What can I do or become involved in that will put me in proximity of women?

[Zephyr45]

I'm having trouble meeting (single/available) women. I'm not asking for advice on where/how to approach women at random public places like the supermarket, mall, etc. but I'm asking what I can do to be put in proximity with a fair amount of women on a somewhat regular basis. (eg. taking a cooking class, dance lessons, or church - all probably great examples, unfortunately I'm hoping to find activities that are interesting to me too, I'd rather not join something JUST to meet women)

 

I'm in the mid 20s. I am an engineer, and mostly interested in "guy" activities. Because I'm an engineer and work with many, my core group of acquaintances' male:female ratio is sickening (which has the side effect of causing the few women that there are to be perpetually taken since they have so many men to pick from). Going out with these friends is fine for a fun activity but it's not something that is helping introduce single women into my life. In addition to this as I mentioned, most activities I am into or would consider getting into are male dominated, resulting the same issues.

 

So what the heck can I do (that I hopefully I would enjoy) to be around a reasonable amount of women? What activities are you ladies involved in that you would love to see a guy join?

 

 

Some personal examples-

 

I joined a running training class. It was great, there were about 3-4 women for every guy. The bad news they were all 20+ years older than me!

 

I worked at a large movie theater when I was in high school. There were plenty of girls my age, a constant influx of new ones, and it was just a total blast. Unfortunately, I'm not willing to give up my career to go back to a $6/hr job.

 

 

Thoughts?

[Devildog]

I would not advise taking up an interest just to meet women. Any relationships formed through that manner are likely to be based on an interest you don't really have.

 

It might help to know what some of your interests are. There might be opportunities that you don't realize that pertain to your hobbies and interests. Granted, if you are a "Dilbert" kind of engineer, and your interests tend to lean toward the "geek" side it might be different.

 

Perhaps you should think about some of the things you always wanted to try but never did, or didn't get into as deeply as you would have liked. This could open a few new opportunities to you.

 

Also consider the type of women you are looking for. Are you looking for a woman to get together and have fun and party with? Check out the club scene. Looking for a more intellectual type, maybe take some more classes for your own benefit, a literature class or something.

 

There are alot of variables you should consider.

[Zephyr45]

Thanks for the reply. I guess the heart of the matter is, I'm looking to take up some new interests as it is. And I'm hoping these can also be good women meeting opportunities, to counteract my poor opportunities with my current interests/friends/job. I'm definitely not wanting to take up an interest only to meet women.

 

The city I live in is somewhat small and there's not as much to do as I would like. If I lived in a big city, I'm not sure I'd have the same problem. My options are a little limited. I'm definitely not a "Dilbert" type, but a fair number of friends and acquaintances I've met recently are the "geeky" type. As a result my social activities with them rarely provide much opportunity to meet women.

 

Some of my interests or things I am interested in-

 

Playing/listening/live music. (typically a solo activity, besides going to shows)

Exercising- running, biking. (The running camp I did was a perfect opportunity, but the age group was way off. The biking club I know of is mostly men.)

Playing Online Games (I don't play anymore, but in the past I met 20+ friends locally through this. 80% are men, 20% are hubby's of those men. Not one single girl )

I'm interested in learning to kiteboard/ wakeboard. (an extreme sport, pretty much male dominated)

Any team sports (Most don't turn out to be co-ed)

Professional social clubs (I'm looking into an opportunity here right now... has some potential)

Classes (Haven't taken any since college, but I'd definitely be interested in some not-so-academic stuff, e.g. cooking, public speach, painting. Last I checked, I didn't seem to find anything available that interested me)

Habitat for Humanity (a combination of a bit too male dominated and a bit too out of my age bracket for the women I've met there)

 

So, there's a couple possibilities here but hardly any real winner in terms of women-meeting potential. What activities are you ladies involved in?! Yoga classes? Dancing? For every male dominated activity I could list, there's got to be some female dominated counter-activity. And something has got to interest me. What could it be?

[Devildog]

Well, if you live in a smaller city, you might check out some of the bars. Most of the bars in my area have co-ed softball or sand volleyball leagues. Also darts and pool leagues you might look into, but I would suggest the volleyball route first.

[MWC_LifeBeginsAt40]

Originally posted by Zephyr45

I'm having trouble meeting (single/available) women. I'm not asking for advice on where/how to approach women at random public places like the supermarket, mall, etc. but I'm asking what I can do to be put in proximity with a fair amount of women on a somewhat regular basis. (eg. taking a cooking class, dance lessons, or church - all probably great examples, unfortunately I'm hoping to find activities that are interesting to me too, I'd rather not join something JUST to meet women)

Thoughts?

 

I don't understand why you feel the need to be around "a fair amount of women". Do you just want to weed through them?

 

If you are looking to meet the right woman for you, you only need to meet one woman. You may need to do this over and over again but it's no different if you start in a room of 10 women or if you go to 10 functions and meet one woman at each one.

 

I'm sure there is at least one woman in many of your activities. Try and get to know her better and if it doesn't work out, then move on to the next single woman in your next activity. What have u got to lose?

[loony]

Originally posted by MWC_LifeBeginsAt40

I don't understand why you feel the need to be around "a fair amount of women". Do you just want to weed through them?

 

If you are looking to meet the right woman for you, you only need to meet one woman. You may need to do this over and over again but it's no different if you start in a room of 10 women or if you go to 10 functions and meet one woman at each one.

 

I'm sure there is at least one woman in many of your activities. Try and get to know her better and if it doesn't work out, then move on to the next single woman in your next activity. What have u got to lose?

That doesn't make sense. If he goes to 10 events with 10 women he has a greater chance of meeting someone he likes than going to 10 events where there's only 1 woman. You have to try and increase the possibility of meeting someone who is available, who also feels attracted to you, he has not to many issues and other emotional baggage, etc.

 

Try taking classes at the community college or go to a book club. Women like smart men.