My boyfriend is addicted to porn

[Christina]

My boyfriend has a problem with porn, and it's been going onthroughout our entire relationship. We've been together for over a year now. When I first noticed he had porn on his computer, it wasn't a big deal. We had just moved in together, and I figured he would be done with now. Wrong. He started staying up late, or getting up early, just to watch porn. Any time I left the house (even if I was just on the front lawn, he's start downloading more. I even caught him watching it one time. He acted as if I didn't notice he was sitting in front of his comp with an errection. I talked with him about it, not getting angry at first, just telling him it hurt me that he was always choosing porn over me. (He stopped wanting sex from me). Then he told me he had to have it because he used to do steroids and he can't get it up anymore. Which I know is bull ****, because we've gone camping and he didn't have porn and it wasn't a problem. Finally, after so many discussio/arguments about it, I told him I had talked to my mom about it, and she said we can work through this, or I can move in with her. He was angry I talked to my mom about it. I said if it embarrassses him, then he shouldn't be doing it! I also said that if he thinks it's ok for women to act in that manner, would he be proud of his mother being a porn star? Would he think his mom would be leading a healthy, fullfilled life if thats what she was doing? He finally agreed to stop. He broke all his CD's and I took his magazine and tossed them. It all seemed fine for a few months. Just today, however, I found another CD he made, this one dated a month ago. Which means he's been lying to me. What do I do? How can I get him help? Should I just move on? He's not home yet, and I want to say something about what I found, but what do i say?

[UCFKevin]

Better porn than:

 

Heroin

Cocaine

Ecstacy

Weed

Stealing

Murdering

Gambling

[Christina]

That's not helping. Addiction is addiction. It's a prison. I know. I've been there.

[Pocky]

Do a search on porn. There have been many discussions regarding it. You may find some of the posts helpful.

[UCFKevin]

That's not helping. Addiction is addiction. It's a prison. I know. I've been there.

 

Ah, I see. So being addicted to porn is as bad as being addicted to cocaine?

 

Or being addicted to candy or soda or chocolate or sex is as bad as being addicted to crystal meth?

 

If it bothers you that much, and he's not gonna change, end it. You'll just be like this for the rest of the relationship. Either deal with it or move on.

[The_Analyzer]

Yes do a search on porn. It will tell you the stages it starts in and how it progresses. One of the stages too is how they feel the need to lie and hide it as well. Porn on an occassion is one thing, but when they do it all the time, lie about it, hide it, and feel they have to have it, then theres a problem. If this gets to be to much for you, (which it may) you might want to take your mom up on what she said. Good luck.

[Kasey70]

Turn it around on him. Start looking at some sites yourself. Make sure he knows this. Give him a dose of his own medicine. Maybe he will see how you feel. I'm not saying this will always work, but its a possibility. If he truly has an addiction though, nothing you do will make a difference, until he decides to get help. Hope all works out.

[UCFKevin]

Or it'll just piss him off.

 

An eye for an eye makes the world blind.

[dyermaker]

: You talked to your mom about it? How does she suggest you work through it?

[pitprincess]

JMO

He isn't giving it up to you because some wet towell has your catch in it some place.

 

Some men NOT ALL Men have an addiction to porn.

I have been lucky to not have a man in my life like that.

 

I don't mind my husband looking at porn but when things start popping up around here and I am not getting any he best be doing some explaining and unless the dr removed the package his story wont work with me

 

It is serious and very much can damage your relationship. You should suggest him to seek help with this issue (Once he realizes he has a problem)

[dnm1010]

im going through a similar thing with my bf, so i understand your pain. im very conservative and finding this out about my bf made me feel dizzy and sick.. i couldnt handle it. fortunately for me my bf has been wonderful about it.. he came to me and told me that he knows he needs to be rid of this habbit hes had for a logn time in order to respect me and in order to be able to move forard in our lives, get married andhave children. he does not want to be a father who watches porn, and is disloyal to his family. i told him that to me looking at those whores and sleeping with them is on the same exact level. my bf also told me that hes alwasy been embaraced of this addiction. i told him we need to overcome it together. u should tell ur bf how u feel without attacking him. at first i thought what was wrong with me, why does my bf need to look at porn and why do i have a problem with it. but the thing is some ppl are ok with it and some arent. and changing urself will not happen.. it will cause pressure to build up in you. i tried to ignore how i felt but eventually i realized i cant i have to be honest with my bf and honest wiht myself.

