Beatnik Posted November 17, 2002 Share Posted November 17, 2002 OK I'm 16 and I'm interested in my brother's girlfriend's roommate, who's in her early 20's. I first met her maybe a year and a half ago. We talked a bit, but frankly I was quite a bit "larger" back then, so I didn't have near the confidence and self-esteem as I do now, so I was nervous and didn't talk to her much. In fact I think I was so unhappy with myself that I probably didn't even think about dating anyone because I didn't think anyone would want such a slob. So I dropped from about 255 to 210 and now I'm much happier, and I'm much more confident around the opposite sex. So fairly recently she has come over to my house alot where my brother is also living, but even though shes been friends with my bro for a while she spends most of her time around me. We've played games together, often flirtatiously commenting on each others scores, shes purposely bumped her hips into me as shes passed by, we've made lots of eye contact and have smiled at each other numerous times, and also she wanted to hug me before she left the last time. Now I was the one to first initiate the flirting but she started most of the rest. So my question is, judging also from our age difference, could she be interested in me or could this merely be playful flirting? Also I would like to make it abundantly clear that I am not "in love" with this women, I am simply interested in her based upon how well we get along and that she is also attractive. It's really hard to find a girl I can relate with in my own age group, most of whom are so ditsy, I wouldn't dream of dating any of them, no matter how attractive they are. My brother has also commented before that she "wasn't much older than me" so maybe he thinks we'd be a good pair. Link to post Share on other sites
Ally Boo Posted November 17, 2002 Share Posted November 17, 2002 Purposely bump your lips onto hers and see what she does! haha Link to post Share on other sites
butterflyz Posted November 17, 2002 Share Posted November 17, 2002 but can't tell if she's interested in more than flirting. Link to post Share on other sites
Ally Boo Posted November 17, 2002 Share Posted November 17, 2002 You could always just ask her... Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted November 17, 2002 Share Posted November 17, 2002 It depends a lot on her. But don't set yourself up for a big heartbreak. The greatest majority of women in their early 20's would not seriously date a 16-year-old. One of the biggest problems is if the relationship got very serious, it would be a third degree felony for her to engage in sex with you...statutory rape. The other problem would be peer opinion...girlfriends who would make fun of her for robbing the cradle. I think if you look around enough, you will find some very nice, compatible ladies your age who would be great for you. And, as you get older, you will find lots more. If you've got the guts, talk to this lady you're interested in. Maybe you can be buddies with her. But the complications of getting serious with her would be overwhelming and if she's as sharp as you say she won't put her reputation in jeopardy. In other words, have respect for where she is in life...and have respect for where you are. And treat her and yourself accordingly. Go pick on somebody your own age.... Congratulations on your weight loss...that's great. But, remember, the greatest battle is keeping it off. Watch what you eat and exercise regularly. The ladies will love you for it, for sure!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Beatnik Posted November 17, 2002 Author Share Posted November 17, 2002 Actually Tony, the age of consent for my state is only 16, so it wouldn't be illegal if we were to do "it". Also I've learned from past relationships to deal with rejection well, and to not confuse infatuation with love. And I already know her best friend, she's my Bro's girlfriend, whom I also get along with well and she knows I'm not an immature, horney 16 y/o like so many of my peers. In fact I really don't even look 16 more like 18 or 19, so much so that guys in my school try to get me to buy them cigs. I would also like the mention that when my bro was 16 he was dating someone 20 years older than him, now thats what I would call "robbing the cradle". Now I do believe a girl my age going out with say a 26 y/o guy is wrong because frankly theres only one thing one the mind of a 26 y/o dating a teenager, and thats to trick her into sleeping with him. But I don't believe age always makes a difference, so I'm going to go for it, and if it works out great, but if it doesn't it's no big deal, just another girl I was interested in that didn't work out. Link to post Share on other sites
Ally Boo Posted November 17, 2002 Share Posted November 17, 2002 go for it! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Beatnik Posted November 18, 2002 Author Share Posted November 18, 2002 Thanks for the maturity comment, I like to think of myself as a mature person. And thanks Paul for re-editing my post so I don't look like too much of an ass. Link to post Share on other sites
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