Dream girl problems

[guest]

Well..here goes: Ive had this friend since 2001. Ive always had this crush on her, right? Well, we lose track of each other until August of last year, when we begin talking. She had just been through a nasty breakup that summer and was enjoying the single life again. Im away from home at college, so we were just chatting online and through email.

 

Well, our communication starts to increase somewhat. I hear her mention one time that she wishes that if someone liked her that they would just tell her, because she was tired of the guessing games, etc. Well, I felt brave one evening and sent her a message saying that I had always had this crush on her. I fully expected to never hear from her again, quite honestly, haha. Well, to my suprise, we began communicating more frequently. Eventually, it turned into daily chat. She would send me an instant message as soon as she got to work, and she would text frequently through the night.

 

I came home for Christmas break, and we ended up getting drinks and meeting up out again that weekend. I was sort of realizing that I had feelings for her, but I decided "nah..spend some time with her before you decide that". Well, that same weekend, we both ended up having dreams about each other, and discussed them that next week. Actually, we ended up having several of these dreams about each other over my five week vacation. We spent a lot of time together going out, and some things ended up happening. I decided that I had to tell her how I felt. She's still in this phase where she wants to get out and have fun without being attatched, so I told her that I was interested should she ever be down the line. We continued talking and having an amazing time with one another through the rest of my vacation.

 

The week I came back to school, things sort of seemed to change though. She started getting quieter, texting less, etc. Its sort of like talking to a different person. She said that she's afraid of leading me on in the event that nothing happens with us, and I told her that Im not expecting anything to happen..but I have that hope. She said that was fine with her and all, but things still arent quite the same when we do talk. To add to the mix, her ex boyfriend is sort of back in the picture now, and only serving to confuse her further because he says he "misses her" and wants to be with her again. He broke up with her to be with someone else in the first place...but I digress..

 

Well, I do care for her and want her to be happy. I sent her some flowers on V-Day because she is in my thoughts, and she seemed to love them. Some of my friends say I should just leave it be and forget about her, but even more say that we would be perfect for each other, and I shoul keep being there for her and showing her that I care. I honestly dont know what course of action I should take at this point. I am curious as to why our communication changed so drastically over the last few weeks..Im wrestling with whether or not I should ask her about that now. If anyone has ever been in this situation and has any advice, I would greatly appreciate it.

 

She told me that she has had more fun going out with me than she has had with anyone in a long time, but she's afraid to get herself into a situaton where her heart can be broken again. I know she likes me, she likes talking to me, and going out with me, but Im just not sure she cares for me in "that" way, though she says it usually takes her a while to get feelings for people. Should I go about life and continue to show her that I care since she says there is a chance something could happen with us..or just forget about it all together? Anyway, any advice is welcome. Being with her would truly be a dream come true for me. Im not putting my life on hold for it, but she really is an amazing person. Thanks in advance folks.