ibitealil Posted March 5, 2007 Share Posted March 5, 2007 Im new here and im writing cuz i really have nobody else to talk. i have this LDR with a guy. We were great when we meet and he said he loved me and he asked me to move in with him next year to the city he lives now. But, we had frequent arguments when he was away. One day after the argument he suddenly told me that hes fed up with it and he started thinking of breaking up with me and he changed his mind about me moving in with him. He also said that he s not sure if he has feelings anymore and he might dump me one day and hes saying it now cuz he doesnt want to hurt me. Then, after a couple of days talking he told me he wants a second chance. He said he cant promise that hes feelings towards me will warm up again but he still wants me and misses me. I m so confused right now. What do i do now? i love him but how can i be with a guy whos saying he doesnt love me and he might dump me one day? Can feelings really go away and come back again like this? or he still loves me and just confused about his feelings cuz of arguments? Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted March 5, 2007 Share Posted March 5, 2007 Sounds like he said some things in the heat of the moment, and upon further reflection, isn't so sure he wants to stop seeing you. But, he still has some reservations about his feelings, so he's not making any promises. Clearly, he senses that you two might not be right for each other, and yes, of course, frequent arguments are a good sign that you aren't right for each other. The key question is - how do you feel? What are these frequent arguments about? Link to post Share on other sites
Author ibitealil Posted March 5, 2007 Author Share Posted March 5, 2007 Sounds like he said some things in the heat of the moment, and upon further reflection, isn't so sure he wants to stop seeing you. But, he still has some reservations about his feelings, so he's not making any promises. Clearly, he senses that you two might not be right for each other, and yes, of course, frequent arguments are a good sign that you aren't right for each other. The key question is - how do you feel? What are these frequent arguments about? Thanks a lot for your comment. I dont want to break up with him because i still have some hope that he might still loves me. I feel that we can sort this out if we work on it. Because, to be honest most of the arguments were due to my stupid caprice when we chat on the messenger(cuz he lives in another town on weekdays)and actually they were nothing serious. Mostly me whining and acting silly in desperate of seeking constant attention from him. So now i think of controlling my stupid behaviours, cut off being on chat with him too much and give it a second chance. Anyways, i talked to him today and we are going to see each other to discuss face to face this weekend. The heat has been just cooled down. we both being quite positive to each other and hes showing interest to me as before when we were together. Now i realize it is a crucial moment. It feels like, if the argument continues(i.e, if i keep on being an idiot) we will break up, if not we might stick to each other longer. But i still wanna know if he still loves me or not? If my efforts worth it or not? I dont want to do that if its going nowhere :-( Nobody wants to be in a relationship knowing that shes gonna be dumped one day, right? i made a mistake but i want to fix it, the question is will he forgive me and get on with it or not? Link to post Share on other sites
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