[dnm1010]

a porn addiction is something ppl hide and go through alone... most men feel they have to hude it. if u are addicted to alcohol u can seek help and its good,but if ure addicted to porn what do you do? tell your freinds and family and coworkers youre addicted to porn and have a PPP meeting? porn addictions have broken marriages, destroyed families, and hurt many women. if you start ranking addictions by what is better or worst you wont get anywhere... u need to consider all addictions equal. only then can ppl start dealing with things other than addiction to cocaine.

[dyermaker]

i told him that to me looking at those whores and sleeping with them is on the same exact level.

You told 'im, eh?

 

Lay down the law, hon. Don't ever settle for less than you're worth.

[unreasonable gf]

if it's that important to you, I would propose moving on, but lemme tell you a similar story so maybe you can understand his perspective a little more. I'm a gal who likes porn and I enjoy watching it occasionally with my partners for extra stimulation. Most guys are into this but one very serious long term bf didn't like it and made me feel ashamed for liking porn, even tho it was only an occasional thing.

 

Now, we didn't deal with it in the best way -- we probably should have found a way to compromise, but I felt dirty and bad because of course the person who doesn't like porn always has the moral high ground. So I felt like I had to sneak around and hide it. And because he made me feel dirty about my sexual fantasies I gradually lost interest in having sex with him at all and started relying much more on porn to get off.

 

Based on my limited study, I'm proposing that making someone feel ashamed about watching porn, may drive them to watch even more.

 

I don't think you have to feel threatened by his fantasies. If you decide the issue is important enough to you, definitely move on. But if you stay with him, I don't think you should try to make him quit or make him feel bad about it. If you're accepting of it and encourage him to share his fantasies, you may find it becomes less of a problem.

 

I definitely think it's a relationship breaker to tell your parents you think he has an addiction to porn. Of course that's gonna embarrass him and I don't think you can use the argument if it's embarrassing then he shouldn't do it -- parents are different league altogether. Mine don't get to hear about my sex life as interesting as it is.

 

Ladies, what's the problem with porn? Porn rocks! It's a safe way to have crazy sex with your partner. Even better if your mother isn't in the porno but, if so, may she be living a healthy, fulfilled life!

[dnm1010]

unreasonable gf.. i have to tell you two things... firs to f all u cracked me up, put a smile on my face regarding thisporn issue.. so thankyou... number two- im sorry that u had to suffer from your bf. i think every relationship is different and if your partner is ok with it then thats ok.. but if he/she isnt then there is a problem. i think the most important thing is to make your partner not ashamed or embaraced. to go through this together.. because u are in a relationship and whether your partner is upset cos u look at porn or you are upset your partner looks at it... either way it affects your relationship together. it is pointless to involve parents.

[Moka_maverick]

Well, what do you do if you have seen it listed on the internet history, but he hasn't said anything to you about it. I tried to watch "Real Sex" (HBO special) and he was uncomfortable - I haven't told him that I know because he will consider it snooping and probably will just zero in on that, but geez, looking at porn is insulting.

 

Luckily, he usually doesn't do it the day we plan to hang out together, so maybe it is just a release? And from what I have seen; he is only on the sites for about 5-10 minutes on the days I have seen listed, so I can assume he is just masterbating, right?

 

How do you bring up such an issue with your boyfriend in a way that isn't insulting or degrading cuz I am sure he isn't too proud of the fact he looks at the women, but maybe I am wrong?

 

We still have sex about 3 times a week, but when he denies me, how can I not assum it is because he would rather look at a 2-dimensional figure and jack-off to her? The girls he looks at are usually opposite of me in looks too. My therapist says not to worry that most men look at porn cuz it is ingrained to spread their seed to a number of partner, and I am fairly open-minded when it comes to sex, but I am torn about this. I have never dealt with this type of situation before.

[dnm1010]

well when i started dating my boyfreind i told him all the things that bother me right at the begining... i confronted him about it which was really hard for me. in my previous rship my xbf did have porn and i felt like crap and confronted him abotu it once but he turned it around and so basically for the 1.5 yrs we were together i felt like crap abotu this topic on the inside but i was too scared to mention it again.

