Guest Posted February 25, 2007 Share Posted February 25, 2007 Hi All - Its been about a year and half since my ex dumped me. In all this time since, we have gone through some things, despite not being together. Personally, I took this time to make myself a better person and to learn from things. Also, in all this time, even though she has went out with several other guys, she has always begged to be friends. There were periods of NC, one lasted about 3 months, but in the end, she found her way back in my life. Finally, I just let it be, after I felt I had healed enough. I just assumed she trusted me, and most of the time, she would just call to catch up on things, and sometimes to come to me for advice. So, I never really felt like I was being the shoulder for her to cry on, BUT, I was always there for her, and vice versa. She has always maintained her want to be my friend, no matter who she was seeing. A couple of months ago, she came to me with a very personal problem, and we got into a heated argument. She hung up on me, telling me she didn't think this friends thing was working. I let it go. Within a few minutes, she called back as if nothing happened. Though somewhat immature, it seems she still cares for me. Yet, we NEVER see each other, and as time moves on, her calls are becoming less frequent. She never asks to see me, but always manages a phone call just to see how I'm doing. I could never truly figure that one out, considering she has dated several guys after me. All that being said, I still think about her, and though I've dated a few girls afterwards, I didn't feel the same. For a while, after the break-up, I begged, but to no avail. Time certainly does change things. We still speak, but as I said, the calls are becoming less frequent. Obviously, my pleading has gotten me nowhere in the past, and that has stopped me from doing it now, even though, it was a LONG time ago, since I asked for any type of second chance. Now, I don't even know if she's seeing anyone... but, I still miss her, and we went out for 3 years. I certainly believe I am a more mature person. Has anyone ever expressed and reveiled their old feelings to an ex of a long time ago, and actually got somewhere? Should I express to her my feelings, asking to go out to see where things could lead, or just let things go? It's been so long, and I'm sure if she wanted to be with me, she'd say something, but I can't help but wonder if there's something I could do... Please help... Link to post Share on other sites
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