Jinxx Posted March 4, 2007 Share Posted March 4, 2007 Not now! It would have been for convenience and financial purposes only but was willing to do it because we lead a pretty damned good lifestyle. Let me preface by saying I'm no angel. I had an affair in which he never did know about. Enough said about that -- past history. My daughter who continues to remain close to him (stepfather situation) was over there a couple of days ago. When she came home she told me she saw a pop-up on his computer from a dating site. I have no problem with that, we are separted so he can do what he wants with respect to that matter. Me being me decided to go on to the dating website and find him. I then decided to create a fake profile and "baited him". He hit on me right away. According to him, and what a friggin liar he is, I am mentally ill, I am financially unstable and I lost my daughter (he adopted her) because I am an unfit mother. And, he got everything -- house, RV toys, property etc. because I am so irresponsible and mentally ill. We are not divorced only separated. He keeps asking me to send a picture. I think I'll suggest meeting him in person. The look on his face to see who he has been chatting with all this time will be friggin priceless. Actually it is quite funny because none of it is true and it made me open my eyes open even further of what kind of man he really is. I feel sorry for the poor sucker who does end up with him. The man is a financial mess and a pathological liar. So now I guess our divorce will be in full swing and I'm sure will become very ugly. One thing I will never do is the internet dating thing. What a crock of crap that is. People lie. Maybe not everyone and I never thought my husband would stretch the truth so much to impress a woman. How sad is that?! Must be an insecurity thing. Who knows. But at least he won't be my problemn anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
Kwo-ne'-she Posted March 4, 2007 Share Posted March 4, 2007 Oh my goodness! So glad you found out how he really is. I would love to hear the story if you arranged a "meet up" as this dating site woman! Link to post Share on other sites
Prudence Posted March 4, 2007 Share Posted March 4, 2007 Wow, Jinxx, what a shock. That's awful. Do you think it's his way of lashing out at you, showing his anger over your separation? Or is it just purely to make himself look good? Be careful if you go to meet him! Link to post Share on other sites
Romeo Must Die Posted March 5, 2007 Share Posted March 5, 2007 Remember that the opposite of hate is love. It would be worse if he didnt talk about you. I know this sounds crazy, but I was told once that divorced men say and do ALOT of stupid things? It sure sounds true to me, Jinxx. Wow that is funny about IMing in secret with your ex, but you know what, I would probably do the same thing to my spouse. If you wanted to be extra mean, you could get a bunch of us from the forum to "hit" on him and dump him. We'll destroy his ego systematicly. LOL. If it were my husband I would talk dirty to him and then when he got all excited I would tell him something crazy like "I am really a guy." and save the webcam pic of him screaming and frame it next to my computer. Lolz... because I am no angel either! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jinxx Posted March 5, 2007 Author Share Posted March 5, 2007 Wow, Jinxx, what a shock. That's awful. Do you think it's his way of lashing out at you, showing his anger over your separation? Or is it just purely to make himself look good? Be careful if you go to meet him! Who knows what the hell he was thinking.... lashing out at me -- maybe. He was pretty pissed when I left. I wasn't even gone a month and he hooked up with a gal he went to high school with. Turned out she was a lesbian or bi so he struck out with that one. More likely than not he is trying to make himself look good. Link to post Share on other sites
Pigblue Posted March 5, 2007 Share Posted March 5, 2007 So sorry for you Jinxx. Keep a cool head. Act - don't react. Small consolation - you'll know it's the right thing not being with him. Best of luck! Link to post Share on other sites
mum2three Posted March 5, 2007 Share Posted March 5, 2007 That would be evil to set him up but he is NOT worth your time. It is weird how we are shocked to see things from H's or exH's view. I was carousing on H's computer and saw that he filed my emails as "Rants". It really shows his anger towards me. I was miffed but after a couple of hrs I just said "oh well". We can't control how they think and what they do. If we react negatively then we are giving them out spirit and positive energy. Let your exH enjoy his internet dating. At least you really see thru him. That is not the person that you hope to meet online! Link to post Share on other sites