 

i really think honesty is the best thing to do. now i confront my bf immediately and he confronts me and our relationship has gotten better and closer. i try not to make him feel embaraced. maybe you should ask him... tell him you thought about porn and how it hurts you and ask him if he looks at porn. dont hesitate. and i think it is really important that you realize why you are against porn. i am completely against it. i do not think there is anythign decent about it and i told my bf exactly how i felt and abotu how i want a future and i cant say yes now and then what happens when we get married? then suddenly it becomes a no? and what abotu when we have kids... i think if you want a future you should structure your relationship the way you want it to be from the start and not say one day when were married ill ask him to stop looking at porn.

 

i went through a long time feeling stressed and went through a lot of emotions... feel free to message me and maybe it can help you get through this... i know how much it can suck.

[mudobber]

You know the saying, the idle hand… well you know.

 

Porn is fascinating for your boyfriend right now. He only needs to find a more interesting project to occupy his time. Get him busy. Do volunteer work at a nursing home and take him with you. Get him immersed in classes at the community collage. Get married and have children… That should get him busy.

 

But don’t tell a bunch of people about it. You told your mom, she will tell your sister, and your sister will tell your brother etc. That was WRONG Christina! More wrong than the porn itself. It’s nobody’s business, and now your guy is going to wonder how well you can keep secrets.

 

Breaking the CDs does show a willingness to move on, which you should consider a very good sign. I think you should give him 1000 points for effort there. And praise him for it a-lot. Be always positive. Never be the eye spy snoop. Always express your confidence in him and encourage him in all his endeavors, as he should you. Express your love for him, and let him know that it hurts you when he looks at porn. But express that your love for him is unconditional, and you will stick by him no matter what his ailments.

 

I don’t know… call me crazy, but I’m not sure if l@@king at pictures of beautiful naked ladies is as much a sin as say… well, never mind.

[Kenshin]

I really hope you are still reading this thread, Christina, because I think I have some advice that might help...

 

I'm 18 right now, from the time I was about 12 till about 10 months ago, I was COMPLETELY addicted to porn. It had an effect on every aspect of my life. I would walk around school, around the mall, and do nothing but look at girls and how much (or how little) they were wearing. I was always waiting for an opportunity to look down a girl's shirt or up a skirt. I was horrible, and it was all because of porn. Porn is a terrible, terrible thing, and if you just ignore it, it will eat your boyfriend alive. Don't be mad at him, because I know what it feels like. You just can't help it, Christina. It really is like an addiction to a drug, or at least to cigarettes. You think you are fine, you think you are strong, and then there comes one moment of weakness, and you fall back into it, probably worse than before. I've tried to quit so many times, but it never worked. I have been a Christian since I was 6, but just because I was a Christian doesn't mean I was immune to being enslaved by porn. I always felt embarrassed, dirty, unworthy of anything, and even though I was helping lead worship at my church, I knew I was just living a lie. But in spite of all of this, it still continued, until I really started to get to know the girl who is now my girlfriend (of 9 months yesterday). For some reason, I just stopped for a while, mainly because I was talking to her so much that I just didn't have time to, and when we started going out, I was still doing fine. We are sexually abstinate, and we like it that way and will keep it that way til we get married. I masturbated every once in a while, mainly to ward off the nocturnal emissions (aka, wet dreams), but I did it while doing normal things to keep myself from thinking about sex whilst doing it... Needless to say, it didn't work too well, and I felt really stupid doing it, but I wanted to keep my relationship pure with my girlfriend. About 4 months in, though, I started looking around the internet, not really trying to find anything, and I found a porn site that I used to go to all the time... I quickly clicked off of it, but that started me thinking about it. Before I knew it, about a week later, there I was, searching for "hot girls" on the internet, but not porn (yeah right). Any way, to make a long story short, I have had a few problems here and there, but it is nothing like it used to be, and right now, I am going through a course called "Setting Captives Free". It is an incredible website with a 60 day course that will help. It puts a Christian spin on everything about pornography, and it tells you what the Bible says about it and how to help. I am currently enrolled, and I can already tell that I am on my way to freedom. The website is http://www.settingcaptivesfree.com. You should check it out, and so should your boyfriend.

 

I understand that you are upset, my girlfriend was too when she found out that I was even struggling with the temptation of looking at porn, but now that we have talked about it, she understands (not quite as well as I wish she would :3) and knows where I'm coming from. Don't get mad at him, because when Jess got mad at me, it just made telling her that much harder, but all in all, I'm glad I came to her with it. No more secrets, no more lies. Just sit down and talk to him about it, without yelling. I love Jessica with all of my heart and I always will, but I am still a hormone-infested guy that needs to be neutered. That is a reason, not a cop out. Just because I have hormones, that doesn't give me an excuse to look at porn. Pornography is never an option, and if he loves you, he will want to change. If he doesn't want to change, for you, for himself, or for God, then maybe, sorry to say, it is time to move on, but don't give up on him if you truly love him.

