck. Peace.