finalcloud13 Posted March 4, 2007 Share Posted March 4, 2007 I told my ex I was gonna do NC in an e-mail, and she replied. She told me she was happy with her love life right now. She said usually her interest in someone dies down after a month - a month and a half, but exceptions are her current boyfriend and I. But then she said she realized she was using me to get over her ex, who she is back together with now, and that she's sorry. She also told me about something that I once told her, that I would always love her. She said in the e-mail that she really wants me to prove it. Needing to clarify on this before I did NC, I messaged her asking her why. Her: not tellin u to love me forever or prove to me that u will love me forever... but b4 wen we will still in a relationship i wanted u to prove that to me Me: I'm just wondering why it matters to you. If you can't like me back then there's no point to it. Her: there is.... Her: well was... Me: What is it? Her: i thot i wanted to b in a relationship where i m the one bein loved, and the person i love will always love me more than i love them Her: so that way, i kno i will always be in their heart Her: cuz if u do prove to me ... i will eventually fall in love with u. and i mean really. Her: theres no point of sayin anythin right now. i just want u to b happy, i m sry for bein selfish and jealous. u can hate me from now on Her: i just wanna say i m sry for askin so much Then I asked her honestly if she thinks there is a chance for us in the future. She could only say I don't know. So I'm not confused, but I really want to do things right at this point. If I prove to her I will always love her... she will eventually fall for me, or so she says. Now how do I do that? Just stay good friends with her and always be there for her? Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted March 5, 2007 Share Posted March 5, 2007 She's still using you. She has a boyfriend. She just wants to make sure you'll still be there in case things go wrong with him, so that's why she's saying she's "sorry" for using you...but fact is, she's still doing it. Don't play her game. Move on. Link to post Share on other sites
jusified Posted March 5, 2007 Share Posted March 5, 2007 dude, sure you love her. You don't need to prove anything. Does she love you? NO!!! Let her be and find some one that appreciate you, its that easy. Link to post Share on other sites
Carl321 Posted March 5, 2007 Share Posted March 5, 2007 No, no, no. DO NOT stay friends with her and always be there for her--that makes you the backup plan. She is just taking you for granted now. She knows how you feel. Hanging around and just being her lapdog will cause her to lose whatever respect she has left for you. You need to disappear. She is with someone else, and has no incentive to reevaluate things if she knows you will just be there waiting for her. Go NC and move on with your life. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted March 5, 2007 Share Posted March 5, 2007 Her: i thot i wanted to b in a relationship where i m the one bein loved, and the person i love will always love me more than i love them This to me says immaturity. How can you expect more from someone else that you're not willing to give yourself? I think that if she reread this, she would realize her error, whether it's an error in wanting more or an error in how she stated her wants. Talk about unreasonable expectations. Besides that strangeness, it sounds like she wanted you to show how much you cared through your actions. Many men contain their emotions, neither sharing how much they love or how much they hurt. Without the sharing of emotions, our emotional thermostats don't work. To use an example: It's like trying to take the temperature on the outside of a building with the intent to find out what the temperature is on the inside. Link to post Share on other sites
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