TrueSmiles12 Posted July 23, 2004 Share Posted July 23, 2004 we have been broken up for about a month now, just 1 month. but i have the infamous question -- does my ex want to be friends or more?? and i am finding it difficult to simply come right out and ask him. he has been contacting me a lot lately, well a lot more than he did when we first broke up. He randomly text messages me, basically letting me know that he is thinking about me. And I found it extremely questionable that he called me the night before he left for a European vacation "just to say bye". That was the first time he had called me in a month. Usually, he just im-ed me on instant messenger or text messaged me to talk. But we just caught up and I kept the conversation short and didn't mention anything about us. And then he insisted that we talk about whatever was on my mind, while I insisted that we wait until he get back to talk. Then he said he didn't want to "leave things hanging" and he didn't want to be freaking out all vacation that whatever was on my mind was bad. When I asked him what could be bad, he didn't respond. I am just generally confused because then the conversation led him into saying that it still feels like we are together, but we're not, and that he has not moved on on yet, contrary to my belief.... then he im's me just the other day as soon as he signed on.. what is extremely strange is that he signed on while in budapest just to talk to me.. and he just kept probing for what was new with me and he was joking with me about things like we had done when we were together... and when i mentioned that he was being confusing, he kept picking at why and said he just wants things to be better between us. but what does that mean?? better as in for a friendship or more???? i am VERY confused. Link to post Share on other sites
TommyGirl Posted July 23, 2004 Share Posted July 23, 2004 I understand exactly what you are saying about you don't want to just come right out and ask him. My ex-fiancee left me mixed signs just like that and everybody asked me to ask him what was up, but I just couldn't find myself to do it, because I was afraid of getting my feelings hurt if it was something that I did not want to hear. Sometimes I wished I would've asked, but I wonder why he just won't come out and say what he wants. If you want your mind to be at ease, it will probably be best that you ask him. Me on the other hand, I'm just letting time go by, and waiting to see what the end is going to be. Good Luck and always be prayerful. Link to post Share on other sites
suzanne Posted July 26, 2004 Share Posted July 26, 2004 But always remember sometimes we want what is is we don't have. What was the reason for the break up? And also know men act like that sometimes just to see if they could come back in if they " choose. Empowerment is controlling your own life, not others. I have been a long time single. I won't settle for less then what I feel I deserve. X's from 10 years back call me all the time. Sometimes we have coffee, dinner, even sex ... but soon enough the reason we are X's comes to the surface. Don't be entrapped by lonliness or hurt over loss. When we are able to stand alone, then we deserve and recognize the man who is strong enough to be a man in our life and stand beside us ... then there are needy women who will allow someone to dictate our lives. But love makes us all weak in ways... Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
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