 

Sorry this post was so long, but I just had to get a few things off my chest. I am really glad that I got a chance to share with you, and if you need any more advice, you can email me at [email protected].

 

God Bless,

Derrick

 

Amor Vincit Omnia - Love conquers all

[USF BRIAN]

I am a guy that has experienced this, maybe not to the extent of your boyfriend, but I have gone down that path.

 

I used porn behind everyone's back. All of my friends, girlfriend, parents, and room mates. I acted like I didn't have a problem.

 

I used to think it was just normal.

 

Until one day I visited a Church with my family, then God began working on my shattered beaten self.

 

It was hard to understand that God will accept you just the way you are. You do not have to clean yourself up. He just wants to hear you cry out to Him for help.

 

Then He will start making the necessary changes in your life like he has done to mine.

 

Today, I am a new human being with a new perspective on my life.

 

Just bring him to Church, and watch how God will transform his life and your relationship.

 

I'll be praying for you and all the people in the world that wrestle with this awful addiction.

 

 

Brian

Tampa

[Toni_no12002]

There are some sites on the internet that can help him kick his addiction.I think if you love him you should help him but only if he wants to help himself.Tell him this is affecting you to.Lay down the law say get help or ill go.Its nasty but if he trully loves you then he will try.He needs to realise he has a problem first.Many people deny that they have a problem in the first place.The first place to start is to get him to admit he has a problem.If he doesnt get it sorted he will end up a very lonely man.

[stuckinhoplessness]

So I was surfing the net and came a crossed this thread... I am going through this same problem.. only I've been dealing with it for 7 years!

 

My husband and I have been married for 7 years now. One day I found a few naked pic of ladies on his computer... he 1st lied and said it was just from pop ups that had Downloaded on his computer... I was upset and still untrusting of that answer. My gut was telling me that wasn't why they were there. So being that I felt uneasy about it.. I started looking at the computer while he wasn't home to check on what he was doing. (This is how I got more familiar with how a computer works) After doing my searches I would find a pic here and there.. I was highly upset about it. I wasn't going to confront him about it, but waited until I caught him in the act. That didn't last for long cuz as I got better at my searching skills, I found more and more and found out times at which he was doing it.

 

This is when I had to confront him... I yelled, cried... and try to explain how hurtful it was. He couldn't understand why it hurt so much. Nevertheless he had promised he'd stop looking at it. Even though he had said that, I thought I better keep an eye on him... well it didn't take long ... I found more... it was painful... I felt like he was cheating... lying ... soooo disrespected me.. yet again he apologies and said he'd never do it again. We had moved and I had thought he was done looking at that crap.... NOPE... caught him again.... by doing my every so often snooping on the his computer... he got better and better at hiding it and I got better and better at finding it. He'd do it when I was sleeping... when I wasn't home... he'd stay up late just to do it... after about 3 times of finding it on his computer. I put my foot down and said he wasn't allowed on his computer if I wasn’t in the room with him.

 

This became a ridiculous thing.. ruining my life because I had to babysit him as if he was my son. After a few months of doing this... and he had promised over and over again he'd stop. I then noticed he'd get up really early. It would only take him 10 minutes to get ready in the morning.. but he'd get up atleast 30 minutes before he had normally done. After this was going on for awhile.. I had a gut feeling there was something else going on. One morning after he had left for work I went into the back bedroom where he would get dressed, I turned on the TV to find it on a channel that had soft porn and naked chicks on it. This got me so mad that I stayed home from work. If there is one thing I hate is a liar..

 

Anyways... along the way I had also noticed him watching the soft porn on TV while I was asleep (well I was supposed to be asleep) but I saw him with my own eyes. I really didn't know what to do. We had talk and talk until we couldn't talk anymore about it. Even after all this.... I hung in there. Next he went a step more... he'd pretend he was sick to stay home from work... that day I came home early... he was on his computer... but that wasn't what concerned me.... he was playing a video game... what I found was for some reason the VCR was on. I quickly rewind the tape... and wouldn't you know it... he recorded things on TV... those stupid "women gone wild" commercials and such. I asked him what the hell were you gonna do with that.. watch it when i wasn't home? WTF? Well again this lead to him saying he was sorry and he was going to stop... you see a pattern yet?

