SierraMist Posted January 11, 2004 Share Posted January 11, 2004 Hi! I have this big problem...its been ruining my life, its been making my grades go down and im not the happy guy i once was. Well heres how my problem started. Theres this girl at school, at first i really didnt know her and i really didnt care who she was, but we hung out a couple of times during the summer and i got to know her better. During the summer she was going out with someone (Who is a TOTAL JACKASS!!!!!!!!) so everytime that jackass did something to hurt her, she would call me and i would try and help her out and always be there for her. At first i was just being nice bcoz and just being a friend, because thats the kind of person i am, so i would listen to her. Once school started, we had 1 class together and thats all it took for me to get to know her better, before u know it I LIKED HER, shes pretty and i love her personality. She would start calling me and stuff, she would start flirting with me and rubbing herself all over me and ofcourse i liked it, She would get jealous everytime i would talk about another girl. She even told me she liked me. She would always hold my hand also Heres my problem At school, when shes around her TOTAL JACKASS ex-bf, she wont even say HI or anything, she would totally ignore me but when her TOTAL JACKASS ex-bf isnt around she would be all over me, everytime she says she wants to hang out with me, we never do. Everytime i would call her, she wont call back! (She does but not all the time). So right now im so confused on the whole thing...does she like me or not?? Link to post Share on other sites
Goatsbreath Posted January 11, 2004 Share Posted January 11, 2004 I would just ask if she is interested in doing some boyfriend/girlfriend activities. I mean make it obvious that you want something between the two of you. Say look, are you done with the X boy friend yet because I would really like to get to know you on a different level. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SierraMist Posted January 11, 2004 Author Share Posted January 11, 2004 is there anything else i can do?? I wanna keep in good terms with her Link to post Share on other sites
annaM19 Posted January 11, 2004 Share Posted January 11, 2004 The way it sounds she really likes you too, but cant seem to get over her ex-bf. (thats obvious) In a way i am kinda like her right now. I'm having a hard time getting over the Jackass in my life, but too there is this other guy. I really do like him, but for some odd reason i want the jackass more. Some girls just like someone they can fall back on. someone that makes them feel better, and that they have someone to talk to. I know this really sucks, but dont worry she will soon realizes what she has and will make the right choice. You really do need to tell her how you feel tho. Just be like, hey i like you more then friends. Just let her know and then just be patient. Let her come around. Link to post Share on other sites
headinclouds Posted January 11, 2004 Share Posted January 11, 2004 The way I see it, she likes you but she can't make up her mind because of this jackass ex-bf. I bet she has a lot of personal baggage left after that romance and she needs to sort it out...and this might not even occur to her at all. Obviously I don't know the entire sitch, but, she might be wondering about this ex still and doesn't want him to know that she's "moved on" by talking/flirting with other guys- especially in front of him...because she hasn't moved on. If you have any more details, please post. But I wish you the best, and I'd say go after what you want and let her know how you feel because it'll make things so much clearer- Link to post Share on other sites
Author SierraMist Posted January 11, 2004 Author Share Posted January 11, 2004 I have more details. She tells me that she never calls me back when i call her and she doesnt pick up because she gets nervous around me, and doesnt know how to act now that she realized she liked. We talked about this and i told her just act the way she always does coz thats what got me into her. But recently she said she wantd to hang out so i called her but AGAIN! she didnt pick up and a day has passed and she still hasnt called back. When my friend calls her tho, she picks up and they end up hanging out. I get sooo jealous and i just shut down. I dont get that!! but when i get a different girls # she gets mad at me...so confusing. She got mad at me when she found out i was a party with drunk girls all over me (nothing happened tho). She said she liked me...but its kinda hard to believe!!!. Im just so confused and i need some help badly. Link to post Share on other sites
Goatsbreath Posted January 11, 2004 Share Posted January 11, 2004 I think I would just tell her to call you if she decides she wants to do something. This way you leave the ball in her court and you dont need to understand the rules of the game she is trying to create. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SierraMist Posted January 11, 2004 Author Share Posted January 11, 2004 Ok so dont call her whenever she says that..got it! Anyone else have somethin to say that can help me out? Or atleast some advice? or gone through the same thing? Link to post Share on other sites
confused_and_worried Posted January 12, 2004 Share Posted January 12, 2004 Okay don't take this the wrong way but that girl is confused . Since she can't decide what she wants, she is keeping you around till eithere she makes up her mind or her assh**b-friend changes. The reason I say this is cuzz I've been there, done that. It might seen really unfair for me to say this but is true. In you she probably see's someone nice, who would threat her right and can talk to all the time and probably doesn't want to loose that. Therefore any other girl that comes around you is a threat to her because she, or they can take your time away from her. So she makes you believe that she wants more than to be your friend, when in reality all she wants is your friendship. The truth is she is not attracted to you physically, as she is with her as*h**b-friend. I think you have 2 options 1. Talk to her strait out. let her know is not for her to threat you as her personal toy that she can pick up and play with anytime she wants and then put you back on the shelve. Tell her how you fell and what you want, and then you'll know how she really fell about you. OR 2. Ignore her. Let her go. Take it as one of you're ex-girlfriend who you can no longer be with. If she really cares about you she come and talk to you strait out. If she doesn't then it will be done and over with. What ever you decide, I wish you the best...!!! Sincerely , confused_and_worried Link to post Share on other sites
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