confused3903 Posted February 26, 2007 Share Posted February 26, 2007 Hello Im New To This Site And I Need Some Outside Advice On My Situation. Im 22 Years Old And I've Been In A Relationship For 4yrs. My Boyfriend Just Asked Me To Marry Him And I Thought That Meant I Was The Only Woman He Needs In His Life. He Thinks He Should Be Able To Have Female Friends. To Me If He Had Female Friends That He Knew Before Me Then I Wouldnt Mind, But These Are Women He's Meeting Online. He Says He Talks To Them To Get Different Opinions About Things, But When I Find Their Numbers And Ask Him Who They Are He Acts Like He Dosen't Know Who They Are. Then When I Call Them They Don't Even Know He Has A Girlfriend, And He Says They Are Lying When They Say They Don't Know. I Do Trust Him I Wouldnt Be With Him If I Didn't. I Just Want To Know If I Should Be Upset That He Still Wants To Have Female Friends. I Have Had My Heart Broken Before Could It Be That I Have Insecureity Problems That Steam From That? Link to post Share on other sites
PandorasBox Posted February 26, 2007 Share Posted February 26, 2007 Hello Im New To This Site And I Need Some Outside Advice On My Situation. Im 22 Years Old And I've Been In A Relationship For 4yrs. My Boyfriend Just Asked Me To Marry Him And I Thought That Meant I Was The Only Woman He Needs In His Life. He Thinks He Should Be Able To Have Female Friends. To Me If He Had Female Friends That He Knew Before Me Then I Wouldnt Mind, But These Are Women He's Meeting Online. He Says He Talks To Them To Get Different Opinions About Things, But When I Find Their Numbers And Ask Him Who They Are He Acts Like He Dosen't Know Who They Are. Then When I Call Them They Don't Even Know He Has A Girlfriend, And He Says They Are Lying When They Say They Don't Know. I Do Trust Him I Wouldnt Be With Him If I Didn't. I Just Want To Know If I Should Be Upset That He Still Wants To Have Female Friends. I Have Had My Heart Broken Before Could It Be That I Have Insecureity Problems That Steam From That? He doesn't sound ready to get married. Its one thing to have female friends but another when he lies about it, and the fact these girls are not even aware he has a g/f is a big REDFLAG! Exactly what is he needing their opinons on? Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted February 26, 2007 Share Posted February 26, 2007 Do not marry this guy. If he is talking to women online, getting to know them, wanting different opinions (which can be translated as "different experiences" maybe???) he sounds too young and immature to be even THINKING of marrying you. That is not how someone acts when they want to marry the love of their life. At 22, you're so young! You have years ahead of you to have fun, work and grow as a person...Don't marry him now. He can have female friends, but as long as you are included in the friendships. The thing is, it sounds like he wants to dabble on the side while having you in his life... Link to post Share on other sites
CardPlay3r Posted February 27, 2007 Share Posted February 27, 2007 I'm with the rest don't marry him....that said you're wrong in thinking your SO shouldn't have female friends, BUT in this instance he has been lying to you which is not good Link to post Share on other sites
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