Von Posted January 15, 2011 Share Posted January 15, 2011 I know lately I've been trying to help others with their breakups, being that I had figured out the truth behind it all, but you know when something new comes up about your own ordeal it really hits home BAD. My ex had left me a year ago for all the typical lies like "I need to find myself" and "it's not you it's me"... Ya ya lies I know. And then strung me along for two months on top of that. But when I asked her repeatedly "is there someone else" of course she denied it. I have since healed and moved on but my memory of her has always been there. Now today I find out she had a baby, in September, 11 months after we split. You have no idea what this has done to me. So WHILE we were breaking up she was getting with the baby daddy behind my back. Needless to say it ripped me open again like no other. All my progress I had made seemed to vanish before my eyes. Ya, I've still changed into a real man, but even I have been brought to my knees in torment. I now fully believe a breakup is the worst thing a human can ever endure. It has destroyed people and there really is nothing you can do. I cant imagine what it'd be like had I stayed in contact with her. Utter devastation. So I say as a warning to you going through this right now: yes, the worst you can imagine will happen. So the best thing you can do to maintain your sanity and survive, is total and complete no contact. NC. Link to post Share on other sites
worlybear Posted January 15, 2011 Share Posted January 15, 2011 Big, big hugs we're here for you!:bunny: Link to post Share on other sites
Teresa31 Posted January 15, 2011 Share Posted January 15, 2011 I know it might not seem like it now but give it a few months and guaranteed you will feel better, the old saying "time is a great healer" comes into play here. I know you have been split for a while but it still hurts when you find out you have been betrayed, especially by someone you clearly had very strong feelings for. Who knows what the future holds but when you have found yourself a new partner and are happy and settled, the feelings you have now will be like a distant memory. All the best to you & keep your chin up xx Link to post Share on other sites
cboy90 Posted January 15, 2011 Share Posted January 15, 2011 Well good luck with her and the new baby. This has bad news written all over it. Obviously she doesn't have her head on straight. My brothers gf had a kid when she was 19 with some guy. Relationship with the 'daddy' didn't last long. Under a year I'm told. I feel sorry for you and the baby. Having a baby in a relationship doesn't always help the relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Von Posted January 16, 2011 Author Share Posted January 16, 2011 No it's not my baby. I wish it had been. I'm saying she left and then either met the daddy or got with him near our end. Then she got prego with him. It's a tragic mess. Pisses me off to think this girl didn't give a **** about me. Karma is a bitch though so she'll eventually get what she deserves. I'm going to go find me a nice girl and settle down now. And have my own babies. Link to post Share on other sites
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