Gunny376 Posted March 5, 2007 Share Posted March 5, 2007 Not now! It would have been for convenience and financial purposes only but was willing to do it because we lead a pretty damned good lifestyle. Let me preface by saying I'm no angel. I had an affair in which he never did know about. Enough said about that -- past history. My daughter who continues to remain close to him (stepfather situation) was over there a couple of days ago. When she came home she told me she saw a pop-up on his computer from a dating site. I have no problem with that, we are separted so he can do what he wants with respect to that matter. Me being me decided to go on to the dating website and find him. I then decided to create a fake profile and "baited him". He hit on me right away. According to him, and what a friggin liar he is, I am mentally ill, I am financially unstable and I lost my daughter (he adopted her) because I am an unfit mother. And, he got everything -- house, RV toys, property etc. because I am so irresponsible and mentally ill. We are not divorced only separated. He keeps asking me to send a picture. I think I'll suggest meeting him in person. The look on his face to see who he has been chatting with all this time will be friggin priceless. Actually it is quite funny because none of it is true and it made me open my eyes open even further of what kind of man he really is. I feel sorry for the poor sucker who does end up with him. The man is a financial mess and a pathological liar. So now I guess our divorce will be in full swing and I'm sure will become very ugly. One thing I will never do is the internet dating thing. What a crock of crap that is. People lie. Maybe not everyone and I never thought my husband would stretch the truth so much to impress a woman. How sad is that?! Must be an insecurity thing. Who knows. But at least he won't be my problemn anymore. :lmao: :lmao: Not to miminize your pain and suffering in all of this ~ but that's just too funny! I've learned long ago to never underestimate any woman! I'd follow through with the meeting ~ its just way too priceless! A werid bent on the "Pina Coladia" song! :lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted March 5, 2007 Share Posted March 5, 2007 I'm sure you're pissed, and you have a right to be! God, what an awful creep. At the same time, why prolong your contact with him through stupid games, and why put yourself through an acrimonious divorce? Take the high road, let the IM-crap go, and just get a simple divorce without extra drama. Your best revenge will be ridding yourself of ever needing to talk to him again - let your lawyer deal with him. Show your daughter what class is all about, and don't stoop to his level. Link to post Share on other sites
Gunny376 Posted March 5, 2007 Share Posted March 5, 2007 I'm sure you're pissed, and you have a right to be! God, what an awful creep. At the same time, why prolong your contact with him through stupid games, and why put yourself through an acrimonious divorce? Take the high road, let the IM-crap go, and just get a simple divorce without extra drama. Your best revenge will be ridding yourself of ever needing to talk to him again - let your lawyer deal with him. Show your daughter what class is all about, and don't stoop to his level. Good post! All day strong! Link to post Share on other sites
Gunny376 Posted March 5, 2007 Share Posted March 5, 2007 "acrimonious" Spit, spat, studder and spudder ~ so that's how that word is spelled! :lmao: :lmao: I'm lousy at spelling! Link to post Share on other sites
boshemia Posted March 5, 2007 Share Posted March 5, 2007 Well, at least he was looking for a female. Try finding your ex's picture under man looking for men : ) Puts a whole new perspective on the marriage problems. Link to post Share on other sites
jmargel Posted March 5, 2007 Share Posted March 5, 2007 Not now! It would have been for convenience and financial purposes only but was willing to do it because we lead a pretty damned good lifestyle. Let me preface by saying I'm no angel. I had an affair in which he never did know about. Enough said about that -- past history. My daughter who continues to remain close to him (stepfather situation) was over there a couple of days ago. When she came home she told me she saw a pop-up on his computer from a dating site. I have no problem with that, we are separted so he can do what he wants with respect to that matter. Me being me decided to go on to the dating website and find him. I then decided to create a fake profile and "baited him". He hit on me right away. According to him, and what a friggin liar he is, I am mentally ill, I am financially unstable and I lost my daughter (he adopted her) because I am an unfit mother. And, he got everything -- house, RV toys, property etc. because I am so irresponsible and mentally ill. We are not divorced only separated. He keeps asking me to send a picture. I think I'll suggest meeting him in person. The look on his face to see who he has been chatting with all this time will be friggin priceless. Actually it is quite funny because none of it is true and it made me open my eyes open even further of what kind of man he really is. I feel sorry for the poor sucker who does end up with him. The man is a financial mess and a pathological liar. So now I guess our divorce will be in full swing and I'm sure will become very ugly. One thing I will never do is the internet dating thing. What a crock of crap that is. People lie. Maybe not everyone and I never thought my husband would stretch the truth so much to impress a woman. How sad is that?! Must be an insecurity thing. Who knows. But at least he won't be my problemn anymore. Jinxx.. why do you even care enough to do something like this? To me it's childish. Most people who meet someone new is going to blame their problems with their past relationship on the other person. I have yet to meet a person when I was dating that said 'the problems in last relationship I had were because of