a4a Posted February 22, 2006 Share Posted February 22, 2006 Well I am so seeing so many ideals about what cheating is: It is or is not okay to....... french another m/w body rubs/ massage from opp. sex jerking to porn instead of having sex w/ SO hand holding emotional affairs...... what a doozy this one is! I have not seen one about glory holes..... but suspect it is in the archive or will come up soon So post away your exp. or ideals of what cheating is to you. Link to post Share on other sites
AlmostMarried77 Posted February 22, 2006 Share Posted February 22, 2006 Looking at another man!! only kidding in order of importance to me Sex Oral Sex Making out Overly strong emotional attachement Sexy dancing (ie bump and grind stuff) Blatant flirting --- the rest are bad but forgivable unless they're constantly an issue General flirting Strip clubs/lap dancing bars Porn Male strippers Link to post Share on other sites
tanbark813 Posted February 22, 2006 Share Posted February 22, 2006 In my ever-so-humble opinion: french another m/w - Definitely cheating body rubs/ massage from opp. sex - Depends; Rubbing the shoulders over the clothes I don't think is cheating. Full body massage naked or with undies on from someone who isn't a licensed masseur/masseuse I think would be cheating. jerking to porn instead of having sex w/ SO - Jerking to porn when the SO isn't around isn't cheating. Jerking to porn when the SO is around I don't think I would classify as cheating, per se, but it's definitely a bad sign and, at the very least, disrespectful. hand holding - Again, I'm not sure I'd call it cheating, but definitely not cool. emotional affairs - Cheating. glory holes - Cheating. I'd also like to add to the list of cheating: A girl going to Tahoe with another guy but lying and saying you're going with a girlfriend. Link to post Share on other sites
TUDOR Posted February 22, 2006 Share Posted February 22, 2006 Cheating = having any part of your body touch another's lips,tits or genitals. Very broad stroke but most everything else can be argued in many ways. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted February 22, 2006 Share Posted February 22, 2006 Cheating is any intimate emotional or physical contact made outside of the current relationship with either sex (or animals, ) with the sole intention of self-gratification and with total disregard for the maintenence of the current relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Author a4a Posted February 22, 2006 Author Share Posted February 22, 2006 Cheating is any intimate emotional or physical contact made outside of the current relationship with either sex (or animals, ) with the sole intention of self-gratification and with total disregard for the maintenence of the current relationship. oh no not emotional contact with my animals!! cheating? I agree with your last line....... even catching my H holding hands with a turd of a woman would set me off.... because that is not in his nature to do so either. He is not touchy feely with strangers at all..... would be a clear indication of his cheating for sure. Link to post Share on other sites
kitten chick Posted February 22, 2006 Share Posted February 22, 2006 Cheating is any intimate emotional or physical contact made outside of the current relationship with either sex (or animals, ) with the sole intention of self-gratification and with total disregard for the maintenence of the current relationship. Wow, great definition B_O! I think that IRL "intimate" could be a debatable factor. One could claim the act was intimate and the other could claim that it wasn't. Link to post Share on other sites
JadeStar Posted February 22, 2006 Share Posted February 22, 2006 Animals? Thats beyond cheating! Jade Link to post Share on other sites
Author a4a Posted February 22, 2006 Author Share Posted February 22, 2006 Animals? Thats beyond cheating! Jade I wonder how many women would immediatley leave their H's for screwing a sheep vs. catching them with another human female...... I bet they would not tolerate the sheep as much as they would tolerate another woman Link to post Share on other sites
TUDOR Posted February 22, 2006 Share Posted February 22, 2006 I wonder how many women would immediatley leave their H's for screwing a sheep vs. catching them with another human female...... I bet they would not tolerate the sheep as much as they would tolerate another woman Yes but what if they were dared to F the sheep by a buddy. Dare's are hard to walk away from for guys. Link to post Share on other sites
JadeStar Posted February 22, 2006 Share Posted February 22, 2006 Theres got to be a reason why there are blow up sheep in sex shops. BAAAA!! Jade Link to post Share on other sites
Author a4a Posted February 22, 2006 Author Share Posted February 22, 2006 Theres got to be a reason why there are blow up sheep in sex shops. BAAAA!! Jade practice to keep the back legs in the boots while humpin I guess omg........ guys do not dare to do this. do they? girls dare = I bet you cannot screw that traffic cone on the highway Link to post Share on other sites
hotgurl Posted February 22, 2006 Share Posted February 22, 2006 cheating is any phyiscal contact that is sexual in nature. Emotional cheating is hazy. tudor: you don't beleive in emotional infidelity? a4a: I don't think I strech that far! Link to post Share on other sites
JadeStar Posted February 22, 2006 Share Posted February 22, 2006 practice to keep the back legs in the boots while humpin I guess omg........ guys do not dare to do this. do they? girls dare = I bet you cannot screw that traffic cone on the highway OMG I have seen those blow up sheep bnefore when hubby and I went to the sex shops before. I kid you not, those damn sheep are expensive. There were right many boxes of those sheep right under the fake vaginas. Jade Link to post Share on other sites
