Wanting To Be Supportive

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My Girl Friend,who I Have Dated For 3 Months, Is Recovering From An Opiate Addiction.when We Met I Had No Idea.i Am Not A User.i Decided To Stay With Her And Try To Aide In Her Recovery. She Is Now In A Treatment Facility. She Has Been In A Month And Barely Talks To Me. During The Time We Were Together,she Was Placed On Methodone To Keep Her Stable Untill Her Treatment Could Start.

 

We Argued Alot But Loved Even Moore.i Am Lost. I Wanted Her To Recover And Stay With Me. We Had Plans For This. She Loved Me So Much. She Often Would Argue That I Did Not Understand. And I Did'nt. What Do I Do. I Write With No Response. I Totally Understand That She Has To Focus On Herself To Have A Successfull Recovery. Do You Think I Should Stay Or Go. I Am To Meet With Her This Sunday.she Has Already Put Our Meeting Off Once. Am I A Part Of The Problem

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My Girl Friend,who I Have Dated For 3 Months, Is Recovering From An Opiate Addiction.when We Met I Had No Idea.i Am Not A User.i Decided To Stay With Her And Try To Aide In Her Recovery. She Is Now In A Treatment Facility. She Has Been In A Month And Barely Talks To Me. During The Time We Were Together,she Was Placed On Methodone To Keep Her Stable Untill Her Treatment Could Start.

 

We Argued Alot But Loved Even Moore.i Am Lost. I Wanted Her To Recover And Stay With Me. We Had Plans For This. She Loved Me So Much. She Often Would Argue That I Did Not Understand. And I Did'nt. What Do I Do. I Write With No Response. I Totally Understand That She Has To Focus On Herself To Have A Successfull Recovery. Do You Think I Should Stay Or Go. I Am To Meet With Her This Sunday.she Has Already Put Our Meeting Off Once. Am I A Part Of The Problem

 

I don't think you are a part of the problem. If you have never had a drug problem, it is definately hard to relate to what she is going through.

 

She may argue with you a lot, and maybe even tell you that she doesn't love you.

Don't take it to heart. Not yet. She is going through something aweful, and she is going to be moody as hell. One minute she will be fine, then the next, super bitch from hell. I have dealt with this already.

 

In the long run, if her treatment is successful, then she will thank you for standing by her and being supportive.

 

It's hard for her to see this right now, and maybe it's hard for you to see it also, but she DOES need you.

 

Stick with her. She's going to need all the support she can get, even if she refuses it.

 

Good luck,

DH