Flirting by subtle touch

[Droors]

For the last year, I have stopped at a particular drug store to purchase a drink before starting my commute to school. On occasion, I would see this attractive girl who worked there and we would often smile at each other and say "Hello", sometimes even striking up short conversations. They usually focused on how we both enjoy the same brand of iced tea or about the weather; we were just making small talk. I thought nothing of it since it is not the first time I have frequented an establishment enough to become recognized as a familiar face.

 

Anyways, the other day while I was standing in line and not paying attention, this same girl poked me in the ribs as she walked behind the counter and said a friendly "Hello". I was quite shocked by her actions, considering we are hardly acquainted with one another and I don't know anything about her. We then continued to make small talk just like before; both of us were smiling and making eye contact the entire time even though she was not my cashier.

 

While I have never considered myself good at detecting subtle forms of flirtation, I was always taught to interpret any form of touch as a positive indication that a woman may be interested. This time, however, I am a little confused since this girl seems way out of my league (ie. she probably has a boyfriend) and she may just be a friendly kind of person who feels comfortable around me since I have been there so often.

 

To women who are reading this, would you consider it socially acceptable to touch a person whom you only know by face to simply say hello? If not, would you consider this "fleeting touch" technique as a way of expressing interest/flirting? Also, would you do this if you already had a boyfriend?

 

Otherwise, anyone else's opinion would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

[GoldPenny]

Hi, I am a girl, but consider myself different from the typical girl who would show sexual/romantic interest. One, I'm a bit much more into looks than other girls are or admit to; have a masculine way of communication according to psychologists and other social studies (few facial expressions, little vocal variation, dark attire, adrogenous interests, less touchy as females touch both sexes more often than males (males avoiding touching other males a lot and more females of course) when comunicating in a friendly manner according to Customer Service courses etc.).

 

Anyway, after that introduction, I would say that I am more inclined to touch you when talking to you if I personally like you. *wink* I cannot stand touching those that I have absolutely no attraction to; it grosses me out. Oh, and if my face is clear from zits that day, I'll look into your eyes more if you're displaying interest in me. *smiles*

[Trialbyfire]

I will not touch someone I don't like, whether it's a friendly "like" or something more, so if she's anything like I am, you can rule out active dislike, lol.

 

One thing though. She has singled you out for attention. The next time she's your cashier, accidentally reach out for something she's reaching for so your hands make light contact. Watch her reaction. It should be blatant what she feels.

[VinaAmez]

Well I'm a female and I touch EVERYBODY. I'm a touchy feely person but if I really liked someone I would take it further.

[oh_what_am_I_doing]

I keep my hands to myself for the most part, so if I were to touch someone like that, it would be a good sign! I think she's into you... you should ask her out! You could write your phone number on a dollar bill or something and hand it to her whenever you shop next

[norajane]

Some women touch frequently; others don't. My opinion is that attractive women tend to touch people more often, as they are more likely to get positive feedback from society (what guy doesn't want to be touched by a pretty girl?), and they are less likely to get a blantant rejection (what guy is going to flinch and step back if he's touched by a pretty girl?).

 

If you want to know if she's interested in you, flirt with her, hold eye contact like you've been doing, maybe touch hands as you're exchanging money, and, when you're comfortable one day, ASK HER OUT. You'll never know unless you try!