RoadWarrior Posted July 28, 2004 Posted July 28, 2004 I started dating someone new recently-- about 2 months now. I really like her a lot. Having just gotten out of a bad relationship a short time before dating, I'm still a little vulnerable and have been a little insecure about her feelings toward me. I've even been a little jealous about a guy she hangs out with who I think she might be attracted to. I found out recently that she was talking to a mutual friend of my ex and me and was asking a lot of questions about my ex, like if she was pretty, what kind of person she was, etc. And, she was asking about me-- what kind of women are "my type", am I the settling-down kind, etc. Even more intriguing is that she did all this while she was hanging-out with the guy that I was wondering about. She doesn't know I know this (AFAIK, anyway.) So, are these good signs?
uriel Posted July 28, 2004 Posted July 28, 2004 Yeah, those are good signs. She's insecure about you, too. She's trying to figure out whether you're using her for sex or see longterm potential with her. She wouldn't do that unless she was interested in possibly seeing your relationship go longterm. She really likes you. Relax. -- uriel
Wellnowuknow Posted July 28, 2004 Posted July 28, 2004 What she's doing screams she's interested. She's walking around with 'interested' on her forehead. She likes you!
sylah Posted July 28, 2004 Posted July 28, 2004 Don't be insecure about that guy she's hanging out with. I do that, too. If I'm there asking a guy about another guy, I'm not interested whatsoever in the guy who I'm talking to. I'm interested in the guy I'm asking about.
RoadWarrior Posted July 28, 2004 Posted July 28, 2004 Thanks for those quick replies. I feel better. Nobody addressed the other guy issue, though-- am I correct in assuming there's nothing to worry about there? (Yes, I'm being totally insecure.)
MorningRose Posted July 28, 2004 Posted July 28, 2004 I have never asked everyone about some man's details if I didn't like him. So are these good signs? Definitely! Goodluck.
uriel Posted July 28, 2004 Posted July 28, 2004 Don't worry about her guy friend. She wouldn't be seeing you--and asking about you in front of him--if she wanted to be with him. As long as her primary interest is in you, you don't have to worry about another guy, new or old. No one can give you an absolute guarantee that she'll fall madly in love with you and never be with anyone else. But, given all the signs you've mentioned so far, you've got hope of rocking her world. So -- Keep it light, take it easy, and enjoy yourself. See where it goes. -- uriel
RoadWarrior Posted July 28, 2004 Posted July 28, 2004 Thanks again, everyone. I guess inside I already knew what you've all said, but it is good to hear it from objective observers.
RoadWarrior Posted July 28, 2004 Posted July 28, 2004 ...should I let her know that I know she was asking this stuff?
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