Karen_A_Martin Posted March 3, 2007 Share Posted March 3, 2007 My 15 year old son is girl crazy, but is just beginning to learn the steps involved in dating a young woman, and is understandly quite awkward at this stage. He went to a dance a few nights ago, and apparently was able to establish a nice rapport with one of the girls there. She also happens to be a girl he's very interested in. Well, I guess he mistook her frendliness for romantic interest, and decided to plant a kiss on her. She was taken aback and became quite upset. She exclaimed, "Michael, I thought you were my friend!", and then she gave him a crisp slap on his cheek. He feels really bad for a whole slew of reasons. He feels ashamed that he got his face slapped by a girl, and now lacks confidence about his touch with the ladies. He feels even worse that he made her so upset. He's also disappointed that she didn't see him as more than a friend, but would hate to lose her as a friend. I gave him some consolation and support, but would like to hear what advice you would offer him as well. I was also teasing him that he shouldn't feel too bad...he achieved two rites of passage into manhood, in quick succession - his first kiss and his first slap ;-) Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted March 3, 2007 Share Posted March 3, 2007 I thought i replied!! What a harsh thing to happen to one so young, and such a gentleman too! that girl sounds way more self assured than I was at 15, I was pretty keen to see any boy action! She obvioulsy has no idea her friendliness was leading him on!! Eek! Reassure him, and remind him that he will suffer a few setbacks beforehe finds "the One". Maybe he should ask them "may I kiss you"... such a line would work i think, but also preserve his dignity should they say- "I would rather be just friends". Link to post Share on other sites
Lights Posted March 7, 2007 Share Posted March 7, 2007 I am under the impression (but may of course be corrected) from those posts that the boy in question did not attempt anything by force nor physically sexually harass the girl in question and thus did not deserve to be rebuffed via violence. It's too bad that he didn't mangle to uselessness the hand that struck him--that would have made for some justice most poetic. I don't know how one would explain the situation to him; he'd done something apparently undesired but not anything wrongful. Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted March 7, 2007 Share Posted March 7, 2007 I am sure I posted twice on this thread... where did it go? Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted March 7, 2007 Share Posted March 7, 2007 I am sure I posted twice on this thread... where did it go? Hey, sb129, there are two identical threads. Here is the other one, just for you. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t113825/ Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted March 7, 2007 Share Posted March 7, 2007 Why thank you kind sir. Link to post Share on other sites
tanbark813 Posted March 7, 2007 Share Posted March 7, 2007 Make sure he knows he didn't do anything wrong. Also, tell him that if the girl isn't interested in him romantically it just means she has poor taste in guys. Don't advise him to ask for a kiss. That's just going to screw him up later. ALWAYS just go for the kiss. Asking is lame and shows a lack of confidence. Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted March 7, 2007 Share Posted March 7, 2007 Ok- cool. COming from a guy I think thats better advice. I WOULD find someone asking me lame, but I am a slapper who usually makes the first move herself. And I am not sure what teenagers these days are into... being an old lady of 29 and all. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted March 7, 2007 Share Posted March 7, 2007 <<I WOULD find someone asking me lame, but I am a slapper who usually makes the first move herself.>> Huh??? Sorry, but you lost me on that one, LOL Please explain... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Karen_A_Martin Posted March 7, 2007 Author Share Posted March 7, 2007 <<I WOULD find someone asking me lame, but I am a slapper who usually makes the first move herself.>> Huh??? Sorry, but you lost me on that one, LOL. Please explain... Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted March 7, 2007 Share Posted March 7, 2007 I usually make the first move! But I have a few more years experience.. some would call me a woman of compromised morals. But I'm not! am in a very happy monogamous relationship with Wonderboy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Karen_A_Martin Posted March 7, 2007 Author Share Posted March 7, 2007 Ah, ok, now i understand. I don't see anything wrong with a woman making the first move. There's nothing wrong with taking initiative. Much better than looking back with regret. Link to post Share on other sites
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