 

Finally after months and months of babysitting him on his computer... I had thought he had really kicked it. It had been a good year and a half or longer... I didn't see anything and I had left him be on his computer... about 8 months ago... I had this gut feeling... that he was up to something... not sure what it was..but there was something. His nephew who was 20 at the time had been up for a visit and was using my computer... I jokingly made a comment to my husband about me finding porn on my computer b/c of his nephew.. yet I hadn't find anything.. it got me wondering about his new computer, cuz I hadn't been on it since he had built it about 3months previous. I did a little random search and much to my dismay... I found porn. I was so devastated... my heart dropped... and broke out in tears. This time around I tried to be claim about it.

 

We talked about and he said he would stop... the very next day... I got the gut feeling again... damn if I didn't actually catch him in the act of looking at it... and again and again actually catching him looking at it.. not just a cookie.... not just a google search.. I saw him looking at it. He finally admitted he had a problem and couldn't stop...

 

I can’t explain to anyone how it makes you feel to know your husband and or wife has been lying to you and hiding things from you... being so deceitful about things... it really feels like every time he does it he is cheating.. He is looking at other women to get off. Yeah no touching but there might as well be. I thought I'd try to turn the tables on him and look at naked men... didn't work.. just made him feel less guilty about it.. and he did it more. It has gotten so bad.. I've put up a mirror so I can see what he is doing... that doesn’t even work now... he has found out what I use the mirror for and is now putting himself in the way of his mirror. All the deception between us has really affected our lives.

 

We've both looked up on the net for help.... but can't find anything that really helps or is realistic.. and I can't talk to anyone about it... not my friends or family.... I've resorted talking to online friends b/c they don't know me in person. My husband and I can't move on in our relationship until he can get help for this. He has said many times he wants help... but doesn't know where to get it ... and we can't afford to get a therapist...

 

On the outside we look like a happy loving couple... but it's getting harder and harder to put on that front among our friends and family... I'm completely miserable... I don’t' like what I’ve become... and I don't like how I feel... I'm on the way of a breakdown... and have even considered just giving up and leaving... but I love him with all my heart.. if I didn't this wouldn't hurt me so bad...

 

Sorry for the long rambling post.. but that's what happens when you have to keep everything so bottled up inside..........

[dnm1010]

Ah, I see. So being addicted to porn is as bad as being addicted to cocaine?

 

Or being addicted to candy or soda or chocolate or sex is as bad as being addicted to crystal meth?

 

If it bothers you that much, and he's not gonna change, end it. You'll just be like this for the rest of the relationship. Either deal with it or move on.

 

yes it can be just as bad if your boy is addicted to porn and cannot have normal sex, or ends up when being intimate hurting you physically without realizing it... these are all stages of the addiction.. plus as it progresses he will need "worst" porn.. its not as if he is addicted to porn it wont change... eventually he might need to watch really disturbing stuff in order to get off. he might need prostitutes or what not, there have been manypeople who transfered stds this way ruining their significant other's life.

 

porn addiction can be just as bad as heroin addiction. just look it up and read about it.

[dnm1010]

i know how you feel i am going through almost the same thing with my fiance and i am lost at what to do.

we are at an earlier stage though because he lied to me for a few months and i just caught him a few days ago. we havent played the game of yes you do no i dont but he addmitted he is addicted and does not know what to do. were both at this point where were not sure what the next step is. i want to marry him but i don tknow if this keeps going or even gets worst, can i deal with it? for better or worst, you know?

i wish i had advice to give

 

 

So I was surfing the net and came a crossed this thread... I am going through this same problem.. only I've been dealing with it for 7 years!

 

My husband and I have been married for 7 years now. One day I found a few naked pic of ladies on his computer... he 1st lied and said it was just from pop ups that had Downloaded on his computer... I was upset and still untrusting of that answer. My gut was telling me that wasn't why they were there. So being that I felt uneasy about it.. I started looking at the computer while he wasn't home to check on what he was doing. (This is how I got more familiar with how a computer works) After doing my searches I would find a pic here and there.. I was highly upset about it. I wasn't going to confront him about it, but waited until I caught him in the act. That didn't last for long cuz as I got better at my searching skills, I found more and more and found out times at which he was doing it.

