Road Rage Posted March 4, 2007 Share Posted March 4, 2007 Ok women come forth and tell the truth. I have never seen this mentioned on LS....but it happens to guys a lot. Just when a gal gives a guy a serious romp, she dumps him like a hot rock. In hindsight, it is obvious to the guy she knew what was coming next, no pun intended:laugh: Although, extremely baffling why someone would have one more romp after the decision is made to move on. It happened to me, I have known it to happen to a married guy when the wife decided to leave, also many other situations where the woman knows she is outta there and this seems to really blindside a guy. But, I see a pattern here and I call it the goodbye f*ck. Now, explain to me what this is all about:confused: So far as I know, guys do not do this with the flair women seem to put into it. Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted March 4, 2007 Share Posted March 4, 2007 Happened to me. In the process of going through a painful breakup with one ex, we ended up having lots of sex. It was very confusing. On the other hand those memories are kind of nice at times. Link to post Share on other sites
lindya Posted March 4, 2007 Share Posted March 4, 2007 Now, explain to me what this is all about:confused: So far as I know, guys do not do this with the flair women seem to put into it. We just realise that long after memories of the doe-eyed gazes, the haircut that worked well for us and the kind way we treated animals have faded....you'll remember that blowjob. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Road Rage Posted March 4, 2007 Author Share Posted March 4, 2007 Gotcha Johan Mostly this is a one event romp. The final whammy! A guy will usual think things are looking up. Again, no pun intended:o To use a real life example, a woman about to separate with her husband with the intention to divorce after living in a sleeping in separate rooms no sex situation has a slam bam thank you mam with hubby. Just when he thinks the tide has turned. She drops the bombshell on him and wants to divorce. Can`t get anymore goodbye than that:eek: Link to post Share on other sites
guin_girl Posted March 4, 2007 Share Posted March 4, 2007 Not that I have ever done this, but I would have to think that they aren't leaving for someone else and they may not be getting sex for a while? One the flip side, many men will break up and still want to have FWB... maybe the sex is good, but nothing else in the relationship was... Link to post Share on other sites
Kwo-ne'-she Posted March 4, 2007 Share Posted March 4, 2007 "Goodbye ****" is a rather crude way of putting it. LOL I have done that, and it wasn't to hurt or cause more pain to the man. It was part of my saying goodbye. A loving act, rather than a cruel one, as the words you chose imply. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Road Rage Posted March 4, 2007 Author Share Posted March 4, 2007 Bingo Lindya! This is what I suspected but did not want to lead the prosecution. Maybe even some form of insurance policy should she change her mind somewhere out there in the future??? Or is it she who laughs last, laughs hardest? Again, no pun intended:laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted March 4, 2007 Share Posted March 4, 2007 Well here's my story: I was all packed up, truck loaded and ready for my move out of state the next morning. Ex-husband wants a last romp. I said no. I didn't see the point in it. Next morning, I'm all ready to go and asked him for a hug goodbye. I knew that after nine years together, I would never see him again. Well he said no to my request for a last hug goodbye. I guess he didn't see the point in it. Needless to say, I was thrilled that I turned him down the night before. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Road Rage Posted March 4, 2007 Author Share Posted March 4, 2007 Kwo-ne`-she Thanks for putting a kindly perspective to this. I guess that could be the case. But, I think a guy will inevitably interpret it as a sort of cruel deception because he is getting dumped. Yes, I did percieve this as being a sort of devious plot by a woman to really blindside him and maybe tell him she can walk away from what he has to offer. Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted March 4, 2007 Share Posted March 4, 2007 I've detected a pattern. It seems like women who have already found someone else to be attracted to are more apt to do this. If she has simply fallen out of love, then she is less likely to do it. That's my non-scientific, relatively small sample, anecdotal observation. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Road Rage Posted March 4, 2007 Author Share Posted March 4, 2007 Touche If I am not being too personal, the final time you "did it" with your ex husband, did you have a sense that this is goodbye? Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted March 4, 2007 Share Posted March 4, 2007 Touche has no idea what she's talking about most of the time. I think she spends a lot of time taking some serious illegal narcotics. If I knew her real name or where she lived I'd turn her in to the authorities for being a menace to herself and society. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Road Rage Posted March 4, 2007 Author Share Posted March 4, 2007 Johan I think you are absolutely right on average. However, I do know this has happened when the woman had no one else in the picture and the intent was strickly to move on. In my case there was another guy out there and this is probably what makes it seem cruel. Link to post Share on other sites