tanbark813 Posted February 22, 2006 Share Posted February 22, 2006 Why do rednecks have sex with sheep at the edge of a cliff? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . So the sheep pushes back. Link to post Share on other sites
TUDOR Posted February 22, 2006 Share Posted February 22, 2006 practice to keep the back legs in the boots while humpin I guess omg........ guys do not dare to do this. do they? girls dare = I bet you cannot screw that traffic cone on the highway I once watched a very drunk girl get dared to shift a standard car with nothing but her p*ssy because she was dared. I'll be damned if she didn't put that thing in gear....what a grip. Link to post Share on other sites
TUDOR Posted February 22, 2006 Share Posted February 22, 2006 tudor: you don't beleive in emotional infidelity? Of course I do. But I also believe one shortly follows the other. Link to post Share on other sites
JadeStar Posted February 22, 2006 Share Posted February 22, 2006 I remember my husbands nieces husband telling us one time back when he was in the service, and he was over in Hong Kong, he was at a local club there, and this woman came out on stage and had live sex with a real donkey. He said when the donkey did his business(not nuumber 2 either) it was like someone had turned on a water hose. He said they had spread plastic on the floor. People actually do this, I just don't get it, and frankly don't want it. I wonder if animals carry STD's? "Hi my name is (so and so) I got herpes from my last lover, a jackass." Jade Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted February 23, 2006 Share Posted February 23, 2006 I agree with you, guys, about the definition of cheating (except for the porn watching part) and I would like to add a few more things: - Intentional hiding that you are in a committed (exclusive) relationship or marriage from another person of the opposite sex for the purpose of free flirting or leaving the desired impression; - Joking around with sexual innuendoes; - Giving compliments that you wouldn't dare say in front of you're partner (e.g. "You're hot!"); - Hiding a "friend" of the opposite sex from your partner (especially if for a long time); - Referring to another person of the opposite sex in a close way, e.g. "Hi beautiful baby... I miss you... Muwah..." - no matter how friendly it's supposed to sound. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted February 23, 2006 Share Posted February 23, 2006 - Joking around with sexual innuendoes; I agree with everything but this. Because I have a bizarre, sick sense of humor that involves joking about bestiality etc. does not mean I am a cheater. It just means my mind is in the gutter! Link to post Share on other sites
Author a4a Posted February 23, 2006 Author Share Posted February 23, 2006 I agree with everything but this. Because I have a bizarre, sick sense of humor that involves joking about bestiality etc. does not mean I am a cheater. It just means my mind is in the gutter! My goodness I would be a huge cheater than..... sex is a topic often with our friends...... my H is present..... although I do not joke about having sex with our friends....just about it in general. Link to post Share on other sites
tanbark813 Posted February 23, 2006 Share Posted February 23, 2006 - Referring to another person of the opposite sex in a close way, e.g. "Hi beautiful baby... I miss you... Muwah..." - no matter how friendly it's supposed to sound. My gf does that with all of her friends--male and female. It bugs me but I've just put up with it for now. Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted February 23, 2006 Share Posted February 23, 2006 I agree with everything but this. Because I have a bizarre, sick sense of humor that involves joking about bestiality etc. does not mean I am a cheater. It just means my mind is in the gutter! Yeah, but it sounds like you're doing it for the sake of having fun... it's different when you have a one-on-one flirty situation where the talk is more sexual than funny... It really depends on the people and the type of friendship they have.. In any case, never underestimate the sexual innuendoes... When I was with my first boyfriend, he had a good friend (whom I married later) and this friend (my ex-husband) had a wife who later died... Anyway, my ex-BF and the wife went together on a business trip, and my ex-husband (who was merely our friend at the time) said to me: "Okay, they are going to be together over the weekend so we should get together too while they are away." I didn't have any feelings for him at the time and I thought it was funny, but turns out he fantasized about me at the time so his joke was hardly just a joke... a4a, just joking about sex in general has nothing to do with flirting, I believe.. Link to post Share on other sites
chelbell5 Posted February 25, 2006 Share Posted February 25, 2006 i think cheating is doing anything you wouldn't do with your significant other standing right there. Link to post Share on other sites
Nocturnal Posted February 27, 2006 Share Posted February 27, 2006 Anything before sex is fine. And when I say sex, I do include things you can do with your hands and tongues. Kisses, even french kissing, is innocent fun.. especially when you are partying. I can't tell a girl not to do something I would hate not be able to do. Overall, I have a pretty forgiving definition. Pornography is just fine, too. I wouldn't care if a girlfriend I had watched it, though it doesn't seem like something girls do overall. Link to post Share on other sites
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