all me'. I mean, who would date someone like that then? Not now! It would have been for convenience and financial purposes only but was willing to do it because we lead a pretty damned good lifestyle. Let me preface by saying I'm no angel. I had an affair in which he never did know about. Enough said about that -- past history. Honestly this is awful. You going back with him because of your own selfish reasons then you do something like baiting him and trying to make him as a bad person. On top of that you cheated on him, so you are just as bad as him. You really need to grow up and if you are done with this marriage then get a divorce and LET IT BE. Leave him alone and move on with your life. This isn't healthy for you or especially your daughter. She is caught up in all of this and both him and YOU need to start acting like adults. Link to post Share on other sites
lovelorcet Posted March 5, 2007 Share Posted March 5, 2007 Not now! It would have been for convenience and financial purposes only but was willing to do it because we lead a pretty damned good lifestyle. Let me preface by saying I'm no angel. I had an affair in which he never did know about. Enough said about that -- past history. My daughter who continues to remain close to him (stepfather situation) was over there a couple of days ago. When she came home she told me she saw a pop-up on his computer from a dating site. I have no problem with that, we are separted so he can do what he wants with respect to that matter. Me being me decided to go on to the dating website and find him. I then decided to create a fake profile and "baited him". He hit on me right away. According to him, and what a friggin liar he is, I am mentally ill, I am financially unstable and I lost my daughter (he adopted her) because I am an unfit mother. And, he got everything -- house, RV toys, property etc. because I am so irresponsible and mentally ill. We are not divorced only separated. He keeps asking me to send a picture. I think I'll suggest meeting him in person. The look on his face to see who he has been chatting with all this time will be friggin priceless. Actually it is quite funny because none of it is true and it made me open my eyes open even further of what kind of man he really is. I feel sorry for the poor sucker who does end up with him. The man is a financial mess and a pathological liar. So now I guess our divorce will be in full swing and I'm sure will become very ugly. One thing I will never do is the internet dating thing. What a crock of crap that is. People lie. Maybe not everyone and I never thought my husband would stretch the truth so much to impress a woman. How sad is that?! Must be an insecurity thing. Who knows. But at least he won't be my problemn anymore. Let me get thing straight... You spent sometime in an affair banging some other dude... You wanted to take him back only so he could be your sugar daddy... And you would have stayed with him for you comfortable lifestyle... And he seems to get along with you daughter well... You know what, I would not be surprised if there is a lot more to his version of the truth than the one you are giving us here. You did him the favor by leaving. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jinxx Posted March 5, 2007 Author Share Posted March 5, 2007 You wanted to take him back only so he could be your sugar daddy... And you would have stayed with him for you comfortable lifestyle... You know what, I would not be surprised if there is a lot more to his version of the truth than the one you are giving us here. You did him the favor by leaving. Uh -- no he is in no way a sugar daddy. I am five years older than he is and make just as much income as he does. I am financially better off then he is due to the other financial circumstances. A lot of people stay in relationships that they shouldn't because of comfort, security, etc. If I'm selfish in that respect then I am selfish, so is he. He didn't want me to leave, begged me to stay. He hasn't figured it out yet that I did him a favor. I did myself a favor too. I have no reason to lie to anyone here. So assume what you want. I just think the whole thing is funny. Had my fun and I'm done. I have no intention of setting him up. At first I did but not now. Don't really give a rat's ass. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jinxx Posted March 5, 2007 Author Share Posted March 5, 2007 Well, at least he was looking for a female. Try finding your ex's picture under man looking for men : ) Puts a whole new perspective on the marriage problems. Now that would just horrible! Can't even imagine what that would be like. Link to post Share on other sites
Gunny376 Posted March 5, 2007 Share Posted March 5, 2007 When you're going through this ~ we all have our little fantasies ~ the vast majority we seldom if ever act upon! That's all this was. :p Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jinxx Posted March 6, 2007 Author Share Posted March 6, 2007 When you're going through this ~ we all have our little fantasies ~ the vast majority we seldom if ever act upon! That's all this was. :p Ha, ha -- still having fun with it even though I will not act on it, I am still "spying" on him. If he only knew.... oh well.... I do wish him the best, he does deserve better after all I have put him through. Link to post Share on other sites
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