Craig Posted March 4, 2007 Share Posted March 4, 2007 One can interpret "the good bye f*ck" in many ways but like everything else in life, context is everything. Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted March 4, 2007 Share Posted March 4, 2007 Personally, I would be a little too afraid of the potential consequences to have "one for the road"... I can't think of anything worse than being pregnant to an ex. And I am sure they would be less than thrilled too. Just putting a practical spin on things. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted March 4, 2007 Share Posted March 4, 2007 Touche If I am not being too personal, the final time you "did it" with your ex husband, did you have a sense that this is goodbye? I don't even remember the final time. For me, once it's over it's over. Once the decision was made to leave, I had no desire to be intimate with him. And Johan, what are you babbling about? Link to post Share on other sites
kitten chick Posted March 4, 2007 Share Posted March 4, 2007 I can't think of anything worse than being pregnant to an ex. True that!!! Dealing with an unwanted pregnancy on your own is horrible. But that's our brain that keeps us from ex-sex. Sometimes our heart wins out and the desire to have intimacy with someone that you love but can't be with for one reason or another is overwhelming and our heart wins out. Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted March 4, 2007 Share Posted March 4, 2007 Touche has no idea what she's talking about most of the time. I think she spends a lot of time taking some serious illegal narcotics. If I knew her real name or where she lived I'd turn her in to the authorities for being a menace to herself and society. You can't be serious. I can't find another supplier just like that, so don't be doing anything stupid, stupid. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted March 4, 2007 Share Posted March 4, 2007 You can't be serious. I can't find another supplier just like that, so don't be doing anything stupid, stupid. Ha, ha...very funny. The fact of the matter is that I ran out of that blueberry shyt a long time ago. Now where did I put Alch's number? Link to post Share on other sites
Kwo-ne'-she Posted March 4, 2007 Share Posted March 4, 2007 Kwo-ne`-she Thanks for putting a kindly perspective to this. I guess that could be the case. But, I think a guy will inevitably interpret it as a sort of cruel deception because he is getting dumped. Yes, I did percieve this as being a sort of devious plot by a woman to really blindside him and maybe tell him she can walk away from what he has to offer. All cases are different. Some may do it for spite, a "see what you'll be missing" type of thing. Some may do it for the pure physical pleasure of it, if the two of you were really good together in that way. Myself - I loved him, but there were reasons we could no longer be together. I wanted a way to express that love one last time, knowing that we would probably never see each other again. Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted March 4, 2007 Share Posted March 4, 2007 All cases are different. That's a great point. But, thinking about it some more, I'm a bit surprised that some cases weren't similar, or there wasn't a case that seemed almost like history was repeating itself. Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted March 4, 2007 Share Posted March 4, 2007 Is this like a "last" cigarette? You know, you gently and lovingly suck all the life out of it, and then discard the stub. I suppose you could mount the stub, but you wouldn't really want to remember things that way. Link to post Share on other sites
Craig Posted March 4, 2007 Share Posted March 4, 2007 ...I'm a bit surprised that some cases weren't similar, or there wasn't a case that seemed almost like history was repeating itself. or maybe there was and someone didn't post the details Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted March 4, 2007 Share Posted March 4, 2007 here's the short and honest answer to the OP - because we can it's that simple if a gal is in the mood and a willing man is around... and Johan - lay off Touche - she's a good thing.... Link to post Share on other sites
lindya Posted March 4, 2007 Share Posted March 4, 2007 Kwo-ne`-she Thanks for putting a kindly perspective to this. I guess that could be the case. But, I think a guy will inevitably interpret it as a sort of cruel deception because he is getting dumped. It could be that...but then, all kinds of forces are at work when a relationship ends. Sometimes a person will pick up various non verbal cues that a person's interest in them is waning. In that case, the goodbye f*ck might be more of an "I'll quit while the going's still good - remember me this way" sort of thing. The whole thing's quite interesting. I suggested a goodbye f*ck to someone who was splitting up with me once, and it was about to happen - then he said that he couldn't go through with it as it would be far too emotionally painful for me. In all honesty, I think I'd have been fine with it. I knew we were breaking up - and though of course it would have been emotional, a final fling just seemed like the sweetest way to say goodbye. Maybe he was right though. Or maybe sex just sometimes has more of an emotional impact on men than they're prepared to admit? Link to post Share on other sites
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