 

This is when I had to confront him... I yelled, cried... and try to explain how hurtful it was. He couldn't understand why it hurt so much. Nevertheless he had promised he'd stop looking at it. Even though he had said that, I thought I better keep an eye on him... well it didn't take long ... I found more... it was painful... I felt like he was cheating... lying ... soooo disrespected me.. yet again he apologies and said he'd never do it again. We had moved and I had thought he was done looking at that crap.... NOPE... caught him again.... by doing my every so often snooping on the his computer... he got better and better at hiding it and I got better and better at finding it. He'd do it when I was sleeping... when I wasn't home... he'd stay up late just to do it... after about 3 times of finding it on his computer. I put my foot down and said he wasn't allowed on his computer if I wasn’t in the room with him.

 

This became a ridiculous thing.. ruining my life because I had to babysit him as if he was my son. After a few months of doing this... and he had promised over and over again he'd stop. I then noticed he'd get up really early. It would only take him 10 minutes to get ready in the morning.. but he'd get up atleast 30 minutes before he had normally done. After this was going on for awhile.. I had a gut feeling there was something else going on. One morning after he had left for work I went into the back bedroom where he would get dressed, I turned on the TV to find it on a channel that had soft porn and naked chicks on it. This got me so mad that I stayed home from work. If there is one thing I hate is a liar..

 

Anyways... along the way I had also noticed him watching the soft porn on TV while I was asleep (well I was supposed to be asleep) but I saw him with my own eyes. I really didn't know what to do. We had talk and talk until we couldn't talk anymore about it. Even after all this.... I hung in there. Next he went a step more... he'd pretend he was sick to stay home from work... that day I came home early... he was on his computer... but that wasn't what concerned me.... he was playing a video game... what I found was for some reason the VCR was on. I quickly rewind the tape... and wouldn't you know it... he recorded things on TV... those stupid "women gone wild" commercials and such. I asked him what the hell were you gonna do with that.. watch it when i wasn't home? WTF? Well again this lead to him saying he was sorry and he was going to stop... you see a pattern yet?

 

Finally after months and months of babysitting him on his computer... I had thought he had really kicked it. It had been a good year and a half or longer... I didn't see anything and I had left him be on his computer... about 8 months ago... I had this gut feeling... that he was up to something... not sure what it was..but there was something. His nephew who was 20 at the time had been up for a visit and was using my computer... I jokingly made a comment to my husband about me finding porn on my computer b/c of his nephew.. yet I hadn't find anything.. it got me wondering about his new computer, cuz I hadn't been on it since he had built it about 3months previous. I did a little random search and much to my dismay... I found porn. I was so devastated... my heart dropped... and broke out in tears. This time around I tried to be claim about it.

 

We talked about and he said he would stop... the very next day... I got the gut feeling again... damn if I didn't actually catch him in the act of looking at it... and again and again actually catching him looking at it.. not just a cookie.... not just a google search.. I saw him looking at it. He finally admitted he had a problem and couldn't stop...

 

I can’t explain to anyone how it makes you feel to know your husband and or wife has been lying to you and hiding things from you... being so deceitful about things... it really feels like every time he does it he is cheating.. He is looking at other women to get off. Yeah no touching but there might as well be. I thought I'd try to turn the tables on him and look at naked men... didn't work.. just made him feel less guilty about it.. and he did it more. It has gotten so bad.. I've put up a mirror so I can see what he is doing... that doesn’t even work now... he has found out what I use the mirror for and is now putting himself in the way of his mirror. All the deception between us has really affected our lives.

 

We've both looked up on the net for help.... but can't find anything that really helps or is realistic.. and I can't talk to anyone about it... not my friends or family.... I've resorted talking to online friends b/c they don't know me in person. My husband and I can't move on in our relationship until he can get help for this. He has said many times he wants help... but doesn't know where to get it ... and we can't afford to get a therapist...

 

On the outside we look like a happy loving couple... but it's getting harder and harder to put on that front among our friends and family... I'm completely miserable... I don’t' like what I’ve become... and I don't like how I feel... I'm on the way of a breakdown... and have even considered just giving up and leaving... but I love him with all my heart.. if I didn't this wouldn't hurt me so bad...

 

Sorry for the long rambling post.. but that's what happens when you have to keep everything so bottled up inside..........

[louismac44]

hi i have a porn adiiction for shure masterbation also . but now i am ready to face it out of love with my girlfriend. what i dont know how to deal with is, the horrible compulsion of looking at girls ( any women ) that i happen to see when im out ( my girlfriend is sick of this and i dont blame here ) can anyone help me lose this ghabbit please?

 

 

Louis