folks want me to date-late late bloomer having a hard time now

[joel]

Well this week my cousin who is in his mid 30's will be getting married. Yaayy free food. hehe

Well that when aunts, uncles from my mom's side will be bothering me as to why i don't have a gf . i'm in my mid 20's. funny thing is growing up they never cared about dating, and girls-but school, school, marks and staying at home on a friday night, and all day weekends. school was like number one to them. this carried on from elementary to college. As a whole i never went out with friends, had any friends to hang out with, or even any friends at school-this was on fri , sat, sun and even summer, spring breaks. just stayed at home and used the computer, watched tv and studied. unforuntately academics wasn't my thing. i went to community college instead and obtained a diploma. i was a complete loner. yup yup.

 

now back to today. aunts, uncles come in to visist us today. And guess what they ask -"why Joe , don't you have a gf" . later in the day and weeks past i guess the aunts , uncles tell my mom -as to that Joe needs to date and have a gf.

Now my mom tells me as to go start dating, finding a gf, and how married life is way better than single life.

 

In my mind i'm like ah so now you tell me hey. You can't just tell me to change and go get a gf. Its hard when your sheltered, lived a anti social life, wasn't given the social skills growing up to go get a date and also go get a gf. I can't change overnight. Its like b/c most of my cousins are getting married, they ask when i will marry. lol i like a guy in his mid 20's with like 13 year old dating and yes no gf experience. lol marriage.

 

some guys can get girls very easily b/c they have experience and start dating at 17 or what not. i started at 24 and i met all of em off the internet-myspace, plentyoffish. they all didn't last at all-3 dates on average.

 

man that just ticks me off. its like overnight to go and change. I mean even if i do find a girl, my folks would criticize her if she didn't speak cantonese(what we speakl), if its not that its something else. why don;t do go get a honger girl, then i do get one, its why don't u go get a cbc girl. then its shes too young , a little too old. i now them its always something wrong with something with em and ppl.

[GoldPenny]

I am a late bloomer as well; well, I've never liked the idea of getting into a romantic relationship anyway, but I've always liked the idea of sex, just never got out there and did it. I'm almost 21 and hope to lose my virginity at 20.

 

I'm Asian, but the ****ty Cambodian culture type; however, my family is mainly Chinese biologically, so I grew up being discriminated against by other Asians that my family hung out with me tagging along as well as non-Asians and "culturally appropriate" NE Asians, yep a hard-knock life of racism with a triple punch.

 

I grew up to a lazy, nonsupportive, noncommunicative, unskilled, good-for-nothing, stare-at-the-wall all day Dad who has been washing dishes for a living and comes home with his fat ass who doesn't even try to set a good example of hard work, good diet, good fitness, chores, self-education, etc. Not a ****ing life lesson from him either.

I grew up to an equally unambitious mother who was pretty much the same way except for the stare-at-the-wall thing; she stared at the TV set w/o understanding a simple sentence most of the time even after living in this country for over 25 years.

 

My mother told me up front without any introduction, to not get a boyfriend until I get a job or get into college. That was the only thing she told me about life. Oh, and not to open the door for strangers even when I was in my late teens. No ****ing life lessons after that.

 

I was ****ing depressed, feeling in the tug-of-war game. I did not communicate well with some Northern Asians if they knew of my Cambodian background and lack of norhern tongue. The non-Asians taunted me as well, well, many of them were friendly or flirtatious) as the dark-skinned Asians (and many of them were friendly or flirtatious). I was ALONE with a nondiscriminatory friends. On top of that, I was sexually molested or harrassed by my *mother*, *brother*, AND a guy who was a tenant when I was a little kid. Some of the first movies I'd ever seen in my life was porno. My mother tried to make me suck her tits, baring them and pushing my head toward them with a laugh when I was seven. My brother gave me oral sex. And, the twenty-something guy pushed loads of porn to me, had dry sex with me, fondled me, and had me give him a hand job with a small blow session.

 

 

 

Boy, it feels great to let that out.

[JCD]

It's your life so do what makes you happy and don't pay attention to what others might think of you. Take the advice, sleep on it and then decide to use it or not.

[Guest]

"It is not our abilities that show who we TRULY are. It is our choices."